Perimenopause #4 post your woes

[Kewpie]

I feel like my deodorant has stopped working. I normally use an a anti perspiration one . If it is a warm day, or i an exerting myself, my underarms feel sticky and damp by mid afternoon.

I normally use Mitchum roll on. I have tried different ones over the years, and this one has always worked best for me. Any suggestions for something else I can try?

My BO has gone back to teenage proportions since starting HRT. It wasn't like it before so I'm convinced it's the HRT rather than the peri.

The Green Woman Fit Pit deodorants work unbelievably well for me. Me and my husband have been using them for years and nothing has ever worked as well as these for us.

 

[petitspois]

All the dermatologists I follow online say it’s best to wash the area with benzoyl peroxide wash (acne wash) then also apply glycolic acid once dry as it’s the bacteria that smell, not the sweat so you need to nuke the guys.

 

[Madbadsad]

I’m about to turn 48. and been having anxiety specifically related to work. Having never previously been an anxious person. I have always worked in healthcare- 30 years in the NHS.
Over the last 4 years I’ve had 4 different jobs. When the panic hits thinking a new job is the answer.
The anxiety isn’t there all the time but I have periods when it peaks.
Im currently finishing training in a new role and now I’m seeing more patients by myself and being given more responsibility the anxiety has kicked in again. I’ve been signed off for two weeks.
It had been building for few weeks, and then one morning I had to keep pacing around, my arms and legs felt numb, tightness in my chest. Feeling something awful was happening. I physically could not get in the car to go into work.
I can’t even specifically say what the worry is. I think it’s the level of responsibility and heaviness of things I’m dealing with- other people’s trauma and mental health. And just how broken the NHS is. Other people say I seem like I’m doing a good job but I feel like a complete fraud. And my brain is mush. Trying to deal with emails etc is overwhelming.

I’ve been so exhausted, even wacking a frozen pizza in the oven for my kids feels like a huge effort. I feel like the worst mum. Like I have nothing left to give any one.
My house has got so cluttered and messy. Everything feels on top of me.

I don’t want to keep working in healthcare but I can not afford to not work or work a minimum wage job so I feel trapped in doing a job that’s destroying me.

Years ago women didn’t have to work stressful jobs outside the home at our age.

I don’t expect anyone to give an answer. I just wanted to share in case anyone is feeling similarly.
p.s I am on HRT and it helps lots with sleep etc but not with this particular issue. I just feel broken

 

[Carapop]

I’m about to turn 48. and been having anxiety specifically related to work. Having never previously been an anxious person. I have always worked in healthcare- 30 years in the NHS.
Over the last 4 years I’ve had 4 different jobs. When the panic hits thinking a new job is the answer.
The anxiety isn’t there all the time but I have periods when it peaks.
Im currently finishing training in a new role and now I’m seeing more patients by myself and being given more responsibility the anxiety has kicked in again. I’ve been signed off for two weeks.
It had been building for few weeks, and then one morning I had to keep pacing around, my arms and legs felt numb, tightness in my chest. Feeling something awful was happening. I physically could not get in the car to go into work.
I can’t even specifically say what the worry is. I think it’s the level of responsibility and heaviness of things I’m dealing with- other people’s trauma and mental health. And just how broken the NHS is. Other people say I seem like I’m doing a good job but I feel like a complete fraud. And my brain is mush. Trying to deal with emails etc is overwhelming.

I’ve been so exhausted, even wacking a frozen pizza in the oven for my kids feels like a huge effort. I feel like the worst mum. Like I have nothing left to give any one.
My house has got so cluttered and messy. Everything feels on top of me.

I don’t want to keep working in healthcare but I can not afford to not work or work a minimum wage job so I feel trapped in doing a job that’s destroying me.

Years ago women didn’t have to work stressful jobs outside the home at our age.

I don’t expect anyone to give an answer. I just wanted to share in case anyone is feeling similarly.
p.s I am on HRT and it helps lots with sleep etc but not with this particular issue. I just feel broken

I’m so sorry you’re struggling so much. You sound absolutely burned out and utterly overwhelmed. It’s worthwhile to have a conversation with your GP detailing all of this. Some antidepressants are particularly helpful when it comes to anxiety and a little help from meds may be enough to keep your head above water.

