I'm sorry but the wife is all over this. People are far too sympathetic to her.
Did you love him? God no!
He may as well advertised the fact he can have sex with whomever he likes but there's no feelings Steph! It's just a physical act.
Thats what people who have open marriages say.
She knew and she knew the type he liked. Young, boyish looking, sounding, acting.
This man may have been careful not to engage in sex with those below the age of consent but he was attracted to those who looked it.
He also got some sort of a thrill waving his activities under people's noses, that's risk taking behaviour and predators enjoy it.
Far from being driven to despair he's probably the only person still having a good time in all this.