Again, sorry if it’s been discussed on an earlier thread… but I didnt know much about Niomis family so I did a bit of insta scrolling this morning over my smoothie bowl toast. Im not ashamed to say I got lost in a bit of a companies house wormhole, so brace yourselves.
At surface value it seems as though the women in her family (her mum Verity, grandma Terrina) are quite nouveau riche and snobby. I can’t quite put my finger on why I’m picking up on those vibes. Maybe its the way terrina advertises being a member of the rotary club? Maybe it’s the fact terrina is an out and out Theresa May fan? Maybe it’s because terrina posts things like pictures of louboutins (in other words, showing off money).
Terrina doesn’t mention any past career. On companies house, someone named Terrina based in Sussex, born in 1945, opened a child care company in 1989 as a “life coach”. Looks as though it might’ve been dissolved around 1997 and a shareholder who got about £100k was an “I R Steel” so was this company bankrolled by Terrina’s husband, Ian?
Her mum (verity) has owned a restaurant for years yet posts more pictures of fancy cars and handbags than she does of say, food.
I know a restaurant owner and he is up in the early hours perfecting his recipes. He is passionate about it. It takes that much passion because a restaurant is hard to run.
It doesn’t look like Verity has a huge involvement in it. Or if she does, it’s not obvious on the company website, Instagram or her personal Instagram. She’s not listed as being manager of the restaurant, and the company/restaurant was only created after she married Paul. (Paul is a whole other wormhole and interesting character… he’s a director of just how many companies?!)
(im going to hazard a guess that the restaurant and whatever writing verity does, is a bit of a vanity project or hobby. I imagine their real source of income is Paul’s properties.)
in other words, what did Verity do before she got married? What did Terrina do? (I’m also assuming her current husband is not Niomi’s grandfather because of the different surname).
These women clearly have money - they have designer shoes, dresses and handbags. They holiday frequently. Terrina alludes to a second home in Florida. They drive expensive cars and frequently post at expensive restaurants and hotels.
Does Niomi come from a line of women who have strategically married the “right” men who can provide them with money, social standing and all that?
Does she come from a line of women who pursue men and model themselves on the men in their lives, instead of pursuing their own goals?
Does she come from a line of women who prioritise social class, outward appearances, money?
If so, you can understand how Niomi has gotten to where she is now, why she finds it hard to connect with people and why the likes of Bradley doesn’t give red flags (“red flags don’t look like red flags when they feel like home”)
at face value, it’s easy to envy Niomi a life of big houses in Sussex, lots of family wealth, designer wardrobe etc etc. But I wonder at what cost that comes at. How much judgement she endures at home, what sort of behaviours are/were modelled for her.
I wrote before that Niomi was a passive person, that she wasn’t happy. And I think she’s been taught to be that way. To be passive specifically to men. It doesn’t make me like the way she conducts herself online any more but it does help me perhaps, sympathise a bit more with her. Judge her a little less harshly.