 

[griftalo]

I’m about to turn 48. and been having anxiety specifically related to work. Having never previously been an anxious person. I have always worked in healthcare- 30 years in the NHS.
Over the last 4 years I’ve had 4 different jobs. When the panic hits thinking a new job is the answer.
The anxiety isn’t there all the time but I have periods when it peaks.
Im currently finishing training in a new role and now I’m seeing more patients by myself and being given more responsibility the anxiety has kicked in again. I’ve been signed off for two weeks.
It had been building for few weeks, and then one morning I had to keep pacing around, my arms and legs felt numb, tightness in my chest. Feeling something awful was happening. I physically could not get in the car to go into work.
I can’t even specifically say what the worry is. I think it’s the level of responsibility and heaviness of things I’m dealing with- other people’s trauma and mental health. And just how broken the NHS is. Other people say I seem like I’m doing a good job but I feel like a complete fraud. And my brain is mush. Trying to deal with emails etc is overwhelming.

I’ve been so exhausted, even wacking a frozen pizza in the oven for my kids feels like a huge effort. I feel like the worst mum. Like I have nothing left to give any one.
My house has got so cluttered and messy. Everything feels on top of me.

I don’t want to keep working in healthcare but I can not afford to not work or work a minimum wage job so I feel trapped in doing a job that’s destroying me.

Years ago women didn’t have to work stressful jobs outside the home at our age.

I don’t expect anyone to give an answer. I just wanted to share in case anyone is feeling similarly.
p.s I am on HRT and it helps lots with sleep etc but not with this particular issue. I just feel broken

I’m on propranolol (for migraine prevention) but it has massively helped me. I’m also using ditto supplements which has also really helped, and I have no period again now. Low iron has made me anxious in the past, could it be anything to do with your stress?

 

[Madbadsad]

I’m so sorry you’re struggling so much. You sound absolutely burned out and utterly overwhelmed. It’s worthwhile to have a conversation with your GP detailing all of this. Some antidepressants are particularly helpful when it comes to anxiety and a little help from meds may be enough to keep your head above water.

Thankyou for your reply. It means a lot. When I saw the GP I just spoke about the anxiety and I wasn’t completely honest about just how bad I was feeling.

 

[Madbadsad]

I’m on propranolol (for migraine prevention) but it has massively helped me. I’m also using ditto supplements which has also really helped, and I have no period again now. Low iron has made me anxious in the past, could it be anything to do with your stress?

Thanks for your reply. Iron is a good point as I have had heavy periods

 

[CallaLily]

I’m on propranolol (for migraine prevention) but it has massively helped me. I’m also using ditto supplements which has also really helped, and I have no period again now. Low iron has made me anxious in the past, could it be anything to do with your stress?

At our age it's very important to read slowly and fully understand what you've read, that way you won't be wondering what the hell dildo supplements are

 

[flap a doodle dandy]

I’m on propranolol (for migraine prevention) but it has massively helped me. I’m also using ditto supplements which has also really helped, and I have no period again now. Low iron has made me anxious in the past, could it be anything to do with your stress?

Has the propranalol helped with the migraines as my migraines have been all over the place recently and seem to be changing as I become more peri

 

[griftalo]

Has the propranalol helped with the migraines as my migraines have been all over the place recently and seem to be changing as I become more peri

I was rarely getting any, but now none. I have visual symptoms that were being considered as possibly migraine related. So either they are and the propranolol isn’t working on that or it isn’t that, but what I was having as auras etc that I recognised as migraine isn’t happening now. It’s worth trying.

 

[griftalo]

At our age it's very important to read slowly and fully understand what you've read, that way you won't be wondering what the hell dildo supplements are

That made me laugh.

I mean dildos might help for something but DITTO is definitely helping me with period stuff and I am more chilled

 

[flap a doodle dandy]

I was rarely getting any, but now none. I have visual symptoms that were being considered as possibly migraine related. So either they are and the propranolol isn’t working on that or it isn’t that, but what I was having as auras etc that I recognised as migraine isn’t happening now. It’s worth trying.

Thanks - I have had migraine with aura since childhood but now getting more auras without much of a headache and also static ones where part of my vision goes for a while. Also vestibular migraines which make me dizzy. I can only assume the new stuff might be hormone related as not had it before. I will ask about propranolol - have you had any side effects at all ?

