Anyone feel sad about their babys father not bonding with the baby during pregnancy.
My partner just told me i will continue to be his priority over baby for a while. He said he will obviously want to protect baby, but he has no bond or love towards it as of yet. He spoke to a colleague who said he probably didnt love his own child for about 2 years.
Im really upset. Im glad my partner is opening up, but he's spent the last couple of hours mainly acting resentful.
-Resentful of what covid has stolen for him/us
-Resentful of him losing himself and the things that make him him. (as above)
-Somewhat resentful that all money should now go on baby and not him/his hobbies/us/travel
I feel very sad.
Oh pineapple 🤍 we’ve gone through the motions in this house too.
He was elated to find out I was pregnant but then very disappointed to find out it was a girl (he’s a sports junkie and wanted to do all the traditional gender stuff with a boy)…. He isn’t majorly sympathetic by nature so I still do most of the housework and cooking and has said stuff like I need to be quieter in the night when going to the loo or getting off the sofa. After a wine last night he admitted to my mum that he ‘wasn’t that bothered’ when discussing getting her ears pierced as he just isnt interested in girly stuff. He is ADAMANT being a dad won’t stop him doing the things he loves. he hates feeling restricted or confined in a way your partner as preempted his resentment.
us women have felt being pregnant from very early on, we’ve felt every ache, pain and change in our body. They haven’t. I do feel it’s harder to them to connect because they don’t experience any of the physical or hormonal changes that we do.
he’s extremely loving so I know once she’s where all his ridiculous statements will go out the window, he’s besotted with me so I can only imagine what a little girl will do to him.
I hope I haven’t hijacked how you’re feeling to speak about myself but in a nutshell, I understand how you feel.
how far along are you? Is it your first child?
I wasn’t happy during my whole first trimester and now I’m 36 weeks I’m finally starting to feel excited to become a mum. talking to each other is healthy as long as he is mindful of when and how he is upsetting you x
friends have given me books I’m too polite to say there’s not a chance in hell I’m going to read, given me their logs in for baby shows I couldn’t care less about and one friend gave me a log in for hypno birthing videos she paid for. Again, I didn’t watch 
I’ll deal with BF, sterilising, colic, reflux, swaddling etc when it comes up! You just don’t know what kind of birth or baby you’ll have so I’ll deal with it in the moment.
our youngest has a short and snappy name and he literally ignores it so not making that mistake again
when she legs it in ASDA
I think this baby definitely needs a baby yoda treat after all this! Thanks for the heads up. He just melts me heart, and I must admit after watching the mandalorian, I think it was his cute little face that made me broody
(not that I want this baby coming out green with those ears!)
not sure what the point of this post is, other than it’s something I feel like you could never say out loud to another person because pregnancy is meant to be a happy time.
