No way am I saying its ALL nurses far from it, but there are some who are just not cut out for the nursing profession.
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That I fully agree with!
Sending you a huge virtual hug. No wonder after 3 years of crap NHS support, on top of your suffering, that you feel let down and vulnerable.
Good you have a partner, as I understand how isolating it is on your own.
Is there any women centre/support groups near you ? Though not medical, if you feel confident to make contact, it may help increase your sense of well-being and someone may be able to support you.
Can you change doctors ?
I empathise and I hope that your pain and problems are a thing of the past soon. Take care.
I realize how pushed and stressed out the NHS staff are atm, especially considering the backlog due to the pandemic, etc, but has anyone here experienced less than courteous and professional treatment from any NHS staff?
A few months ago, my sister-in-law told me she left a consultant's office in tears because of the way he spoke to her. She said when she left his office the nurse outside comforted her and told her not to take any notice, that he was well known for his abrupt manner - tbh I thought she must have been exaggerating or have picked him up wrong or something, but now I'm not so sure, because this week a close friend also had quite an unpleasant experience when she had a scan/ultrasound at the hospital. She said the way she was spoken to (three times!) by whoever was carrying out the procedure was completely out of order but she felt too scared and vulnerable to say anything to him as she was laying there half-naked, and as she says - at his mercy, and had she complained and left, she'd have to wait for ages for another appointment, probably at the same hospital, with maybe the same person.
It made me wonder, has anyone else experienced anything similar?
A few months ago, my sister-in-law told me she left a consultant's office in tears because of the way he spoke to her. She said when she left his office the nurse outside comforted her and told her not to take any notice, that he was well known for his abrupt manner - tbh I thought she must have been exaggerating or have picked him up wrong or something, but now I'm not so sure, because this week a close friend also had quite an unpleasant experience when she had a scan/ultrasound at the hospital. She said the way she was spoken to (three times!) by whoever was carrying out the procedure was completely out of order but she felt too scared and vulnerable to say anything to him as she was laying there half-naked, and as she says - at his mercy, and had she complained and left, she'd have to wait for ages for another appointment, probably at the same hospital, with maybe the same person.
It made me wonder, has anyone else experienced anything similar?
Yes, but not at the NHS - in New Zealand.
I'm experiencing a lot of the same from retail workers.
I get that everyone's under pressure and we're living in strange times but even so ...
I'm experiencing a lot of the same from retail workers.
I get that everyone's under pressure and we're living in strange times but even so ...
Yes, last year I had the shock of what they thought was an extremely rare kind of brain tumour found. The idiot of a consultant at my local hospital thought it was a great idea to get a student doctor to do my initial examination. For some reason the junior doctor literally despised me on sight and was so unkind to me, when I first went into her office she was sat at her computer in the dark and ignored me for ten minutes then yelled, “Oh my god you haven’t put the footplate down!!!!” on the chair I had sat on in the dark 
As she examined me she ran out of the room shouting, “I need to get the consultant!!!” which made me think they’d found abou ten more tumours (they hadn’t, it was just the one I already knew about). She did that at least twice. I was in so much shock I didn’t think to ask for the junior doctor to leave. (My father was terminally ill at the time and the day before had almost died and was actually laid up in the hospital on the day I was being examined - two massively stressful events in one.) Anyway the (absolutely terrible) consultant then took over and was like yeah, it’s probably cancer, don’t be shocked if the senior brain tumour specialist in the UK phones you in the next day or two. I burst into tears but all I could feel was the hostile presence of that junior doctor, I could literally feel her breathing on me as she stood over my shoulder as I cried. I can still feel it now, Angel of death vibes for sure. She was right in my personal space, I just wanted her to go away. When the consultant was examining me the junior doctor kept saying, “Keep your eyes shut” and “Don’t move!” It was so aggressive for what was a terribly sad situation. As I left the office I looked right at her and said thank you, she kept her eyes to the floor and never said a word, it was so uncomfortable! She should not ever be let around the public.
Anyway, they forced me, against my will, to attend a clinic across the other side of the country and thank god, it wasn’t a tumour but an old scar. They were so professional and friendly in that clinic, and it is a world renowned clinic.
i Almost killed myself because of what I experienced in my local hospital. They were so eager to tell me I had cancer that they totally dehumanised me. It was horrendous. I have a huge phobia of medical settings now.
