New Zealand Influencers and Public Figures #26

[WatermelonSugar22]

PREACH IT EMILY
CALL IT OUTTTTTT

 

[SimoneAnderSpon]

Blushing here. Emily Writes is rad, and tbh a great example of ways you can discuss your child's neurodivergence without being a butthole. I love how much she shows him she loves him by taking interest in his special interests. As an autistic gal that gives me the happy flappies (my hands, you pervs! )

 

[tryharder]

So MFM is making her kids stay in their rooms on devices while she records her content, how sad for those kids. Get them outside to play. Do they have a trampoline? Those kids are stuck inside 24/7

They have a tramp. But it’s the anniversary of when the boy broke his arm on the tramp. And that ruined Maria. So maybe a bit much to expect them to use the tramp ever again.

 

[SimoneAnderSpon]

Just gonna go into this because... there's so much wrong here.
This is way too long but it was cathartic, as an autistic woman who has dealt with bullshit like this from 'autism moms' who treat actual autistic people like we are incompetent and/or not worth listening to.

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1. How was it toxic? Please elaborate. What's toxic about posting about talking about your children respectfully, even if they have *gasp* neurodivergence?

2. "I'm an ND mum" - you are ND yourself or you're a mum to a child who is neurodivergent? Or both? Because these things are quiiite different.

3. There is absolutely a way to be REAL without shitting on your kid. Neurodivergent children are still worthy of respect, of privacy, of being the ones in charge of what they share and don't.

4. This sentence is just so fucked. "I'm embarrassed I ever enjoyed Emily's content" - for someone who's decided they feel like if you don't agree with Emily, you are banished, you are pretty damn quick to decide she's banished from YOUR life as well as your past, since you disagree with her here lol.
"Women shouldn't tear other women down like this" - IT'S NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING WOMEN. This is white feminist bullshit. Not only CAN women disagree with each other, we SHOULD disagree with each other. How can people learn and grow if they just sit in an echo chamber of "you go girl!"? That's pathetic.

5. Yeah but no, some opinions are shit. Your apparent opinion of "I should be allowed to complain about my neurodivergent child as much as I want publicly because it's my reality" is yours, sure, but I don't have to respect it or agree with it. I think it's "toxic" and unkind to your child.

6. As I mentioned above... this feels like projection since it's exactly what you proposed to do with Emily in general. I think this is your insecurity speaking.
Secondly... Emily wrote a couple of instagram stories about the topic, with no names mentioned. Many people didn't even know who they -might- even reference. She didn't message it to Marnie, she didn't MAKE anyone read it, or agree with it. Frankly, Emily probably doesn't even know you exist and won't miss your follow. The whole "banished" thing is very melodramatic.

7. The Pebbles Hooper comparison is fucking hilarious. Pebbles wrote that shit about "natural selection" in a really inappropriate circumstance among other things. Emily Writes uh... wrote a few instagram stories discussing respecting your neurodivergent children and social media boundaries. If these are equivalent to you, I think *you* are the issue here.

 

[trentstillworksfromhome]

MFM is actually beyond my comprehension.

- SHE HAS NO OTHER WORK RESPONSIBILITIES OTHER THAN BEING A STAY AT HOME MUM.
- And yet, she complains about having to shoulder the bulk of the “mental load” of the life she has chosen, and is supported financially to keep.
- She has extended family close by who seem involved and supportive.
- She “Vaguebooks” a post about mothers doing it without a village, heavily implying this is how she feels about her own situation.
- She has more support than many mothers who are working full time as well as trying to parent.
- She keeps pretending that it’s over 30 degrees when it’s only mid-20s.
- She complains about things that are completely within her control to change, as if she is powerless.
- She talks about anxiety and mental health struggles, and yet doesn’t seem to be doing any counselling or seeking help for these.

Maria. Stop talking to the internet about these things looking for head pats and “poor you” and do something in real life that will make your real life better. For you AND your family.

 

[LadyChat]

I wonder if DD CF realises that kids grow up. They're at home for about 18-20 years, then they leave.... independent... gone. Then you get the best of both worlds.

Freedom, AND kids. Kids that now cook xmas dinner for you. Who buy you the things from Father Rabbit that you've mentioned you love. Who use coasters on your polished wood tables, and sit around your new stone kitchen Island, praising your interior design choices. Who come out to dinner and drink wine with you.... You pay the bill of course, but still.... Kids aren't babies and toddlers forever.

 

[thermominx]

I don’t have a dog, but I may one day get a dog. For now though, am I dog-free-parenting?

I might start a group.

How revolutionary!

 

[hobsonville_housewife]

Go the whipped girlies.
anyone know what Jess is doing today? I’m blocked heheh

Jess is onto it, she’s dropping off free food and coffees to people who are helping out. Credit where credit is due!

 

[#gifted#]

Omg Skete did some 'anon' stories and left 2 with their name still showing and one was hating her husband and one was wanting to leave her relationship

 

[Jeffery]

Danni is so going to have a kid. Then her ‘space’ will be all about the phases of life and having the power to change your mind bla bla bla.

just reading the comments in Ellie’s post now and can’t get past Jessie Guru and the hun. I hate the word hun so much now thanks to MLM cunts. I read it like she’s really talking down to Ellie.

