Pregnancy #48

[Gossipgirl79]

After feeling so confident and prepared for my section tomorrow I’m now really doubting myself and my choice

I’ve spent ages reading people’s recovery stories and I’m scared I’ve made the wrong decision.

I had an emergency section on a Wednesday, got out Friday…was hoovering and sorting washing on the Monday! I hope you don’t have to do that, but I felt able and wanted to, and had an amazing recovery. Would 100% have another section for my next baby.

 

[Hellomynameis]

Congratulations!

I am here for a world weary pregnancy moan. So very tired and achey at 31 + 1. Husband has been away, he got back Tuesday but then our toddler was sick Tuesday night so was off nursery yesterday. I really wish I could just have a day or so to catch up on sleep and to feel like me again. I have my hair booked for the end of may along with A much needed pedicure (can’t see my toes!)

On top of that people keep saying ‘you’re PREGNANT‘ and looking surprised, I’m 7 months along for gods sake, surely I am not that fat!

Moan away! I feel like I have moaned this entire pregnancy also second time mum! It's been a lot harder. I have also been told by bump is "huge" and "you don't look that far along!" In the same day this week, it's so annoying !!!

 

[Daydream_Believer]

I’m working up until 37 weeks. Wish I could finish earlier as I’ve been doing my own job and someone else’s since February, thought that would be finishing in the next 2 weeks but told last week it would be continuing basically until I finish. Im so annoyed I’m seriously considering going off sick for a few weeks as there’s many days I’m in tears with the workload. Don’t want to use up mat leave by finishing early and then missing out on baby when I have to go back early next year.

 

[elderflowerrose]

Congratulations @Lazza_j

Blimey, this pregnancy plus toddler lark is tough going. How have we evolved to do this?? I feel a bit guilty as two and a half year old is having too much screen time. He is doing other things as well, but it seems to take me forever to get moving in the morning! Also, he’s waking at 5. Sigh.

 

[scot_nursey003]

Thanks everyone for your advice. I did end up telling one friend last week as @fudgebox mentioned, I cannot keep a secret for the life of me and am a terrible liar, and she started quizzing me on where in my cycle I was couldn’t think fast enough on the spot. Thanks @WhatABore, that is very true indeed and a good way of looking at it

 

[nefariousnellie]

@anonymous_flower congratulations! I hope you're back with your little girl very soon and you're both home before you know it

I was convinced from day 1 I was having a boy, then at 20 weeks she was a girl! I was completely shocked and admittedly felt a bit weird at first, not disappointed but it did take me a couple of days to get my head around it.

 

[fudgebox]

I just did my Facebook announcement how nerve wracking is it!!!! Actually feel sick

 

[fudgebox]

Bit of a rant so feel free to scroll past.

We told our closest family and friends recently and now they are taking it upon themselves to tell other people, people who I don't even know. I'm so upset because I just wanted to tell my close circle and I didn't want everyone bloody knowing. I feel like it's my business who I want to share my news with and no one else's

I feel you, my in laws have literally told half the town and I haven’t even told my brothers and grandma yet only my parents who haven’t told a soul!

 

[Greencatfysh]

I’m almost 5 weeks too! Random cramps here too, it’s normal!

Thanks for all the reassurance. It’s on and off but quite bad when i wake up and much better when I take paracetamol. Have you had any contact with midwife service yet? I filled in a form for mine and am waiting. It feels very weird just to have to wait around for anyone to officially confirm I’m pregnant

 

[BRAEMAY91]

Joining on got a positive test two days ago and letting it sink in.
clearblue states 1-2 weeks but the Flo app says 7weeks? That parts confusing. Quite excited for what’s to come x

 

[ScoutFinch]

Hi all. Long time lurker here, but can finally comment as I am now pregnant! I got my BFP on Tuesday. I believe I am 4 weeks. First time mum to be and I’m SCARED. Is it normal to feel this overwhelmed already? I keep dwelling on how the course of my life has just changed in an instant and it’ll never be the same again. I don’t think I was prepared for how quickly it happened, we had only been trying three cycles. I feel guilty for feeling anxious when I know most people would kill to conceive in three months. Does anyone else feel the same?

Congratulations! I think it’s totally normal to feel overwhelmed. I’m having an IVF baby and I still thought omg what have we done when I found out

 

[Greencatfysh]

I’m very early (almost 5 weeks) and got what feels like quite mild period pains/cramps. Feeling paranoid and hate that you just have to wait around and see whether it’s anything. So difficult

 

[justonemorepage]

Congratulations @Spencerskates

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I didn't sleep one wink last night I'd had my whooping cough vaccination so between my arm being dead, both nostrils being blocked all night, my head banging from the stuffiness and having to get up to pee every two hours I am absolutely dreading going to work today. Makes me also realise just how hard it is going to be with a newborn being up all night I was hoping to get all my sleeping in during the next five months but my body is having other ideas the fact that my other half was snoring his head off next to me all night didn't help either

 

[Wild_she]

