Iām surprised she didnāt drown raven with her breast milkJust out of interest, what did she do? Can imagine her phoning a bloody ambulance
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I used to go to college with her, she was such a ball of fun and was infatuated by Dean & vice versa never apart from each other since day dot. We studied fashion she was amazing at what she did. Now she seemās a shadow of her former self obviously with what sheās been through is totally understandable, however she now has no personality looks drab and literally lives her life for a 2 year old? In all honesty Iām surprised Deanās still there and hasnāt up sticked and left maybe the guilt of leaving her from what sheās been through he feelās tied to her? She is not at all the person I once knew, I used to be jealous of how beautiful she once was and so stylish! Such a shame really.
I can imagine. I have loved her account for so long, she has got such a lovely way with words and I hate that she now annoys me! It's the breastfeeding pics more than anything, I can cope with everything else but I really don't need to see her rock hard nipples feeding raven for the 257h time. Too much!
I know sheās a lost person now who think theyāre doing the best for their kid and still craves Raven āneedingā her to breastfeed, because thats all sheās got to talk about. No wonder Dean nowhere to be seen heās got no place in that house apart from a provider. When really sheās drained to duck from being a mum like the rest of us but darent just say she needs a break/help because in her head she thinks sheās failing!
Ninja tits to the rescueIām surprised she didnāt drown raven with her breast milk
Re the formula bashing, this really wound me up when I had my first. I felt I had to justify my choices all the time. This time round I got ready to start with the justifications, and my lovely midwife just said āI donāt care how you feed your baby. Iāll offer you any help or support you want, but formula is probably the most regulated food product in the world. Itās not poison, it isnāt this horrible thing people have made it out to be, feed your baby how you want to.ā SUCH a breath of fresh air. I canāt help but think itās deeply unhealthy to think that of all the things you give your child - security, love, an education, fun, a family, a home, your time, healthy meals, treats, experiences, Christmases, holidays, trips, in jokes, silly nicknames - itās which kind of milk you choose to give them for the first year of so if their life that you choose to believe is the most important defining aspect of you as a mother 
I originally followed Nicola right after she lost Winter and she was stunning. I loved her individual style and how colourful she seemed
Couldn't agree more. Most of the anxiety and bad mental health I suffered in the first few months of motherhood was around my perceived failure of being able to breastfeed and having to concede to using formula. I felt like I had to justify it to everyone! I look back almost 4 years on and think, what the hell did I do that for? Mothers should not have to answer to anyone for the way they choose to nourish their child. As long as they're fed and gaining weight what is the issue in a world that has far more problems.Re the formula bashing, this really wound me up when I had my first. I felt I had to justify my choices all the time. This time round I got ready to start with the justifications, and my lovely midwife just said āI donāt care how you feed your baby. Iāll offer you any help or support you want, but formula is probably the most regulated food product in the world. Itās not poison, it isnāt this horrible thing people have made it out to be, feed your baby how you want to.ā SUCH a breath of fresh air. I canāt help but think itās deeply unhealthy to think that of all the things you give your child - security, love, an education, fun, a family, a home, your time, healthy meals, treats, experiences, Christmases, holidays, trips, in jokes, silly nicknames - itās which kind of milk you choose to give them for the first year of so if their life that you choose to believe is the most important defining aspect of you as a mother
The screenshots of her disagreement with the teacher from the school she works at 
Uncomfortable reading! Definitely seems like the teacher doesnāt like her and has been biting her tongue for a while. Funny how when itās someone Nicola obviously perceives as more senior to her (a teacher when sheās a TA) she backs down and doesnāt stand by her opinion so much! Wonder what it was like going to work after that?! And thatās where itās uncomfortable when people share lots of stuff online.
Please donāt anyone let watching her put you off gentle/attachment parenting. She really isnāt being a gentle parent - itās some sort of permissive yet overbearing mix that sheās convinced herself is gentle parenting.
Uncomfortable reading! Definitely seems like the teacher doesnāt like her and has been biting her tongue for a while. Funny how when itās someone Nicola obviously perceives as more senior to her (a teacher when sheās a TA) she backs down and doesnāt stand by her opinion so much! Wonder what it was like going to work after that?! And thatās where itās uncomfortable when people share lots of stuff online.Please donāt anyone let watching her put you off gentle/attachment parenting. She really isnāt being a gentle parent - itās some sort of permissive yet overbearing mix that sheās convinced herself is gentle parenting.