 

[griftalo]

Thanks - I have had migraine with aura since childhood but now getting more auras without much of a headache and also static ones where part of my vision goes for a while. Also vestibular migraines which make me dizzy. I can only assume the new stuff might be hormone related as not had it before. I will ask about propranolol - have you had any side effects at all ?

I dont usually get any headache anymore either, so my big headache this week was a shock. I do have raised intercranial pressure though so it could be worsening.
Given that I'm asthmatic, no, it hasn't affected me at all really, other than feeling much more okay mentally than before. My breathing is fine, actually better with exercise which is backwards i know (but im back to front on most things on my reactions).

 

[MsGilmore]

Regarding the deodorant. Sanex have a menopause range. I saw the spray deodorant in my local Tesco yesterday as they have a section dedicated to menopause. I saw a TikTok this morning and the woman had been sent the deodorant and shower gel by Superdrug.

 

[maytoseptember]

God, I have been battling absolutely bone crushing fatigue and I have no hope of figuring out why.

It is the hot weather? Am I stressed (autistic kid is having a hard time / giving us a hard time… also we’re in the middle of buying and selling houses )? Poor sleep? Am I depressed? Have my peri symptoms entered a new realm?

Or is it all of the above and more?

 

[Carapop]

Regarding the deodorant. Sanex have a menopause range. I saw the spray deodorant in my local Tesco yesterday as they have a section dedicated to menopause. I saw a TikTok this morning and the woman had been sent the deodorant and shower gel by Superdrug.

I did a LOT of research into this over wkend and it’s basically just meno marketing. No real difference between this and the rest of the range. Worth a try if on offer but don’t rush to buy it.

The best three step is use a strong antiperspirant at night (Triple Dry is as strong as I can go without wanting to scratch my pits off), a daily Mitchum stick if needed and a few times a week scrub your pits with a benzoyl peroxide wash (Boots have Acnecide 5% w/w wash Gel). The key to effective antiperspirant seems to be nighttime application.

 

[Jemadah]

I did a LOT of research into this over wkend and it’s basically just meno marketing. No real difference between this and the rest of the range. Worth a try if on offer but don’t rush to buy it.

The best three step is use a strong antiperspirant at night (Triple Dry is as strong as I can go without wanting to scratch my pits off), a daily Mitchum stick if needed and a few times a week scrub your pits with a benzoyl peroxide wash (Boots have Acnecide 5% w/w wash Gel). The key to effective antiperspirant seems to be nighttime application.


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Thanks for this. I've tried all sorts of deodorants and night ones over the years, and at one point using Linden Voss got my sweaty pits under control, but then it got discontinued or taken over and the replacement didn't work for me, so now I'm peri I'm really struggling in the heat with my armpits.

 

[CallaLily]

God, I have been battling absolutely bone crushing fatigue and I have no hope of figuring out why.

It is the hot weather? Am I stressed (autistic kid is having a hard time / giving us a hard time… also we’re in the middle of buying and selling houses )? Poor sleep? Am I depressed? Have my peri symptoms entered a new realm?

Or is it all of the above and more?

I'd say all of the above. The weather is having an impact and you sound like you've an awful lot of stressful situations to juggle. If you're not sleeping well, it's all going to feel even more stressful. Are you taking anything to help with your sleep, magnesium etc?

 

[Drea1984]

I’ve posted on here before about my driving anxiety. It’s so bad I don’t leave my town and only drive to work really now. I’ve never been confident driving but feel almost terror getting behind the wheel.
I have a lovely car but am spending fortunes on uber if I have to go anywhere now.
I feel very down. It’s really the only menopause symptom I have so know I’m lucky. But my world is now so small.
I have no partner so know I can’t give up driving altogether.
can anyone advise on what I can do please?

 

[flap a doodle dandy]

I’ve posted on here before about my driving anxiety. It’s so bad I don’t leave my town and only drive to work really now. I’ve never been confident driving but feel almost terror getting behind the wheel.
I have a lovely car but am spending fortunes on uber if I have to go anywhere now.
I feel very down. It’s really the only menopause symptom I have so know I’m lucky. But my world is now so small.
I have no partner so know I can’t give up driving altogether.
can anyone advise on what I can do please?

if you can get a referral or find someone good privately I would recommend cognitive behavioural therapy to try and sort it. It is very good for phobias etc and might help rationalise your fears. There are some good self guided things online you could try to start with. Also try podcasts for anxiety while driving or any other podcast that might take your mind off the anxiety. Hope you get it sorted.