Oh love that sounds so so tough - can you talk to any friends/family about this and get their support in real life? I’m going to be brutally honest and say I think you’ll actually find it easier in a way without him, a new baby throws a whirlwind into any relationship, but in one where he cannot be relied upon anyway, and is already unpredictable and rash, it would be easier without having another (man)baby to try and take care of! You don’t need the stress and worry of money/him smoking around the baby and getting angry at you when you call out his (frankly atrocious) behaviour, let alone owing money to drug dealers. It’s an incredibly shitty situation and I really really feel for you. In terms of labour, you’re vulnerable at that point, you want people you can depend on and trust, and if that’s not him then he shouldn’t be there. You don’t have to have him there if he’s behaving appallingly xxx

Ps do you have a Moses basket or anything to delay putting the crib up? Mine didn’t sleep in her big crib until she was 6 months so you can live without it while you sort everything else out!

my mum and cousin know what I’m going through and just think I need rid of him, but it’s so hard when you’re due a baby with someone and hope they’ll be a good parent, but he just isn’t showing we’re his priorities at the moment by doing things like spending every penny he has on weed. It’s a worry too because he puts it above paying the place he works for his space quite a bit and things like rent at his mums because he’s either paying dealers off a bit to get more weed. I bought nappies in for a whole month too and he didn’t even offer to help towards that so it just kind of feels like he’ll do this when the baby is here and expect me to cover it all and pay me back later or something after he’s bought his weed/paid his dealer. It’s more the way he behaves towards me whenever I try to talk to him about/ask him to cut down and stop it makes me feel like I’m being unreasonable and crazy because he acts like I am being. I just can’t believe it seems that he’s picked weed over me and his daughter and is making out to everyone I’m stopping him, what isn’t the case. I just feel dead lonely because you’d like to think in the last few weeks of pregnancy your partner would be there for you, making sure you’re not stressing about things, but instead I’m being ignored and blanked because of a plant

it’s a snuz pod I’ve got for her that needs building. My dad said he’ll come round and do it, but it should really be done by now tbh but because he left me the night before the carpets were due to be cleaned I’ve put it off until my neice can come on Wednesday and help me lift the boxes etc for them to be able to clean the carpets and then I’ll wack it up as I want everything fresh for her xx

 

[CallMeHollywood]

The rise in abortions has gone up massively due to the cost of living crisis, sadly I’m not surprised people are asking if a third was planned

 

[emisixo]

I know this won’t be the case for everyone but I stopped weighing myself at about 20 weeks as I couldn’t face it anymore - I just enjoyed the pregnancy. I weighed myself about 2 weeks after the baby arrived and the gain was half a pound. Beating yourself up over your weight during pregnancy just isn’t worth it - deal with it when the baby comes out, don’t add extra pressure to yourself at this time.

This!
I’ve got big issues with the scales and a history of disordered eating. With me having twins, I’ve read how much more weight I’m likely to gain and I’ve decided I just can’t face the number on the scales anymore as I’ve got enough to worry about. If the doc or midwife wants to weigh me I’m going to ask if they can be discreet and not tell me because it really affects my mental health. I’d rather just focus on eating as healthily as possible, getting my steps in and swimming twice a week. I’ll leave the rest up to nature!

 

[Heyguysswipeup]

Hi everyone I’m new here! Found out last week I’m expecting and I’m over the moon still very early days as I’m only around the 5-6 week mark but just looking for any tips/tricks on safe weight loss during pregnancy? I’m 16 stone as is, have some bad eating habits although a lot of my weight was due to alcohol… I have a very active job as a nursing assistant, so I’m on my feet all day as is and starting to feel tired already as I’ve stopped coffee and energy drinks from the day I found out.. would be very greatful for some advice.. yes I’ve talked to my doctor but it’s nice to talk to other mamas and to be’s

Congratulations!! I’m sure everyone would agree that right now isn’t the right time to be actively trying to lose weight, you are growing a human after all! It sounds like now that you’ll be cutting the alcohol out that that will be helping things as you have a very active job too so that’s great! First trimester is hard as it can affect eating habits, I could only manage beige foods!! But when you feel up to it just make sure to prioritise a range of nutritionally dense foods (foods in their most natural form and not processe) and that will not only help you feel good but also help with the pregnancy. Smoothies are my go to as you can put so much in there without it making you feel sick instead of eating the foods individually Always ask away here, it’s a lovely supportive thread

 

[hazmaz]

Got my letter yesterday to confirm no high chance of Edwards etc, starting to feel very real now fellow early second trimester folks... have you started buying yet? All we've bought is a duckie bath robe from M&S

I’ve been buying loads on Vinted, it’s great and some really nice pieces I’ve picked up which retail waaaay over £20 I’ve got for £2.50!!!

 

[Albert_Chris]

I'm terrible at reading nonfiction but I have been really enjoying the podcast "Is Is Normal?" with Jessie Ware.

IS IT NORMAL?

www.isitnormalpodcast.com

 

[freddofrog]

silly question really but anybody had a 'gut' feeling from the beginning that the baby was definitely a boy/girl? this baby was a big shock but as soon as i saw that positive test I've only been able to see a boy! i am trying to also vision a girl so if i'm wrong i'm not 'disappointed' but even the few people i've told (not 12wks yet) have also told me they think it's a boy.

am i just odd ladies help me out