 

[Effluencer]

I agree, how do two people on supposedly good incomes (she pays herself $600 a week which isn't bad for just posting on socials) not afford a house but all of the people I know with kids do? It doesn't add up when she talks about being able to afford beauty treatments, $60 tumblers, a $200 skirt etc. I understand it's obviously not their priority but if you're going to throw stones and say that people with kids can't afford things then how is it they have homes and you don't because you 'can't afford it'. I think it's more about being able to get a loan from the bank being an influencer....surely her parents could help her out, they're certainly not poor but hey - maybe I'll just go create some 'home owner' content and start a club

Hey, I'll join your home owner's community! We can all make snarky reels and tiktoks about why it's so great owning our own homes and when renters point out that it's not always that great we'll tell them that our content isn't meant for them and they can go and sit with the other peasants.

 

[Peaches24]

I thought what Ellie wrote about the whole CF thing was actually pretty good and it made me happy to continue following her as I'd been wondering lately if she was relevant to me and considered unfollowing (it was the Italian food comments). I unfollowed DD a few weeks back as I felt the CF content didn't quite sit right with me. There is just something slightly judgemental and patronising about it. Sort of like if you have kids you just wouldn't understand. It's 2 years since I officially left my CF life and became a mum and I guess I am still trying to reconcile my new life with what my previous CF life was and I just find the current trend in influencers smirking about their CF lives a bit hard. Jessie Guru's comments surprised me a little as I expected a better balance on the subject from her. Sketes were probably pretty predictable.

I felt the same- it just all feels a bit smug, I appreciated Ellie telling her experience, but to have a whole lot of so call influencer tell her that the way she is feeling is invalided is really shit.
I wish I was able to be child free and living my best life- I have had 6 pregnancies none of which have made it, I tried for years, spent mega bucks, every month was another negative test and/or miscarriages numerous trips to doctors, infertility specialist, hospital etc any way I won’t bore you all with the details but being childless by circumstance is awful, you grieve the children you lost , grieve the life you wanted to have, you don't fall into either group not a parent and definitely not stoked to be child less.
I think that DD fails to remember that you never know what some one else is going through, people are allowed to disagree with you- some people don’t get a choice it is just taken from them.

 

[shytetalker2.0]

His brother is is odd looking. Like a Wish version of a young Billy Ray Cyrus

Tell me again how much his hair transplant cost? Has it made a lick of difference? Would have better to invest the cash in getting his wandering eye sorted

Yuck. I say it all the time but Christian is so sleezy and gross to me. There’s something MAJORLY off about him that I can’t put a finger on. It’s nothing to do with his sexuality or anything like that he just gives me really icky vibes.

 

[Peaches87]

I just can’t stand DD

What a bitch. She couldn't even add in a comment to say sorry that you're struggling to conceive or something along those lines. I never used to want kids at all and still didn't right up until my baby was born! Couldn't live without my baby now and don't miss my child free life at all. I hope Ellie gets her Bubba

 

[qwertypumps]

Had a bit of a lightbulb moment about why DD is so irritating to me -similar reason as to why lots of these influencers annoy me like Emcult - is that she doesn't have a 'real' job, and a lot of what she is bragging about doing, is partially just due to not having to really work. I mean yes she has flexibility - mostly due to not being tied to a job. I think I would give her more credibility if she was working hard, not spending most of the day talking to her phone

Exactly. She said she popped out for a G&T this arvo because she has the freedom to do so seeing as she is cHiLdFrEe. No Danni. You have the freedom to do so because you don’t have a fucking job

 

[Effluencer]

Lol it's because they're talking about each other! DD does say things sometimes that disses people with kids, like "I can buy myself nice things and can go do this and this because I don't have kids' basically implying that people with kids don't have nice things etc. I've seen heaps of DD stories being snarky thinking she's better than others because she's "child free" lol. I'm not sure if there is any other nz influencer that talks about child free as much as Danni, I think Ellie is talking about her lol, so DD commented acting dumb and now Ellie is probably trying to save face not thinking DD would comment. Why would you share a instagram post if you are aiming your message at people on tik tok.

I wonder if Danni ever thinks about the fact that she has the lifestyle she does, not because she's childfree but because she has a husband who supports her while she fluffs about on the internet for a "job"?

There are plenty of people who don't have the luxury of spare time to stay in bed half the day or money to buy nice things etc, and it's got nothing to do with whether they have kids or not.

I guess saying "what I love about being a privileged stay at home snarky bitch" just isn't as catchy as "what I love about being childfree" though

 

[Sadie123]

Danni will have a kid one day. She's not child free, same as Morgan isn't celiac. She's actually just child intolerant

 

[Notascammer]

Does anyone else find MFM extremely immature?

From the stupid noises she makes to her kids, the nick names for her kids and the memes she posts, she's just incredibly immature!!

 

[WatermelonSugar22]

How do we feel about this?

Their job is to create engaging content. If no one is engaging then they suck at their jobs. These people need to stop begging for pity like and put their energy into genuinely interesting content.

 

[Black.bird]

O/T, but important:
Sending our Auckland friends lots of love and well wishes ... this storm is wreaking havoc on a major scale!
Please stay safe.
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