Pregnancy #62

[Elisha97]

@User767676 @hazmaz thank you both! I had a sneezing fit and woke the poor girl up and she’s moving just fine now

I might ring for medical advice anyway but feel guilty about going in as I don’t want to make any other mums ill

 

[mashedbananapancakes]

5 weeks tomorrow!

can someone reassure me that they’ve had no symptoms at this stage and still gone on to have a healthy pregnancy? I’d already been in hospital with severe vomiting at this point in my first pregnancy, and beyond gagging at the smell of nursery on Monday, I haven’t even had any nausea yet!

I had absolutely nothing until about 10 weeks other than a bit of bloating. Was really braggy about it and then got hit with nausea and fatigue! that'll teach me..

 

[Bingobango]

Is it normal at only 15 weeks to basically feel dead once it's 2pm I literally feel like I can't function, my whole body just shuts down to the point I can't even be bothered to walk I have a long way to go and I am concerned I will basically be bed bound by the time I am 24 weeks
Any tips on finding some energy?

I have been like it on and off my whole pregnancy so far, 30 weeks. Theirs weeks were I can barely keep my eyes open and will sleep all day on my offs and then some weeks where I suddenly have a little energy back.

 

[sushimama]

With my first pregnancy I wasn’t certain I’d felt any movement until 23 weeks I think, had an anterior placenta

This time I was told it’s left lateral and I’m sure I felt flutters as early as 15 weeks (which sounds nuts I know ) and the flutters and movement has just continued to feel stronger since. 19 weeks today and I’m sure I felt actual taps on the outside while laying in bed this morning but I must’ve imagined that right?

There’s not really any consistent patterns or anything to it which I know is normal and fine at this stage but in a way being able to feel him so early this time has felt slightly more stressful, cause I’ll have days where I wonder and have to think back if I felt anything that day 🥲🫠

This is my first pregnancy, posterior placenta and I felt the first movement at 18w3d! It was a big flip or something because it felt like a goldfish was swimming in my belly I’m 24 weeks now and still don’t feel regular movements, mostly only when I lay down (she’s active every night around 10pm haha) but when I’m moving around I don’t really feel much. But I remember it took days after that first flip to feel her again. I also never felt any bubbles or flutters, just big kicks / flips.

 

[ASAnigel]

Same, I’m feeling really low, I am just sitting around the house. I wanna go out and do things but back and hips are so sore. I never understood why women wanted their babies out asap, I was so naive

I completely understand how you feel! I think it’s because we’re both so close to the end but somehow feels like it’s an eternity away! And all the aches and pains I’m just so fed up! I wouldn’t leave the house at all if I didn’t have a dog that needs walking, but some days I feel like even a 10 min walk is too much.
fingers crossed the next few weeks go quickly for us and the babies make a timely appearance

 

[PrincessShark]

Well done! For some reason I’m terrified to try this. I need to try but I can’t massage myself for 10 mins without giving myself the ick for some reason

Do you know what, a lot of women say it makes them feel almost nauseous when they do it, so you’re absolutely not alone!

 

[themuffinwoman]

Just having a little brain dump here, but I’m so torn on my birth preferences. We had an elective section with baby skates #1 and honestly had such a positive experience, and I recovered really well. I did feel though that I missed out on that ‘rush’ or relief moment when he was born because it was SO calm and organised and I feel like that affected my bond with him at first. I’m also scared of the recovery with an almost 2 year old in tow.

I really don’t want to be induced, and would choose another elective section over an induction, but I love the idea of a spontaneous VBAC. My only issue is that I really don’t want it to end in an emergency section, which I appreciate that you have no control over, so I feel like my only option is another ELCS.

Hi! I’m still just lurking (I say that like we’re trying to get pregnant but we’re not ) but given I had an EMCS with mini muffin and I think about what would happen with a second, thought I might add my Penny’s worth….

Your induction methods will be limited because you’ve already had a section so it’s worth speaking to the hospital about what’s possible. As I understand it different hospitals do different things, so you might be given the option of waiting for labour to come on naturally or an elective section.

