Danni rubs me up totally the wrong way, trying to figure out exactly why, but it's really just a gut reaction to her smug holier than thou act.
And YES so many people I know who are childfree have made it permanent early in their lives. I don't think she is as commited to the idea as she claims in insta.
Yeah, I was much the same, and I think it's the know-it-all (but-actually-quite-ignorant) vibes for me. She comes across as incredibly sheltered, privileged and judgmental. Like many have said, a lot of what she shares as being able to do because she's cHiLdFrEe isn't even about being childfree, it's about being a middle class white woman who has the luxury of being supported by a full time working husband.
I don't want to detract from the pain she felt in an emotionally abusive relationship, because I know it's real and I know it's horrific in its own way, but pitching herself as a voice for abused women and speaking as if she intimately understands trauma really irks me when from everything she's shared, it sounds like her ex was a
twit -
for sure - and he behaved inappropriately, was controlling and possessive -
for sure - but it's just not the same as horrific physical violence where you are essentially imprisoned, injured, totally and utterly demeaned, and in constant fear for your life (or, in the most extreme cases, have your life taken). It's not. Knowing
that version of abuse, it makes me feel ... all sorts of things when she gets on her high horse about abuse. And there was always an uncomfortable undercurrent where I felt like a lot of it, again, was simply trying to find a niche. Playing on that sort of
tit for engagement never sat well with me - and sure enough, when it didn't take off but something else did, she stopped talking about it altogether and instead went balls-to-the-wall on what got likes, and now presents herself totally differently.
Now it's the same with the childfree angle; she's NOT childfree - she's just a woman who hasn't had kids yet. She'll flog this horse loud and proud and pretend she's on the same wavelength as everyone else she's "created a community" for, but it's not true.
It just feels like it's all been incrementally less and less authentic. The fakeness grinds my gears. It's like the less she believes what she's putting out, the harder she goes on it, the smugger she appears, and as people celebrate her sass she leans into that more and crosses into mean girl territory. To perpetuate a narrative that's NOT EVEN TRUE.