Pregnancy #3

[123456!!12/]

Can someone explain to me what centiles are please? Xxx

My midwife described it to me as if there were 100 babies the same age, they’d all be different sizes and there’s no problem with that.
So the centiles are where your baby falls compared to average babies so for example if your baby is in the 2nd centile there would be 1 baby smaller than them and 98 larger or if your baby is on the 75th centile there would be 74 smaller than them and 25 larger. If that makes sense?

 

[Tui]

Echoing what you’ve said. @Tui I’ve always found your responses very helpful and non judgemental. You are doing amazing in the circumstances we’re in. Keep smiling and stay strong X

That’s so kind thank you! this is really a lovely thread.

If anyone is interested in learning more about baby care I’ve just finished the Baby Academy Baby Care online workshop this morning, especially if FTM or just wanting a refresher! They covered nappies, skin/nail care, bathing, safe sleep, dressing/temp control and a few other bits. It’s 2 hours and led by a midwife with the opportunity to ask questions in the chat box and best of all it’s free!! I don’t work for them or anything I just thought it was really helpful

 

[Casperron]

I guess I’m joining this thread! Got a BFP twice today, period due tomorrow. Been TTC 3 months.
this is my second child, 3rd pregnancy. 1st pregnancy was ectopic so will need an early scan. Due date 17th October but will have a planned section at 39 weeks

 

[Hairraiser]

Struggling today. 31+3, I’ve had what I think is braxton hicks overnight and this morning, just feels like a dull period pain? I have stage 3 endometriosis so sometimes pains like these may actually be a lot worse than I think. I’ve been in my so much pain with my endometriosis before that I was knocked out for a whole 15 minutes, not able to move my legs for an hour.
I had a 3 night stay in hospital at the beginning of the week due to another bleed, I have placenta previa and had a prom at 23 weeks so they kept me in for monitoring. Luckily, nothing got worse, the bleeding mellowed and then stopped so I’m now home.
My consultant has told me because of my placenta and the fact I have gestational diabetes, I will need an elective C-section between 36-37 weeks. Im
Excited and nervous at the same time, just hope it’s not too early for him and he is poorly I know it’s the right thing to do to keep us both safe but I still can’t help thinking it’s early and he will be in NICU for weeks on end and have health issues in the future is there anyone on here that has been in the same situation? How was it for you?

Husband has been amazing this past 12 months, as this is a baby conceived through IVF, so from Day 1 it’s been a difficult journey, not to mention numerous hospital visits etc. But this morning he’s been abit distant and he told me it’s because he seems to have been forgotten about by our family and friends, they haven’t been asking him how he is? I have been making sure that he is ok,
while I’ve felt up to it, such as cooking for him, making him a nice bubbly bath, I had a cake delivered with a lovely card sent to him when I could tell that things were difficult for him whilst I’ve been poorly. I can’t control how other people are with him, unless I bring it up with them potentially causing stress and anxiety for me which is what I need to avoid at all costs right now! I just don’t know what to do to make him feel better about this situation!
It’s a difficult situation right now for both of us, we are this little boys parents after all and it makes me sad that he is upset over this. I just want us to both focus on getting ready over the next 5 weeks ready for the new arrival, not worry about anyone else.

 

[Heartbeats]

We have a private scan today, hoping to find out the sex

 

[Tui]

Thanks for the lovely responses to my little whinge this morning. Feeling a lot better this evening after a walk in the sunshine and a long nap. @Upintheair83 what you wrote made me cry a little bit!! Just need to remember that all of this is temporary and having a lovely baby at the end of it all will make it all worthwhile.


some of you have super generous mat leave packages! I suppose this is the difference between public and private sector. I get 8 weeks full pay, 18 weeks half pay then 13 weeks stat mat. 13 weeks unpaid at the end to give me the full 52 weeks. I think that’s probably middle of the road, it’s NHSmat pay. Certainly enough for us to manage with and very pleased we can afford for me to take the year. I know some have to go back a lot earlier for financial reasons so I count my blessings in that respect.

 

[Kitt]

Went back to work this morning, was there for a couple of hours and then went to the loo and had lots of brown blood on the liner again. Been advised by hospital to go home and rest. Supposed to be back at work Monday but my mom called and insisted I stay off work til my 12 week scan on 24th so I can just rest and get through this last bit of first trimester without pushing myself at work.

I think baby’s probably okay because it was fine Wednesday after the bleeding earlier in the week but I think my moms right. I keep going back to work and being on my feet a lot and then bleeding and getting back pain. Rest is probably best but I feel so guilty not going to work.

 

[Tui]

Feeling fed up today. Tired and aching all over and feeling really sad that essentially the entirety of my pregnancy has been in either lockdown or heavy COVID restrictions (Manchester has been under at least tier 2 type restrictions since July when I found out I was pregnant). Prior to that was pregnant in March and miscarried and after that couldn’t wait to be pregnant again - so although I did “choose” to be pregnant in a pandemic the second time the alternative was being miserable and probably developing depression. So excited to meet my baby boy but also so sad that this pregnancy has really only been properly shared between my husband and I, I’ve seen my friends in person enough times to count on one hand since August and there’s no sign of when that will end. Reluctant to meet up with my friends singly for walks as majority of them are NHS workers with direct patient contact and I’m terrified of getting COVID or giving it to my parents who I’m living with.

sorry for the rant just having a bad few days!!! Hope others are feeling a bit more chirpy

 

[littlepup]

Really-did they make you feel ill? Because I’ve taken them the first two times I’m too scared not to this time ffs so few like I’m stuck!

fingers crossed you get some movement soon-the end is so bloody tough!