As she examined me she ran out of the room shouting, “I need to get the consultant!!!” which made me think they’d found abou ten more tumours (they hadn’t, it was just the one I already knew about). She did that at least twice. I was in so much shock I didn’t think to ask for the junior doctor to leave. (My father was terminally ill at the time and the day before had almost died and was actually laid up in the hospital on the day I was being examined - two massively stressful events in one.) Anyway the (absolutely terrible) consultant then took over and was like yeah, it’s probably cancer, don’t be shocked if the senior brain tumour specialist in the UK phones you in the next day or two. I burst into tears but all I could feel was the hostile presence of that junior doctor, I could literally feel her breathing on me as she stood over my shoulder as I cried. I can still feel it now, Angel of death vibes for sure. She was right in my personal space, I just wanted her to go away. When the consultant was examining me the junior doctor kept saying, “Keep your eyes shut” and “Don’t move!” It was so aggressive for what was a terribly sad situation. As I left the office I looked right at her and said thank you, she kept her eyes to the floor and never said a word, it was so uncomfortable! She should not ever be let around the public.Anyway, they forced me, against my will, to attend a clinic across the other side of the country and thank god, it wasn’t a tumour but an old scar. They were so professional and friendly in that clinic, and it is a world renowned clinic.
i Almost killed myself because of what I experienced in my local hospital. They were so eager to tell me I had cancer that they totally dehumanised me. It was horrendous. I have a huge phobia of medical settings now.
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In my experience of various elderly relatives my partner and myself being in hospital I would say it’s the exception you get any nice staff and most of this was pre covid . I have to say some of the people I know from school and around my town who have now entered nursing makes me terrified to be in their care some of the nastiest thickest bullies I’ve met now work for the NHS . But if you say anything about the NHS people go on as though they’re all heroes and angels even though they are doing a job they chose to do .
I had an undiagnosed 3rd degree tear after giving birth, it took me years of going back and forward for the NHS to realise and help me manage the problems it caused me. A colorectal surgeon told me it was part of being a woman. I dragged him through a formal complaint for it.
I went on to have two surgeries for it with another next year.. They bend over backwards with long term aftercare.
I must have a mark on my notes
I went on to have two surgeries for it with another next year.. They bend over backwards with long term aftercare.
I must have a mark on my notes
A friend of mine had something like this happen. She was unable to get out of bed by herself and the staff in the maternity unit were always too busy to bring her baby to her.I had an undiagnosed 3rd degree tear after giving birth, it took me years of going back and forward for the NHS to realise and help me manage the problems it caused me. A colorectal surgeon told me it was part of being a woman. I dragged him through a formal complaint for it.
I went on to have two surgeries for it with another next year.. They bend over backwards with long term aftercare.
I must have a mark on my notes
Years ago, I had an eye consultant tell me I was making up a vision problem I had. The surgeon who put my smashed-up wrist back together was terrifying and had the bedside manner of a Dalek, but she did a great job on the actual wrist so she is let off.
When my mum was diagnosed with a tumour in her bladder, the consultant she had was so nice and had previously got my brother into remission with his carefully planned treatment when he had testicular cancer a year previous. He actually said to my mum "we've got this, I will CURE you". She then had to see another consultant for a possible operation and he was blunt as hell and said "if I operate, you'll be dead in six months". Well the whole family was in an uproar because my mum was very frightened as it was and other staff encouraged mum to complain. Here's the twist though, mum died within about four months without the operation. Looking back, the second nasty consultant was actually the only one who didn't sugarcoat things and give false hope. He told it like it was, not being afraid to actually do his job even if he came across as a blunt bastard. Out of all the staff who dealt with mum, the second blunt consultant was the only one who with hindsight, got it spot on.
I'd rather have someone who's not bothered about being liked and gives true odds as opposed to being told I can be cured with chemotherapy no problems at all. The chemotherapy actually killed mum in the end.
I'd rather have someone who's not bothered about being liked and gives true odds as opposed to being told I can be cured with chemotherapy no problems at all. The chemotherapy actually killed mum in the end.
A few years ago I went to a mental health assessment.
The Doctor that did the assessment seemed ok but when she asked about my day to day life and I explained I often struggled to get out of the house or speak to people because I was so anxious, she pretty much dismissed me by saying “well if that’s the case how come you’ve been fine for the past hour?” Trying to explain that there were good and bad days and this was obviously a good day as on a bad day I just wouldn’t have turned up for the appointment fell on deaf ears.
I felt I may as well give up trying to get help after that, until I attempted suicide a few months later.
The Doctor that did the assessment seemed ok but when she asked about my day to day life and I explained I often struggled to get out of the house or speak to people because I was so anxious, she pretty much dismissed me by saying “well if that’s the case how come you’ve been fine for the past hour?” Trying to explain that there were good and bad days and this was obviously a good day as on a bad day I just wouldn’t have turned up for the appointment fell on deaf ears.
