Pregnancy #45

[Spencerskates]

Do we all work together? I’m also a teacher and feel so let down with how work have treated me!

 

[WeepingCassandra]

Had the best nights sleep ever but also had a nightmare about having to go to hospital I’m now second guessing every pain and feeling I’ve got again! I’m sure it’ll pass in a few days when this infection really gets gone but I’m super paranoid now and I think OH is too as he had a bad nights sleep as - he normally sleeps really well

 

[Savewaterdrinkgin]

it’s unbelievable pregnancy discrimination still exists like we’re in the 60s or something.
Parficularly as all my colleagues and my boss are mums themselves. I know if I tried to make a claim against them i wouldn’t get far because everyone licks my bosses arse and will protect her sometimes it’s easier admitting defeat for a stress free life! I’m considering being signed off with stress until mat leave or just quitting altogether.

 

[LucysOpenCupboard]

Hardly mumsnett-y. People are giving out unsafe advice as it is regarding reduced movements. No shame to any first time mums, but you shouldn't be taking advice on a forum as gospel, it's what triage is for.

You don't pretend to be a midwife on a pregnancy thread - it's sick. Especially when you've previously said what your supposed job is.

 

[Hotel_breakfast]

22 weeks tomorrow and already feeling fed up of being pregnant! I'm full of a cold, proper blocked nose and can't take anything decent. My hips are aching really badly and then the rest of my body and shoulders has been aching too and I've got heartburn as well. Wish I was one of these women who just breezes through pregnancy and loves every minute but nope! I had PGP in my last pregnancy so hoping I don't get that again but it's looking likely. Only 17 more weeks to go just needed a rant!

 

[Tifastrife]

I’ve had carpal tunnel for a while now too! Thought it was such a random symptom but can’t believe how common it is!

I really wish I could turn my emotions off, the hormones must be playing havoc. I’ve cried for two days about my job situation. I just feel tossed aside after ten years of service because I dared get pregnant. I’ve spent the last couple years moaning about the place and wondering if I actually enjoyed it but now I know I might not ever go back as it doesn't sound like they are willing to accommodate me dropping hours after having my child I feel so weird. Maybe it’s because I’ve not said a proper goodbye, I was signed off. Or because I’m not leaving on my terms but I can’t stop crying and obsessing over it and I wish I could fucking stop I’m sure it’s not good for baby haha.

 

[Ro98]

I really don’t understand why people are in such a rush to meet babies. I think it’s a status thing so they can boast on Facebook to their friends ‘oh yes I held her THE MINUTE SHE WAS BORN!!’ I’m never interested in newborn babies, they don’t exactly do much

100%! I had a friend say she “wasn’t waiting a week” to meet him and wants to meet him as soon as we’re home No fucking chance
I plan on waiting a day/2 before telling friends & some family that he’s arrived just so I’m not bombarded with calls / requests to visit.

I can’t imagine wanting people in my space and hogging baby when trying to establish breastfeeding, bond and recover. I want to hide myself away from everyone with my partner and soak up those first few weeks, flying visits for a quick cuddle or to see him are fine after a week but no way do I want people staying all day holding him.

 

[anything at all]

I was 35 weeks on Saturday and I feel like I’ve been very lucky until then.. the worst thing I’ve had 3rd trimester is extreme tiredness + heartburn here and there. At the growth scan last week they’d mentioned baby’s head has dropped but it can still be weeks until labour even when that’s happened?

Over the weekend on top of the tiredness I’ve had the worst body aches (like when you’re sick), period like cramps, back and hip pain. I’ve been so lucky until now and hate that it could be weeks of this pain yet

 

[Ro98]

I'm quite a placid person but I've just snapped at my OH. We've got our second NCT class tomorrow and it's about baby care etc. So they've asked us to send in anything specific on the whatsapp group that we want to know. We do not have a bath. We only have a shower and very little room for a baby bath to go. So I've asked about how you shower a baby/what you do if you don't have a bath.

He on the other hand, has decided to google "Bathroom refit services" and "how much space does a bath take".

We've paid £240 quid for this course, the lady can answer my bloody question and he can get on with the DIY jobs he needs to do like sorting out our outside office so our inside office can move and become the babies room!

Annnnnd breathe....

Oh I’ve been like a ball of rage this week so you’re not alone there!
It doesn’t take much for my OH to annoy me atm
My SIL lived in a flat for the first year with her first, they used a stand alone baby bath in the living room for the first 6months with towels underneath so they could still kick their legs splash etc.
Then once too big for it shower with baby once they got too big for the bath.

 

[Savewaterdrinkgin]

I’ve finally been signed off sick for the rest of my pregnancy, such a relief. Only issue is that my reason for the sick note has been printed as general illness/aches and pains with no mention of being pregnancy connected. I tried to contact my gp to have it changed but they’re ignoring me I’m not too worried about sickness records as I won’t be returning to that job, but will it be easier for them to dismiss me as it’s not technically being recognised as pregnancy connected even though they know I am pregnant?

 

[Borntorun]

I feel like the general information they give and online makes out it’s because of your diet/bmi. I had an “overweight” bmi at booking so feel judged. Idk maybe it’s because my fatphobic mum was with me . I also just don’t really understand as his head and abdominal circumference say 94th centile but his expected weight is average for this stage in pregnancy so I just feel a bit overwhelmed trying to make sense of it all.