I wasn’t induced and still ended up with an EMCS, the procedure itself was fine in terms of both me and baby were fine, but my recovery was rubbish and I was knackered/in shock which I think is the big difference between them. I also hate not being in control, so whilst I would do the same thing 1000 times over to have her safe and healthy, it has taken a long time and therapy for me to come to terms with it all.

I’ve said when friends ask that like you I would probably want a VBAC if I could be guaranteed a VBAC without an EMCS or an elective section.

A friend who had an EMCS had a successful VBAC 2 years later, she was told if she went overdue she could choose to have a section at any point so if the doctor gave you the ok you could just wait and see how you feel before making any decision.

Sorry for the ramble hope that makes sense, it’s on my mind too and I’m not even pregnant lol.

 

[anything at all]

I know that some people have changes to their menstrual cycle after having the covid jab, but I’ve never heard anything in relation to bleeding and pregnancy. Brown is obviously not fresh blood which means it’s unlikely to be anything concerning but I’d give your maternity services a call for reassurance and just keep an eye out for if anything changes xx

I think the evidence of bleeding is limited to one study (proving a very small amount of women had bleeding/interrupted menstrual cycles) and anecdotal on the internet…
I wouldn’t just immediately put it down to that but remember there are lots of things that can irritate the cervix too so may well be nothing - I always think best to be checked anyway

My experience with calling maternity services here for anything in my first pregnancy felt like they were uninterested until after 25 weeks 🥲

I guess it could be down to having quite a busy week, lots of walking and with the placenta being low and covering my cervix maybe that’s something to do with it too, I was told to not have sex or put anything inside (not that I’ve felt like doing that anyway) because it could cause irritation.

I’ll take it easy today and see how it is tomorrow, hopefully cleared up then too. My husband said it’s probably nothing and not too worry but it is easier said than done isn’t it 🫠

 

[anotheronebitesthedust.1]

Does anyone else get a bit stressed about their diet? I’ve never had a particularly healthy diet - partly down to laziness on my part, but I feel like I start of the day well eating non sugary cereal, a normal lunch with fruit and lots of water and then it’s all down hill n I’m eating family size chocolate bars and cans of coke now I’m starting to get worried she’s not getting enough nutrients and I’m harming her

I was like that and she came out 7 9lb and I only gained half a stone

 

[Greencatfysh]

Im in exactly the same situation, 10 weeks, 4th baby and I’ve bled on and off since 6 weeks. I’ve never had this before either, also had a past MC and I’m nauseous which I’ve never had before! I’ve got 3 boys. Hope you’re doing ok, it’s scary to bleed, especially after MC and if you’ve never had this before xx

I’m sure everything will be ok for both of you, 4th babies! Wow! My only advice would be to keep going in to see midwives whenever you are worried.
@Jaybob totally missed your first comment - how is your partner taking it all now? Xx
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This is a safe place right? I’ve been feeling so down this week. Doesn’t help I turned 30 and I’m 33 weeks pregnant so not exactly ideal but 3 people have had their babies this week and it’s so stupid but I just want mine now!

Knowing I’ve possibly got another 7+ weeks is just killing me off and I’m getting absolutely 0 support from family friends etc 🥲

Happy birthday I’m 36 weeks so feel your pain, it’s a long slog and I feel like I’ve totally lost my body, social life, energy to work, etc. it’s so hard. Sorry you aren’t getting enough support. Have you joined any local groups or antenatal classes? I’ve found the small group of women I’ve met through mine super helpful already!

 

[AL10]

Can’t believe I’m 31 weeks going so slow but fast at the same time!

Not gonna lie I’m starting to get scared of birth now

 

[littlepup]

Me too. Do we have to do it? I know no one has to do anything but won't it come out anyway after birth? My midwife hasn't spoken to me about it and I'm not quite sure I understand it. I plan on breastfeeding but the thought of massaging my own boobs like this makes me feel weird.

The idea is that you only get colostrum before baby arrives, it’ll go to milk soon post delivery, so it’s a limited supply after and it’s the best stuff (even if you don’t intend to continue with the breast). Also, if you had any recovery issues or can’t get a latch you or someone else could give it to baby instead of formula, gives you a bit of time.

