I’ve had two children and one currently around the same age as R, I am a gentle parent but not a permissive parent. I honestly can’t even imagine either of my kids hitting anyone at all I would feel awful. Also.... the hitting them and hitting a teacher is surely a control/power thing which is quite telling. She talks about gentle parenting but actually R’s behaviour shows that R has developed issues surrounding adults which is bizarre as surely if Nicolas style of parenting is as amazing as she makes out then surely R would have good attachment with adults. She will determine that R hits adults because they are her ‘safe space’ etc etc but I would argue that my children see me as their safe space but we also have a loving and non violent relationship. She is starting to see that her style of parenting is all jolly and lovely while they are babies and aged 2 when you can forgive their behaviour etc. But when they hit 4 and 10 and 15.... this is where the tit hits the fan. Is she going to describe R’s behaviour as letting out her emotions etc when she is 14 in the back of a corsa going off for a fight in the park??