Yeah, that colleague had obviously been irritated just how many anti-school articles Nicola has been sharing (Iām guessing it was a fair few!), and decided to call her out as a hypocrite. Good for her. She was obviously squirming a bit āOh, but not all schools are as lovely as OUR school you know...ā
Exactly it shows gentle parenting in such a bad light. I use a lot of aspects of gentle parenting (I lose my tit too often to label myself thatThe screenshots of her disagreement with the teacher from the school she works at
Please donāt anyone let watching her put you off gentle/attachment parenting. She really isnāt being a gentle parent - itās some sort of permissive yet overbearing mix that sheās convinced herself is gentle parenting.
) its about being responsive, she doesn't respond to raven because she's already there hovering over her 24/7. My kids cry, I'm there for them straight away. However if my kids are happy playing solo you wanna bet I'm using that time for me I'm no mothering martyr any chance I can get for me time i take it.
I think a lot of us feel the same way
I feel quite sorry for Dean in her stories today, at the baby garden, he holds his arms out to Raven with a huge smile on his face and she runs away from him, you can hear Pea in the background try to make light of it, by saying āYou teasing himā Dean turns around and looks genuinely upset 
Pea should be doing more to encourage the bond between them, itās quite sad to watch!
Pea should be doing more to encourage the bond between them, itās quite sad to watch!Well she is always bloody there. I think she would be at a loss When/if Raven gets older prefers Dean over her. Especially if they have another child. Thereās no way she can handle a newborn and Raven at the same time. No mum can hence why most parenting books advice you to let the child bond with their dads, so the transition wonāt be too hard for them!I feel quite sorry for Dean in her stories today, at the baby garden, he holds his arms out to Raven with a huge smile on his face and she runs away from him, you can hear Pea in the background try to make light of it, by saying āYou teasing himā Dean turns around and looks genuinely upset
Her latest post. Anyone else try to get through it and just find themselves thinking 'oh STFU'. We get it, you love your kid. Well done you.
I thought the same about the story with Dean. He looked fed up to be honest. I have two very clingy mummy-centric kids and my husband often has the same kind of sad kind of fed up look when they wonāt go to him. Iād like to think itās not cause Iām over bearing but heād probably disagree.
And thanks previous poster for saying no one can deal with a toddler and a newborn cause I am STRUGGLING Iād love to see Pea carry on her gentle parenting because Iāve gone from a sort of half and half part time crunchy to a full on shouty witch since being heavily pregnant and having a second child. I feel sorry for my poor children daily!
The most recent story with the DM just seems a bit... āI am a good mum, really! I donāt I JUST get criticism!ā It appears to me that she actually does get quite a bit of push back from those who arenāt her slightly crazy, avid fans. I say this because she spends so much time defending her parenting decisions and someone comfortable with their choices, to my mind, wouldnāt need to. I think itās a bit sad. Have the courage of your convictions. If she really thinks what she is doing is the best for everyone then she should crack on. But I couldnāt do it, and Iām not convinced it would be healthy for me, my husband or in reality my children.
And thanks previous poster for saying no one can deal with a toddler and a newborn cause I am STRUGGLING
Iād love to see Pea carry on her gentle parenting because Iāve gone from a sort of half and half part time crunchy to a full on shouty witch since being heavily pregnant and having a second child. I feel sorry for my poor children daily!The most recent story with the DM just seems a bit... āI am a good mum, really! I donāt I JUST get criticism!ā It appears to me that she actually does get quite a bit of push back from those who arenāt her slightly crazy, avid fans. I say this because she spends so much time defending her parenting decisions and someone comfortable with their choices, to my mind, wouldnāt need to. I think itās a bit sad. Have the courage of your convictions. If she really thinks what she is doing is the best for everyone then she should crack on. But I couldnāt do it, and Iām not convinced it would be healthy for me, my husband or in reality my children.
She clearly feels that way about all schools else she would have used her school as examples of what is done properly. If she thinks her school is lovely, she would send Raven thereYeah, that colleague had obviously been irritated just how many anti-school articles Nicola has been sharing (Iām guessing it was a fair few!), and decided to call her out as a hypocrite. Good for her. She was obviously squirming a bit āOh, but not all schools are as lovely as OUR school you know...ā
Are those skid marks in the toilet I can see in the photo of her newly decorate bathroom?... someone tell me theyāre not. Please.
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