I couldn’t do it first time. Just couldn’t get my head around it. It would have made things a lot easier when I struggled to establish breastfeeding and get my milk to come in, given me a buffer rather than desperately trying to pump. I’d recommend trying but if you can’t buy it’s not make or break, I still breast fed eventually.

I did it this time, then forgot to take it to the hospital I gave it after the first vaccine though and may be coincidence but they settled straight after despite being fussy for ages before hand.

 

[PrincessShark]

Yep.. I’m 35 weeks now and had all manner of really debilitating issues this week

Awful isn’t it
I regret being so full of it last shift and saying how well I feel and how I don’t even feel pregnant….lol.

bowling ball/pelvis comes to mind
Hope you’re ok! We’re coming up to that final stretch

 

[sushimama]

I guess I'm the only one but I've literally told the name to everyone who asked so far. I'm surprised because I've not received one bad comment yet, but I also put a disclaimer it was my husband's grandmother's name so I guess no one can be too disrespectful. I learned during this pregnancy that I'm a huge over-sharer anyways and I just tell everyone everything. But people around me all seem to be very normal and chill and respectful which makes it easier.

 

[Amylaauren]

@Amylaauren and @Greencatfysh Also joining the club. I'm 32 weeks and I'm not sleeping, feeling uncomfortable and to top it off I think I'm coming down with something. I haven't felt myself the whole pregnancy either.

Not too long left for any of us although does feel like ages.

Also, happy birthday @Amylaauren!

Thank you!! Hope you feel better soon, I had an awful cold the other week and there isn’t much you can take either
I’ve started my raspberry leaf tea (god knows if it will help but will try anything) and going to start dates from 37 weeks! I will not be overdue

 

[Greencatfysh]

I definitely feel like it's a bit early at the minute with only being 14 weeks and I don't think I would convinced they were right if I did it this early so seems a bit pointless I think I will do it at 16 weeks though.
I want to be organised and know what I can buy etc and I'm just being impatient. I've waited so so long for these moments that I just get too excited

We found out privately at 17 weeks and then backed up what they’d said at the 20 week scan. I didn’t want to buy anything before that in case I jinxed it but also wanted to buy some cute girlie things as well as neutrals. I could never go through without knowing, I’m too much of a control freak!

 

[Super_Berry]

I think I’m averse to it because I’m a nurse and associate hospital with being unwell. I’m quite a private person anyway and to feel vulnerable and bleeding and all the rest I just think I don’t really want ANYONE around me I never do when I’m feeling unwell at all.
So if all goes well and we are home fairly quickly I just want visitors to come to the house when I feel a bit more in control of my surroundings and a bit more comfortable. That’s all assuming we are home quickly, any longer then obviously I’ll re evaluate.

I feel the same. The idea of my parents and in-laws around while I'm wearing my disposable pants and pads and trying to get a handle on breast feeding just makes me feel sick I want to be left alone until I start to feel a bit better.

 

[Darlingbaby]

I've actually found a nice non alcoholic drink... they've improved since I was last pregnant in 2020....

Aldi pink greysons non alcoholic gin.. actually tastes similar to real gin.

Still can't find a nice non alcoholic wine.. nosecco still vile

 

[PrincessShark]

I can only speak for the trust I work at, we have some single bed rooms but we tend to use them if someone’s baby has gone to nicu, twins, if the woman is poorly or is under the bereavement team for previous loss, sometimes partners stay but they cannot leave the room after visiting hours. On the bays, ours have 2 beds, the window side tends to go to women who have had csections, so they can put their belongings on the window and not be having to bend down etc.
if you have a low risk birth on the birth centre then you stay in that room until discharge, on labour & delivery you transfer to postnatal ward after. Our labour rooms are quite nice though.
I was very lucky having Baby Shark, shared bay postnatal, but the other bed was empty the whole time only annoying thing was having to leave baby in the bay and walk halfway down the corridor for the toilet.

 

[Saltfish84]

I’d actually like my in laws to show more interest. They don’t live near by and visit or text rarely. The kids have to fit around their dog!!

Suppose it’s better than over bearing. But I wouldn’t tolerate that, but a bit of interest would be nice.