In her defence her mum and dad were dreadful, she didn’t have a stable loving upbringing, her mum left her with her dad who was mentally unstable. A lot of her attention seeking behaviour came from that. And then to find out he wasn’t actually her biological dad! To be fair her mum was a terrible woman who should never have had a child. Paula I think tried to give her kids the childhood she didn’t have but was too damaged to do it. Bob was very controlling, I think eventually she just had enough.
I’m sorry but how do we excuse terrible mothering by her parents? Many many people have appalling upbringings and don’t go on to be selfish horrible parents.
This woman had money and access to help. We have no idea who was more controlling in their relationship or who cheated first or the most? I feel sorry for Bob married to that as much as her married to him. At the centre of this were children. Innocent children.
One who killed herself trying to be her mother, another who won’t have children due to her upbringing and yet who tries to look like her mother, another who just about seems ok and a 4th who’s parents were both dead from drugs by age 4?
How can that be excused.
And tbf, she died 22 years ago. In that time, Bob has raised the girls quietly, he has been with a partner for many many years, again quietly. They married after Peaches death. He sees his grandkids quietly and has a relationship with all his daughters.
perhaps it’s fair to say that Bob and Paula were toxic, but he’s not exactly been a public, controlling cheat for the last 22 years.