Pregnancy #3

[Easilyannoyed]

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Mines exactly the same. Rubbish.

Think mine is weeks 1-6 full pay, 6-13 90% plus the statuary 150 then just 150 until week 33 however I did say to my partner like I don’t think we will do much really other than spend time together and hopefully visit people but bloody hell when I told my mother in law she was like oh you’ll be going back to work after 6 months you will hate the maternity pay. Even if I pay full time nursery I will be better off. I now understand why some families decide for a parent to stay at home until school comes around xx

I think it's actually law that you acquire annual leave whilst on maternity leave as you're still technically working

Had a trainee doing my growth scan today
I didn't mind at all but she got the head down low, it then took her 25 minutes of trying to look for the stomach and legs to say she couldn't find it to the other woman in there.
Because she was looking right under my bump the whole time. She didn't think to move up at all just kept saying she can see the head and shoulders but can't find the rest
I wanted to interrupt her during the 25 minutes of just sitting there and tell her maybe she should try further up

At my company you still accrue holiday I think it is common practice x

My mat pay isn’t great either but better than a lot - full pay for 13 weeks then 50% salary + SMP for 5 weeks then 21 weeks SMP then 13 weeks unpaid. That being said though I have great annual leave and public holidays so I can add a further 10 weeks leave paid on to the end of mat leave and still have 2 weeks annual leave to use for the last 2 months of annual leave year when I return. I’ve decided to take the full time off plus the annual leave and public holidays I’ll have just over 14 months off. We’ve been saving hard to allow this but if we can’t afford it at the time I can give notice and come back earlier.

Your maternity pay is actually good I think x

 

[WhatABore]

I have to take mine with me, but she forgot to replace my sample bottle last appointment so I guess I’ll just take it in my bladder and produce it there. Have an appointment today actually, seems like forever since my last

Mine is usually the same as this. The first appointment I had to pee there, and then she gave me a pot for next time and then does that at each appointment

 

[Babyyoda88]

I'm having a girl!!!! We just found out so excited!! Xx

Amazing! Congratulations

 

[Easilyannoyed]

Has anyone had like a stomachs flipping sensation I have had it a few times the past two weeks could just be trapped wind xx

 

[Easilyannoyed]

Oh you are so right about this! I found weaning was when my mum started spouting nonsense. She didn’t say much before that (and my MIL has never said a thing!) but then when it came to weaning she had all the great advice we do baby led weaning and she just couldn’t get her head round it at all.



Oh no I didn’t have any real sickness (very mild) with my first two, and with my third it was horrendous from 5-28 weeks. This time it started at 4 weeks and still ongoing at 28 weeks.
Have you asked your GP for medication?

I actually don’t know much about weaning it sounds interesting this sounds ridiculous but I can’t really remember stopping bottles and feeding my step son like I think one day it was feed him x y z and these pouch things for when we were out shopping with him. I’ve got some funny pictures of him eating some foods though x

 

[Bwacac]

More brown blood today why can’t this just be stress free. I have blood like once a week. After losing the one, I’m so frightened about the other one

I’ve texted the midwife to see what she thinks.

I hope everything is ok. I had 5 episodes of bleeding in this pregnancy, more often it was just spotting but one time at 6/7 weeks I passed a clot about the size of a 5p. I had a sub chorionic haematoma which thankfully resolved by 12 weeks. I’m now almost 26 weeks. It’s such a worrying time though, in my last pregnancy I had bleeding up until 21 weeks with my son. Blue lighted to the hospital the whole lot. He’s now 6. I hope this gives you some piece of mind x

 

[imclaustarophicdazza!!]

I am TTC I’m Scotland based, have really bad natural/ vaginal birth anxiety and was told to request a C section by my therapist when the time comes. Has anyone done this? I’m worried it isn’t as easy as requesting a section. Btw I’m aware a C section is still major surgery but I have a lot issues with a natural birth due to past traumas. Would love any advice! X

 

[Tui]

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When do women usually buy these I have terrible hip pain and usually take naproxen I’m not at the moment or any pain killers etc but I am already having increased pain x

I think if you feel like you need it then buy one. Why wait til you are really uncomfortable?

