I am lucky enough to get an hour lunch break, so I listened to the podcast today, and am very hormonal, so rant incoming!
I am SOOO FUCKING SICK of privileged people doing podcasts and giving “advice” to people in an uninformed, uneducated manner that does more harm than good!
1) as a Psychologist who uses trauma informed approaches, why is she giving out UNFACTUAL information to people? She says “gut” intuition feels “calm” and quiet, meanwhile fear feels anxious and erratic. WRONG! Gut feelings or intuition produce strong physical signs, they never feel “calm”, because we have evolved specifically so that the purpose of a gut feeling is to warn you about something bad or wrong, by way of butterflies or knots in your stomach for example. So what the actual fuck is she talking about. I think she’s basically saying that when she gets those physical signs, she passes it off as “fear” based purely on previous experience, rather than a gut feeling, and so ignores it and takes this as a GREEN LIGHT to carry on what she’s doing!!!!! I presume this has happened in her relationship with Jamie, her gut is telling her to run for the hills, but she’s ignored it, palmed it off as “fear”, and instead embraced it. Wtf
2) and therein lies the theme of the podcast and the theme of all of Niomi’s content; using warped logic to justify her terrible life decisions. Making bad choices and choosing a narrative that supports the decision after she’s done it.
3) My jaw dropped to the floor when she gave an example of an “unexpected change” that previously would have thrown her off, as her and Jamie not being able to use his partners car one morning. Wtf! Who the hell does she think she is to be preaching to people when these are her average “unexpected changes”? I don’t know if it’s because I’m in work that I’m getting wound up, but for me an unexpected change would be a patient’s risk escalating so much that a total last minute review of their assessment and plan is needed to keep that person and other patients/staff safe. That happens on the regular and doesn’t phase me one bit. How the hell do these buffoons function
4) She gave an example of getting bogged down with “life admin” as “choosing what to wear”
oh how I wish I had any time on a weekend to think about what designer sunglasses would look best with my designer trench coat!
Fucking hell.
I would love to spend 1-1 time with her and figure out how much awareness she has of what she’s doing to herself and why. She clearly cannot physically be single and has really poor coping skills and unhelpful attachment styles, despite being a yoga teacher and knowing about mindfulness and having all the money and time in the world to get therapy and get some real introspection
Influencers blow my mind.