I felt I may as well give up trying to get help after that, until I attempted suicide a few months later.
Not the NHS I underwent an abdominal procedure. They gave me sedation before the endoscopy which was fine but then I woke in the hospital corridor to see I was in the operating theatre bit. It looked like something out of the Hostel movies I saw people being operated on , one woman groaning in the recovery area. I said I didn't want to go through with it and they held me down , I woke up twice during this procedure one where the doctor asked me was I awake while they were cutting me. Yeah I bleeping did. I woke up at the end and the staff were talking in a language I didn't understand it really freaked me out. I started thrashing out again and had to be taken straight to my room upstairs. bleeping horrific and gave me PTSD.
The operation I next had at another hospital couldn't have been more different because of my PTSD they sedated me in a side room then I woke up in my bed all done.
The operation I next had at another hospital couldn't have been more different because of my PTSD they sedated me in a side room then I woke up in my bed all done.
BIB I totally agree
The only nice NHS staff member I encountered when my dad was in and out of hospital for a year was the lady serving dinner. Everyone else was so rude and uncaring. I raised several complaints about staff as they would try to get my dad who had advanced dementia and aphasia (can't talk) to answer questions or make decisions on his care when I was sitting there with full Power of Attorney. They even tried stating at one point that the care home staff member who had accompanied him to hospital had more authority over his care than I did
My friend had a miscarriage at the start of the year and the ultrasound tech just said "your womb is empty" not "sorry I can't see anything" or similar. I understand it is their job but have a bit of compassion! She was on her own as they still had covod restrictions which makes it even more disgusting.
I find a lot of GPs to be rude and uncaring. Almost like they’re disappointed that you aren’t more ill 
There’s 2 threads called NHS - good & not so good stories and it shows how the care we are receiving is very hit and miss and can be often dire and dangerous. I love the NHS in theory but from what I’ve experienced I hate how they treat people and the experiences are often explained away as ‘that’s just their manner/who they are, take no notice’ and almost encourage you not to complain. I’m quite fearful for the future because the NHS is going downhill
I don’t know if this is the right thread but I couldnt find a general NHS thread . I’d like to start off my saying I think NHS workers are SOOO underpaid for what they do and I really am thankful we don’t have a set up like for example America where it all comes down to insurance and a doc app costs £400,000 .
Anyway if anyone could explain to me because I can’t work out - why are they striking when it’s a known fact the NHS is failing and underpays everyone , this is not new news . I do get the idea of making noise around the situation for a change and I think they should get mass pay increases and improved budgets along with teachers and the other emergency services . I just can’t understand why people go for the jobs knowing what they are getting in too . It’s not like it’s really easy to get into these positions ,midwife’s have 3/4 years of uni to become an underpaid NHS worker . I don’t know I get it totally but I also just don’t get it . I realise everything I’ve wrote is a mass contradiction lol
Anyway if anyone could explain to me because I can’t work out - why are they striking when it’s a known fact the NHS is failing and underpays everyone , this is not new news . I do get the idea of making noise around the situation for a change and I think they should get mass pay increases and improved budgets along with teachers and the other emergency services . I just can’t understand why people go for the jobs knowing what they are getting in too . It’s not like it’s really easy to get into these positions ,midwife’s have 3/4 years of uni to become an underpaid NHS worker . I don’t know I get it totally but I also just don’t get it . I realise everything I’ve wrote is a mass contradiction lol
There's one receptionist at my GP surgery who is so rude she has made multiple people I know cry, including myself and even laughed at me once on the phone when I tried to explain my symptons as she'd asked me to.
I won't say what I call her in private but I really wonder how she has not been sacked because the other staff are nothing like her and she must have had so many complaints.
I do sympathise with the amount of abuse NHS staff get but I can't imagine anyone abusing this person, she seems to get in there first totally unprovoked.
I won't say what I call her in private but I really wonder how she has not been sacked because the other staff are nothing like her and she must have had so many complaints.
I do sympathise with the amount of abuse NHS staff get but I can't imagine anyone abusing this person, she seems to get in there first totally unprovoked.
i was in hospital for a suicide attempt (straining on the service ik but I tried not to make a bother of any nurses or staff) and the doctor told me I should just try exercising and to try harder 
a kind nurse came to me whilst I was crying and said that particular doctor has many complaints so I felt a little justified aha
a kind nurse came to me whilst I was crying and said that particular doctor has many complaints so I felt a little justified aha
I wonder if you're registered in the surgery I work in cos this sounds familiar.