One Direction #7 Spaces between them

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i had a look at liams instagram this morning and it made me sad that he follows the rest of the boys and only Louis follow him back :( Just really got me for some reason
 
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100% this. My dad has been going into rehab for most of life for alcohol addiction and 9/10 he falls off the wagon again, because as much as he does want the help there and then, it doesn't last. It happens time and time again. It's sad. You can have all the money in the world, all the resources there to help you but ultimately it is down to the person that is needing the help to actually want it because otherwise the cycle continues.
Being able to see this is a gift, but it's still so hard to do, so bless you.
 
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i had a look at liams instagram this morning and it made me sad that he follows the rest of the boys and only Louis follow him back :( Just really got me for some reason
I just saw a twitter post about 4 moms losing a son today and 1 welcoming one in heaven 🥲
 
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I think there needs to be so many questions asked about the speed at which this news travelled. Immorally, when likely his parents and child were informed by a news flash. I wonder if laws could be created about publishing pictures of bodies to prevent this ghoulishness.

I had rationalised it in my head thinking his girlfriend may have witnessed it and called his parents immediately, but now I learn she wasn't even there.

So within an hour there were images of his body on the internet. Someone was live tweeting him going crazy in the lobby and then texted their friend 'hes killed himself' before the news broke. Pictures of the inside of his hotel room were up immediately. The police confirmed his death within hours. Had they even informed his parents? Now the transcript from the 999 call is out.

Its just so grim.
 
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He must have been off his head then, to put it bluntly. Daily fail show pictures of the hotel/pool. No way, if the above is true, he would have believed he could have made that jump if he was sober. Harrowing to think about tbh
It’s crazy what people think they can do when drunk or high, I saw pictures of the hotel and yes the pool was miles away but when you are in that mindset you can convince yourself of these things. I have had an awful feeling for months now that something like this would happen, even more so after everything started coming out.

I just can’t stop thinking about that little boy who was sleeping peacefully last night not knowing his entire world was about to fall apart when he woke up, my heart breaks for Cheryl having to deliver that news.
 
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Sorry but I find these kind of takes so poor, responsibility for someone’s mental health should never be placed at the partners doorstep.

He was clearly off the rails, why should she put herself in danger to look after him?
What a sad way to look at things.

I’m not blaming his girlfriend or saying she should have stayed there or put herself in danger. Nor am I saying she could have foreseen this.

But if you care about someone sometimes you need to put them first. She’s not responsible but clearly he didn’t have good people (not just his gf) around him.
 
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Absolutley disgraceful that there were pictures of his body posted online on a well known website, there needs to be some sort of law against this
 
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I definitely get the sense that whatever happened prior, it was a deeply regretful snap decision made under the influence. I could actually believe it was "misadventure" rather than suicide just because of how completely random the circumstances are
 
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What a sad way to look at things.

I’m not blaming his girlfriend or saying she should have stayed there or put herself in danger. Nor am I saying she could have foreseen this.

But if you care about someone sometimes you need to put them first. She’s not responsible but clearly he didn’t have good people (not just his gf) around him.
Not sad at all, I find it quite sad you refer to someone outing the abuse they faced as ‘sticking the knife in’.

You said you should put someone you care about first, I struggle to see how that is not suggesting they ought to be responsible for his mental state. There comes a point where you can’t just keep putting someone like that first when they’re quite clearly dangerous.
 
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Absolutley disgraceful that there were pictures of his body posted online on a well known website, there needs to be some sort of law against this
Unfortunately privacy laws in South America are going to be very different to what can be shared and distributed here
 
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What a sad way to look at things.

I’m not blaming his girlfriend or saying she should have stayed there or put herself in danger. Nor am I saying she could have foreseen this.

But if you care about someone sometimes you need to put them first. She’s not responsible but clearly he didn’t have good people (not just his gf) around him.
Disagree as sometimes there comes a point with addicts where you cant do anymore, I'm sure his poor parents will be wishing they couldve :(
 
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I definitely get the sense that whatever happened prior, it was a deeply regretful snap decision made under the influence. I could actually believe it was "misadventure" rather than suicide just because of how completely random the circumstances are
Yes I agree, he’d obviously got himself into some sort of psychotic breakdown and just went over the balcony not even thinking. It’s sad he was on his own. If this incident would have happened at his house or say in the countryside not in a hotel with a balcony we probably wouldn’t hear about it and he could maybe have sought help.
 
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Absolutley disgraceful that there were pictures of his body posted online on a well known website, there needs to be some sort of law against this
Yes I also think there needs to be a law about pics of grieving loved ones
 
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I definitely get the sense that whatever happened prior, it was a deeply regretful snap decision made under the influence. I could actually believe it was "misadventure" rather than suicide just because of how completely random the circumstances are
Yeah I don’t think this was a suicide at all tbh. I can definitely believe he had suicidal thoughts before but in this instance I think it was a combination of being off his face and believing he was invincible/bad thoughts.

I feel terrible for Maya, she’s being blamed from all sides. I hope she’s got a good support system.
 
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But if you care about someone sometimes you need to put them first. She’s not responsible but clearly he didn’t have good people (not just his gf) around him.
This makes no sense. You don’t know how many times she’s put him first, what she’s put up with, done for him, given up. You just can’t say.

Using your same train of thought why didn’t he put her and his son and his family first and get clean. It’s just not that simple.
 
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Disagree as sometimes there comes a point with addicts where you cant do anymore, I'm sure his poor parents will be wishing they couldve :(
Unfortunately when someone doesn’t want help it’s almost impossible to do anything about it, they need to want to be helped. There are many events that ultimately contributed to this, Simon Cowell working those boys into the ground being one of them, but at the same time no one is really to blame.

Replied to the wrong post, was meant to be a reply to the one you were quoting.
 
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Unfortunately when someone doesn’t want help it’s almost impossible to do anything about it, they need to want to be helped. There are many events that ultimately contributed to this, Simon Cowell working those boys into the ground being one of them, but at the same time no one is really to blame.

Replied to the wrong post, was meant to be a reply to the one you were quoting.
This is the thing isn’t it, he experienced such a high level of fame at such a young age, when the band split him and some of his other band mates just became irrelevant over night seemingly.

I do think he had a hard time accepting that without the band his career wasn’t going to have him souring superstardom the way it did whilst the band was together.

And I think that the way 1D were worked to the bone and the lack of support they had during their time as a group massively contributed to this, he was so young getting so famous so fast, of course the poor guy would have a mental snap. I’m sure I read somewhere that he was comparing himself to Harry as well, insinuating he didn’t have what Harry had so couldn’t make it the same way. That’s just sad.

I think truthfully, he’s been let down by everyone in his team. He’d obviously given up and was just accepting his addiction and wasn’t at rock bottom just yet, so wasn’t seeking help yet. He looks like a shell of himself in every tiktok he appeared in with his girlfriend. It’s such a shame.
 
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