All out projectile. They did not sit well with me at all! I didn’t realise until I hadn’t taken them for some time then started again while I hadn’t been sick, did it twice, that was enough to realise it was no coincidence. I was definitely sick without them but I wonder how much worse they made it.

Turns out it wasn’t a show but my waters so with a little encouragement we will, unexpectedly, be meeting our girl today!

Sorry for anyone having a sucky time at the moment. Those due to circumstance and those due to pregnancy.... I pretty much hated every minute of it, have been in so much pain. And now I’m here, I’m almost missing it already

 

[Kitt]

Hey all just checking in on new thread. Feeling a bit low this evening, got work tomorrow then scan at 3:45 to check the babies are doing ok. Think it’s playing on my mind, I just want it all to be okay.

 

[Kitt]

Had my booking appointment over the phone with the midwife earlier. All good, she was really nice. She wasn’t happy that the private scan place called us back for a second scan to check on the twins and charged us for it. She says they should’ve referred me to the hospital if they thought I needed a second check scan. So she’s going to follow that up.

 

[lexle]

I’ve been sick 16 times in the last 24 hours GP is calling me this morning, hopefully they can give me something to help I’m so thirsty but one sip of water even comes straight back up

 

[OIM]

Just weighing in for the poster who said they work in a school. I am in leadership in a school and we would not have anyone post 28 weeks class based. There are plenty of other things you could be doing such as remote learning/ admin but you shouldn’t be left in a class after 28 weeks. The guidelines say you should continue to work where strict social distancing can be adhered to. This is simply impossible in a classroom.

For those worrying about covid and giving birth alone. I unfortunately contracted covid the week before my planned c section and gave birth on my own 2 weeks ago. The thought of it was actually way worse than the reality. The staff were absolutely amazing and so kind to me and got amazing photos for my husband. The biggest downside was that they wanted me out of hospital ASAP for obvious reasons so I probably came home a couple of days earlier than I would have liked. Whilst no body would have chosen our situation it wasn’t as awful as I had imagined.

 

[PineappleTopper]

I've moved my scan (early, private) to tomorrow. Im feeling quite worried about the lack of symptoms and would really appreciate the reassurance. Worrying about it has made me feel detached and like im possibly not pregnant any more. Im going to try and not think about it too much, until the appt at 5.30 . Fingers crossed there is a little baby growing in my tummy still

Ill keep you ladies updated

 

[Dogwithabone]

I’m 11 weeks today and feeling so run down my 4 year old goes in for heart surgery a week today and obviously my husband can’t be at the hospital to support me due to 1 parent only policy and no swapping either. I can’t stop feeling and being sick with anxiety!

sorry for the negative post first thing this morning just all types of emotions running wild right now.

I hope you all have a great week ahead x

 

[Gem2212]

How’s is everyone doing? We done a free online baby care workshop this morning and found it really helpful! Covered the basics like holding, bathing, dressing baby and changing nappies. Was with an organisation called the baby academy UK, seen them on Facebook. Really recommend if like me your clueless

 

[Whaaaaat]

What baby wants hey

Pregnancy eating is hilarious.

When I was pregnant with my son in my third trimester I became obsessed with a specific chocolate cake with double cream - it was for 4 people. I convinced myself that if I ate it for my main meal, rather than as a dessert it wasn’t that bad and would eat the whole thing.

My husband bought me one after I gave birth as a treat and I couldn’t eat it and I’ve never eaten it since.

 

[WhatABore]

My 3 year old has decided this morning that after refusing she's getting a Sister that she will now accept a Sister and SOME brothers

 

[Hbirdette]

Can the next thread name be “pregnancy #4 we love carbs”

it was suggested for this thread but I think baby brain got the better of us

 

[Hairraiser]

About hats on babies, I never knew. The whole time we were in hospital, with my first, we were told to have him in a hat so when we were at home we put a hat on him. The midwife came to check on us after our first night at home and was really nice about it and just said they don’t need a hat on anymore. I don’t have a clue why or what’s different but you’re definitely not the first person to not know that your baby doesn’t need a hat. Screw whoever made you feel bad about it - no one can know everything

Thank you for your reply, it’s making me feel so much better the support from everyone on here.
tbh I’m taking it as a positive as I was not aware and now I know.

Thanks everyone who’s commented on my earlier post in the last thread.
I feel better now, and thankful that I now know the reason why they shouldn’t wear them.
30 +2 today, baby boy has been moving around so much and gets very comfy under my ribs!
I had a weekly monitoring appointment today and on my way home I ended up being violently sick on the side of the road!! It brought me back to the first 4 months of hell I went through in this pregnancy. I haven’t had anymore today, but heck it took me by surprise! Anyone else sickness come back in the 3rd trimester?
hope everyone is doing ok and babies in tummies are all happy and healthy xx