First of all congrats! Yes it's absolutely normal to feel overwhelmed, I'm 36+ 4 with my second and had massive anxiety last night about how life and the family dynamic will change once the new arrival is here! The one thing I will say is it is totally one million percent worth the upheaval and change in your life, becoming a mammy was the best thing ever happened to me. Good luck for the weeks ahead - it's so exciting! X
My husbands the opposite and it’s a pain! He’s been “educating” himself. I’m 9 weeks and finding it hard. Which is making it hard for me to be excited. I mainly feel deflated and fed up. Every time I tell him how bad I feel and how fed up I am I get a message or told some spiel about the current stage I’m atOne of my close work friends is male and himself and my boyfriend just don’t GET IT.. I’m exhausted at 6 weeks, I do four 12 hour shifts in a row on my feet and the two dumb fucks just don’t understand the changes even so early (it’s our first, I hardly understand it myself) I’m off Saturday and heat wave or not, I plan on sleeping for the day
I don't think there is any actual evidence that they do - it is more down to genetics and the elasticity of your skin, how much weight you gain. No harm in trying though! I just keep mine moisturised with normal moisturiser and never got any stretch marks in my 3 pregnancies x
For pregnancy I liked the modern midwife book, I didn’t really feel like a lot of the hypnobirthing type stuff was for me, but the science was so informative and the breathing tips were actually quite helpful in the end! In terms of baby books, honestly there’s not many I’d recommend - I read a few but unfortunately the baby didn’t so In theory they were great but in practice they were quite unhelpful. I did an online antenatal class that was useful though, so would recommend something like that! (I can’t remember the name of mine sorry but they do a free baby care one which was also good!)I felt my first flutters today
Does anyone have any books/reading recommendations? I'm feeling like I'm very unprepared and almost at the halfway mark
I had a lot of "oh, another?" Or "oh was it planned?"
I don't think it should be asked at any point as it's none of their businessThe rise in abortions has gone up massively due to the cost of living crisis, sadly I’m not surprised people are asking if a third was planned
I understand 100%Can I just say… it’s bloody hot.
20 week scan tomorrow for the twins.Trying to push it out my mind so I don’t worry but it’s starting to get to me that if I don’t think about it, there’ll be something wrong. (I’ve had a lot of things go wrong in my life and feel like I'm always dwelling on what could go wrong because good stuff like this doesn’t happen to me).
up until my 12 week scan I was constantly panicking and it didn't help that I had spotting too. I was convinced that something bad would happen. The 12 week scan did reassure me a bit more and I did start to relax a bit but now I'm in the 2nd trimester all my pregnancy symptoms are gone and I have loads of energy and feel amazing but I still have in the back of my mind about something not being right. I've only properly felt the baby move twice and the other day it was quite intense and lasted for a few minutes but I haven't really felt them since so I definitely worry. Got my 20 week scan in two weeks and I'm a mixture of excited and nervous. Looking forward to seeing the baby again and making sure everything is okay. I can’t believe he still hasn’t messaged you, you sound incredibly strong and I think you’ll have a much calmer labour with your mum instead! Also, and I hope I don’t come across as insensitive, but I snorted slightly when he said he has a lot going for him
With my first I was sick 10/11 times a day, it was awful and I always thought people with nausea were complaining unnecessarily (sounds harsh but I felt shit allll day for 17/18 weeks haha), this time I’ve been sick 1/2 times a day maximum and felt nauseous 24/7 and it was so much worse. The only relief I’ve had is when I’m actually sick so I prayed I’d start throwing up for the relief of it! Luckily only lasted until 12 weeks this time but it shouldn’t be underestimated how awful it can be! Lesson learnt!!!
If ever there was a time when you shouldn’t worry about being the biggest you’ve been it’s when you’re pregnant with twins!! I think that’s a perfectly valid reason (not that we need reasons to be different sizes throughout our lives but you know what I mean!)
Ugh people who touch someone’s bump need to get in the bin. I hate it!! The other thing that wound me up no end was near my due date everyone asking and messaging ‘any sign yet?’. Another positive of having an elective section this time around for me is I won’t be getting any messages or comments like thatI've been told I need a full bladder for my 20 week scan? Would be nice if I didn't because I find it so uncomfortable
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Does anyone have an humidifier? I'm considering getting one because every night I'm so congested and it's affecting my sleep quite a lot. I've also heard they are good for newborns?
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Also, a mini rant but being first time pregnant I always used to wonder why pregnant ladies got annoyed when people commented on their bumps and now I totally get it! I still just look bloated but family are saying "ooooh you have a bump now!" And stuff like that and one went to touch me and I flinched so she stopped herself but it's made me feel so awkward and a bit cringe
Even if you could be sure of when you ovulated, you don't really know when you conceived - eggs can survive for 48ish hours once ovulation occurs, and sperm can survive for up to a week. It usually takes 5 days to make a blastocyst embryo, then another 1-2 days for implantation to begin. It's really hard to be specific in terms of dates this early. The measurements are also TINY so 1mm out here or there can put you backwards or forwards a few days x
Ah I’m sorry your experience wasn’t the best. I know it’s easier said than done to relax, but it’s so positive you saw baby moving and the heart rate was good. Hopefully they’ll get you booked in for your second one shortly and it will be betterHad first scan today, thought I was 11 + 6 but I'm actually 10 + 5
Feel like I'm right back in the high worry zone with nothing to show for it. Having a pity party with Greggs gingerbread in my office 🥲
I’d definitely ask for a picture next time though if they don’t offer!
Thanks, I really needed that and need to remember! Currently sitting paddling my swollen feet in the pool, wearing my maternity swimming costume
