At the moment the plan is we’ll be going to the in-laws in the morning they live down the road from us, and then to my parents for lunch and then come home! But all depends when baby is actually born and how I’m feeling as I’m due the 7th December
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Downed the glucose drink in the end as couldn't bear the taste. Took me back to the glory days of Birmingham nightclubs watching drag shows and downing pints 🥹
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I’m having a fake Christmas Day on the 2nd and then the rest of the month is ours. We’re not going anywhere unless we want to. I’d suggest doing something similar.For those due before Christmas, what's your take on what to do for the festivities? We usually have a really busy Christmas of driving to my parents for dinner and then driving straight to my OH parents for tea and we are usually out of the house from 12pm-9/10pm. Our baby is still going to be so young at this point so I don't particularly want to drag them out all day and it's also the issue of being in other people's houses when baby needs to nap (where will they sleep?) And still navigating feeds and nappy changing. I feel like I'm going to be so stressed out so I suggested us having people come to us instead (we have a very small family) but already my parents are saying for us to go to them, even after I've said we'll host at mine. I think I would just feel so much more comfortable at my own home where I can put baby down safely for a nap and pop into another room to feed and nappy change etc but I'm being made to feel like I'm being awkward and unreasonable
My first baby was born at end of September and that year we woke up at home, then went to my in laws and then went to my parents in the afternoon and stayed the night. It was fine but didn’t feel like we got much time as a family just us and had to bring so much stuff for a 12 week old baby so it wasn’t the most relaxing. I’d have probably just stayed home looking back and said if anyone wanted to see us/the baby they were welcome to drop past. Babies second Christmas my parents came past in the morning to see her and give her gifts and then we went to my in laws for the afternoon and again stayed the evening so we could both have a wine with dinner, again it was fine. Baby was like 1.5 that year so still didn’t understand xmas. This year I’ll be heavily pregnant so undecided what To do. Just going to see how I feel nearer the time. And next year once we have 2 kids I’m defo planning staying at home and my eldest will be 3.5 so I’m guessing will be more into it and probably want to stay home to get to play with her new stuff but again will just see nearer the time
I find Christmas very stressful, my parents are divorced and take it very personally, my OH wants to spend Christmas with his family (I love my family to pieces but tbh I love Christmas at their house, it’s so low key and unstressful). My in laws also help us a lot with childcare/house stuff/dog walking, whereas my family (half of whom live closer than my in laws) rock up for the fun stuff and then don’t really bother unless it suits them, so I sort of feel my in laws deserve Christmas because they help us with all the little boring stuff all year round?
im not that fussed about it just being us either way,the more the merrier especially at Christmas imo. Last year we stayed at home (which was great) but tried to split the day between all 3 parents which was a disaster, so this year I think I’ll see my mum on Xmas eve, in laws xmas day, dad on Boxing Day, or something similar, so they get a day each on or around Christmas but at our house so we don’t have to traipse around with a 2.5 year old and 8 week old. Either way, someone is bound to get offended!
im not that fussed about it just being us either way,the more the merrier especially at Christmas imo. Last year we stayed at home (which was great) but tried to split the day between all 3 parents which was a disaster, so this year I think I’ll see my mum on Xmas eve, in laws xmas day, dad on Boxing Day, or something similar, so they get a day each on or around Christmas but at our house so we don’t have to traipse around with a 2.5 year old and 8 week old. Either way, someone is bound to get offended!
You do have to do what’s best for you and baby but for those who are going to someone else’s house on Christmas Day - take the pram if you can and they can sleep in there at someone’s house in case that’s a worry.
also, if you’re having a December baby I’d very much avoid making solid plans until baby is here as you won’t really know how you’re feeling. A plan that seems great now, might be a terrible idea once you’re in the thick of it. Equally, everything much be much smoother than you’d imagine and you can go out or do things you weren’t expecting! Defo a year you have a great excuse to play it by ear
last year we stayed at home Christmas morning/lunch time, had a lovely chilled day the three of us (four with the dog). Then popped to my in laws half an hour away for a cup of tea and cake / fizz for a couple of hours, then came home. We didn’t see my family as they are 300 miles away and I wasn’t hosting them and they don’t travel. There’s no way I was carting a newborn around on Christmas Day. This year we will be staying at my in laws the whole of Christmas week, which will be nice. They are lovely and have a big house for Toddler NFJ to run around.