 

[Cherrypie12]

Yes, I’ve had a couple of miscarriages (now pregnant again) and that’s what happened to my first. Happy to answer any questions

I'm so sorry you've had to go through that but congratulations on your pregnancy now! I guess I was wondering what the chances are she is still pregnant and it's not a miscarriage.. I'm being positive for her but being realistic does it look like it's been a miscarriage if that's what she's been told? It was an empty sac and foetal pole visible in the scan only.

Are her periods regular? If not, she could have ovulated much later than expected and that could explain the discrepancy. The 4 cycles before I got pregnancy this time were all 35days, and the one I got pregnant on was well over 60days.

This is what I'm thinking.. as far as shes told me she can be very irregular so I feel there could be a high chance of wrong dates. You don't want to be too optimistic obviously in case the worst has happened

 

[Upintheair83]

Ooh who is Lucy Yoga please?

I found her on Instagram lucyflow_yogabirth.
Every Monday she does live talks that are saved to her IGTV - today was about what to pack in your maternity bag, the other week it was what labour is like and it’s different every week. She does these online courses too which are reasonable- where you can do yoga and it helps get baby in a good position for birth and helps with preparing you for labour. When I know everything is ok at my scan I’m going to sign up!
But she’s so lovely and has lots of brilliant advice and it’s a nice community.
It may not be for everyone but Iv found her so helpful and Iv learnt things I had no clue about. Xxx

 

[Lulu Goss]

Thinking of you @Kitt, hope the midwife can give you some reassurance

 

[Lulu Goss]

What does everyone think about the no alcohol drink alternatives? Not drinking isn’t really bothering me at all, but I bought a bottle of nosecco to have with our meal on Valentine’s Day. However looking at the bottle it does have the smallest amount of alcohol in it - 0.5%.

I’ll only be 7 weeks on Valentine’s Day, so would it be better to get something different, a normal sparkling water type drink than risking it?

 

[Easilyannoyed]

Yeah I’m also in midlands and it’s bloody freezing but only tiny bit of snow. I wish I could work from home, being up and out and on my feet all day is a struggle. I’m hoping we get to second trimester and we feel great, I’ve heard that’s a thing haha

Its stuck at my house my car is covered and the lawn but the road seems to not be sticking. I am hoping you have a better second trimester however I can’t complain too much as I didn’t feel sickness until probably the last two weeks yours has definitely been worse than mine x let us all know what the midwife thinks hopefully it is nothing but I can see why you are anxious sending you a hug x

 

[Hellofromtheotherside]

Did anyone have a low lying placenta and did it move?? Found out yesterday mine is low lying and anterior so if it doesn't move will have to have more scans and then if it doesn't move will have to have a c section which I don't want

 

[LittleB]

Mine is exactly the same it says he cannot attend but it doesn’t say I can specially face time him.
When is your scan you don’t have to say but I had my letter not long ago x

Mine is 10th March what about yours?

 

[Easilyannoyed]

That’s really early to feel movements but you never know!

It could just be trapped wind imagine if I get to my scan and they move me forward

 

[Vivian124]

Oh my god, I’m actually gonna wet myself when she pushes the thing into my stomach at the scan. I’m so desperate to go I could actually cry a bit.

It's the worst

 

[Babyyoda88]

Booking a private early scan...yay or nay??

I would love to get an early private scan for reassurance reasons but I’ve read online not to put the foetus through this unless absolutely necessary.

I’ve never been pregnant before so never had a MC (touch every piece of wood in my home) and I’ve currently had no bleeding.

Would I just be best to wait for my NHS scan (not heard anything from a midwife yet in response to my referral form I completed online) or have people had them before and saw the benefit in them?

I want to know everything’s ok but again I read online people said it flagged up issues that weren’t really there because the foetus was so young.

 

[Easilyannoyed]

Hey yes called this morning after having more blood when I got up and some back pain. I explained that I’ve already lost one and now I’m having these symptoms so she booked me straight in for a scan but they couldn’t get me in until tomorrow. Just gotta wait til then to find out if everything’s ok. Fingers crossed.

Will be thinking of you and I hope it is nothing to worry about xx

 

[Heartbeats]

I went for my 20 week scan yesterday and was offered a transvaginal scan on the spot to check the length of my cervix. It was put to me as entirely optional and I declined (I like to be mentally prepared for these things!) but I’m regretting it now. Does anyone know how important it is and if I might get the chance to have it done later on? I’m feeling really guilty now, I just wish they’d told me sooner that it would be offered.