If you could control the weight of your baby solely through what you ate, there wouldn’t be any more teeny tiny fragile babies, or on the other end of the scale, babies too big to be delivered safely. They’re just keeping an eye on your baby, and at the minute baby is growing fine and there’s no cause to do anything else. Do you have another scan booked?

***not advice, just experience

 

[WeepingCassandra]

Can’t put my finger on it but I’m not feeling great tonight. Baby is moving around and can be seen moving but just feel like there’s a lot of pressure in my pelvis and quite uncomfortable

 

[TheSilverFox]

Why are they all so unlikable this year man? I’m struggling to stay interested I don’t like anyone. Samie is the best one but she’s not exactly entertaining she’s just nice and not cringe.

Is it the pregnancy hormones?

or maybe the wrong thread

 

[Tom_Nook]

I don't think I've posted on the Pregnancy threads before, so hi! I'm about halfway through my pregnancy and having my first wobble about feeling unprepared/ wondering when I should buy things/ research things. As it stands I've bought a few small bits and pieces and I've got a list of what we need to have before baby arrives.... also booked some antenatal classes for a couple of months time. What has everyone else been doing to prepare at this stage!? It feels like I should be doing more somehow. I don't have another midwife appointment until 25 weeks and I imagine things will go very quickly after that. Everyone had these moments of panic, right!?

 

[Woodoo]

So I’m 20+4 and I’ve definitely felt less movement since yesterday, to the point I haven’t felt anything today. I called my midwife and she isn’t working today so told me to go to the hospital to be checked.. well, the midwife that saw me could not have been any more obvious that she saw me as an inconvenience. “We wouldn’t even invite you in this early” and “is there a reason you couldn’t see your midwife”. EVERYTHING online says to call immediately for reduced movements, but now I feel like I’ve been a massive drama queen. She also told me they aren’t concerned by about reduced movements until 28 weeks?!
Baby is fine anyway, thank god.

 

[WhatABore]

Feeling frustrated this evening. I had my 32 week growth scan today and they were really happy with how baby is growing, said everything is measuring as it should be and I’m on the 51st centile (last visit was 49th), measured fluid and all fine etc etc. this afternoon had a call with my diabetic midwife as I’ve got GD and she suggested starting insulin because my fasting numbers are still high. I’ve declined, I don’t want to go on insulin and I can’t see the issue if the baby is measuring as he should be and has made steady growth since my last visit? I just can’t see how this makes sense when they’re saying everything is looking good

In my experience, it isn't just babies size. Baby will also have high blood sugar levels. So not only will you be reducing your levels you will be reducing baby's levels which will make it easier when they're born.

High blood sugar increases the chance of pre term labour.
Can cause breathing difficulties.
Can cause baby to have sudden low blood sugar after birth.
Higher chance of diabetes later in life.
Ect

It isn't just about babys weight

 

[Hushpuppy]

I was woken up by the most awful cramps in my calf last night. It was horrendous. I had completely forgotten about that delightful trait that comes with pregnancy!

 

[WeepingCassandra]

Do you have a tens machine? I used one on my induction with my first and it really helped. In hindsight I reckon I could have gone on longer with just the tens machine before I got the epidural- which I won’t ask for this time!
Also what kind of induction have they had because I think the effects vary - I had the pessary, this time I’ll be induced by balloon….

I’m hoping to borrow my sisters if she can get it to me in time! I think they tend to use the tampon (or the one that’s like a tampon - is that the pessar?) or the gel here.

It doesn't always go that way - I find the checking very painful too (I have lots of internal scar tissue and for some reason it hurts like a mofo ) but they only checked me once each time and I was 1-2cm, and they never got to check again because the rest of it happened so quickly! I remember feeling similar being admitted for the induction last time. I could hear women literally wailing and screaming but as far as I can remember, I didn't do any of that! You can always ask for more pain relief too if you need it xx

Very true. Time will tell what happens! Probably not worth worrying about now. Did just realise that in 44 days or less I’ll be back on this ward either being induced or with a baby which is equal parts exciting and equal parts terrifying!

 

[Spencerskates]

So I’m 20+4 and I’ve definitely felt less movement since yesterday, to the point I haven’t felt anything today. I called my midwife and she isn’t working today so told me to go to the hospital to be checked.. well, the midwife that saw me could not have been any more obvious that she saw me as an inconvenience. “We wouldn’t even invite you in this early” and “is there a reason you couldn’t see your midwife”. EVERYTHING online says to call immediately for reduced movements, but now I feel like I’ve been a massive drama queen. She also told me they aren’t concerned by about reduced movements until 28 weeks?!
Baby is fine anyway, thank god.

You did the right thing. In my experience, midwives are either actual angels sent from heaven or totally rude and seem to resent doing their job - you must’ve just been unlucky there.

I’m debating calling myself, I’m 24 weeks and have definitely felt kicks today, but he’s been much quieter than usual. Going to have a cold Glass of water and see if that helps. I also think I’ve been having braxton hicks too - had some stomach cramping/tightening across my bump.

 

[WeepingCassandra]

Brought the Moses basket down so the dogs can get used to it (and praying the naughty one doesn’t chew it ) and ordered the stroller. Feeling a bit more real now

I really need to get our cats used to not sleeping in our room/on our bed but the idea of booting them out makes me all teary eyed