Last Christmas we spent the morning in our own house before going to my parents for Christmas dinner and stayed there until 7pm, came home got cosy and watched movies (baby was 3 months old then) then we had to go to the in laws for a week from the 27th, they live in Ireland, I hated that, would definitely not recommend 
This Christmas baby will be 15 months and I’ll be heavily pregnant so we’re going to my parents again and coming back to ours in the evening (probably earlier this year for her bedtime) definitely not going to the in laws this year
When both babies are older I think it’ll probably change and we’ll do Christmas at ours but for now I’m enjoying not having to make a dinner
This Christmas baby will be 15 months and I’ll be heavily pregnant so we’re going to my parents again and coming back to ours in the evening (probably earlier this year for her bedtime) definitely not going to the in laws this year
When both babies are older I think it’ll probably change and we’ll do Christmas at ours but for now I’m enjoying not having to make a dinner
Agreed - it's so hard to know what you will/won't feel up to until they're here, and you never know how baby's going to be and if you'll have any physical/mental health issues that will affect what you'll choose to do. It's also worth bearing in mind that it's recommended for newborns to spend no longer than 30 minutes in a car seat (due to being more upright making breathing harder) so if you're travelling elsewhere you'd have to stop very regularly which could add stress to your day (plus baby might not enjoy travelling or want regular feeds/changes anyway). I think in our first few weeks after getting home from hospital I only left the house for short walks or to take him to medical appointments - everyone else came to us because the thought of trying to pack up and get out, and then comfort a tiny baby away from home, was too overwhelming. Once I started taking him to visit people I realised it was fine, but it's a bit of a mental hurdle to get over, so don't put pressure on yourself, especially if you've got the added chaos of Christmas thrown in. Baby bandit will be 7 and a half months at Christmas and we're still not sure what we're doing yet - we've been invited to stay with in-laws 3 hours away but actually we sort of like the idea of baby having his first Christmas at home with us so there's also the sentimental aspect to take into account! But definitely do what's right for you/baby despite what other people expect of you
On a separate note, I’ve resigned myself to the fact my work aren’t going to offer any enhanced pay, despite my (clearly not very) persuasive arguments. Frustrating given I left a job with 6 months full pay, amongst other benefits, for this job which had a number of better development opportunities that also haven’t materialised, but hey ho. Does anyone know how tax/NI works with stat maternity pay? Or how I can calculate what my realistic take home will be?
I just planned to wear my maternity leggings home as I knew they'd be comfortable regardless of how I gave birth, and that's what I ended up doing - however, I'd been in hospital a week by that point and spent the first few days in pyjama bottoms so I can't say for certain I wouldn't have worn them home if we'd left sooner, and I definitely wore pjs and slippers to traipse down to the neonatal unit at 6am for baby bandit's antibiotics a few timesHospital bag question again
What are you all wearing yourselves coming home? My mother is telling me to get Harlem pantsI honestly just planned on pjs
I also took a couple of baggy t-shirts and a baggy jumper so that I'd be comfortable with my leggings. Stick to soft, baggy/stretchy fabrics and you'll be fine 
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I think it's taxed at your standard rate but can't remember and can't find my payslip right now as baby bandit is sleeping on me
but don't forget you can apply for child benefit as well which isn't taxed, although it's only £96 a month (for me anyway, I can't remember if it's means assessed) so isn't a huge amount, but a nice add-on.Glucose test was absolutely fine. I was surprised how dramatic some people have been about it 
I remember reading on mumsnet that the people who tend to feel sick or unwell are those who have GD.Glucose test was absolutely fine. I was surprised how dramatic some people have been about it
Just looking at what I got when I was off with my son, you'll be taxed/NI at your standard rate. I did have an adjustment go through but that wasn't even at the end of the tax year, so no idea what that was about
Not sure how you can calculate it, maybe check the HRMC website to see if they have a wee calculator?That’s interesting. I guess I’ll find out soon!
Is there any fact surrounding this or medical backing? I felt a little nauseous after drinking it. Just assumed if you gave anyone with an empty stomach who hadn't drank anything for 14 hours a glucose filled drink they'd feel a bit nauseous. Now I'm worried haha
Not that I know of, purely anecdotal from a few MN threads!
I'm taking it with a 5 gallon bucket of salt then
hoping it's negative although the odds aren't in my favour 
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