Absolutely wait until the contract - you do not have to tell them until 15 weeks before your due date. And there would be discrimination issues if you chose to tell them about your pregnancy & then suddenly the promotion was no more - however unless there is something in writing, it wouldn't hold up. Chase about the contract, get it signed, then tell them would be my procedure.
I sleep much better now she’s on the outside of me than I did when she was inside - don’t know if that gives you some hope!Congratulations @Spencerskates
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I didn't sleep one wink last nightI'd had my whooping cough vaccination so between my arm being dead, both nostrils being blocked all night, my head banging from the stuffiness and having to get up to pee every two hours I am absolutely dreading going to work today. Makes me also realise just how hard it is going to be with a newborn being up all night
I was hoping to get all my sleeping in during the next five months but my body is having other ideas
the fact that my other half was snoring his head off next to me all night didn't help either
Please don’t worry about weight gain at this point, 1st trimester is all about survival!! It will probably slow down when you feel better and become more active at 12 weeks or so
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It sounds like you have a support network in your family, and honestly it doesn’t seem like he’s bringing much to the table. The fact you’re not living together speaks volumes from a responsibility point of view and it sounds like he’s not going to change his ways. Carry on without him, love. Bring up that child as a single parent as you want and don’t consider him being there. It’s scary, I’m sure, but you cannot rely on someone who’s just not there. However, you do need to talk to him and tell him how it’s going to be. You don’t need the stress nearer the end of your pregnancy. Change the locks, get that baby’s room set up and enjoy the next few weeks without him being there.
No, BUT you CAN do this! A friend went through it alone (well she split from the dad after baby was about 3 months) and tbh she just said she was doing it all anyway (her mum was her birthing partner). You will absolutely find your rhythm with baby and it’ll never be easy peasy but that’s not what parenting is, but you will surprise yourself. Do you have any support from parents or tight friends or family?
This is why we’re all here to vent to each other and go through it all together!I honestly don’t know how people do this with other children. I’m only 7 weeks, I have awful nausea to the point of throwing out any food that I think of that makes me feel sick. I have vertigo. I feel like a bag of shit. I have a sore throat. My mum isn’t here anymore so I feel like there’s no one I can speak to about how I’m feelingmy husband tries his best but I feel very alone and anxious that I’ll feel like this the whole pregnancy
please don’t feel alone
It went well, luckily both my husband and I are doctors so we weren’t going in to it completely blind - although he hasn’t delivered a baby since he was training god knows how many years ago but I was more stressed about finding a baby sitter for our toddler so it worked out in the end!
Really sorry to hear that you've been having such a hard time with your partner. If I could give any advice on what you have said is to plan things without him, can you have a family member or friend as your birthing partner? It sounds like he has been a abusive towards you, you definitely don't deserve to be called names or sworn at when you are talking about your babys wellbeing.Thanks everyone for your replies! I’ve tried speaking to him calmly about it loads and he still reacts the same, starts swearing, calling me names etc. still not heard off him, but he’s posting selfies of himself online, which if I do, I’m looking for male attentionbut obviously has time for that and no time to check in on me and baby. I just feel like shit, I could give birth any day now and he’s just left me on my own managing everything.
i don’t think I can carry on like this or go back, I just feel so down and it should be a happy time with it being my last pregnancy and his first and it’s just not. I’m stressing about getting the house ready and everything else while he’s sat smoking it up at his mums.
What a cow! At least you'll be finished up soon and not have to deal with that nonsenseSection date booked for 29th, Mat leave brought forward to 22nd
stupidly mentioned to my boss who has been a dick all of the way through that I’ve got a section booked and the first thing she said to me this morning was a sarcastic comment about being ‘too posh to push’
still very early days as I’m only around the 5-6 week mark but just looking for any tips/tricks on safe weight loss during pregnancy? I’m 16 stone as is, have some bad eating habits although a lot of my weight was due to alcohol… I have a very active job as a nursing assistant, so I’m on my feet all day as is and starting to feel tired already as I’ve stopped coffee and energy drinks from the day I found out.. would be very greatful for some advice.. yes I’ve talked to my doctor but it’s nice to talk to other mamas and to be’s 
Congrats, what a relief! I've bought 1 pack of sleepsuits from NextGot my letter yesterday to confirm no high chance of Edwards etc, starting to feel very real nowfellow early second trimester folks... have you started buying yet? All we've bought is a duckie bath robe from M&S
Part of me wants to buy more, and I know my family are desperate to buy bits, but my natural anxiety is stopping me. I'm thinking of asking my partner if he wants to go baby shopping on Saturday and hope that'll help with my stupid anxiety.
just a vicious circle