That’s what I expected her to do. To back off a bit and just be normal.I had a similar situation when me and my partner were first together.
I was a bit younger however and was only 21.
But I live 2 hours from my friend and when me and him were first together, she'd just had her son and I said oh yeah, we'll both come down and see you.
She cancelled the day before.
So I rearranged for a few weeks later and again I said, yeah, we'll both come. As she hadn't met him before so wanted her to meet him and get to know him as we were really close.
I didn't really think anything of it. Because in my head, I just wanted her to get to know him.
But the day before, she messaged and said that she wasn't comfortable with it as she didn't know him, especially as she'd just had her son.
And I completely understood and I've gone by myself since then. Like my partner said, he didn't really want to sit there listening to our "girl chatter" as he called it.
She's met him a couple of times since then but that's been at her kids parties that we've both gone to.
We hardly talk now anyway but that's just general drifting apart. Both being busy with our own families ect
I feel thisMy friends are more like aunties/uncles than their actual blood relatives
I hope you can find a good answer with your OH.Thank you! It seemed positive but the salary isn’t great so it’s a conversation with the OH.
He has a sensory class on a Monday so I think that’s having a good effect on him. We only had 4 quick wake ups including one at 4I’m not as knackered though.
How’s sleep going for you?x
That is so bizarre. At first, when you explained the situation, I was thinking could it be that he is mega controlling and won’t let her see you on her ownI'm so sorry about your dad and I’m sorry that you’ve also got someone trying to force someone into your babies life. It’s stressful enough that it’s my friend doing this to me, I honestly can’t imagine how it feels for your mum to do that to you. Your doing the right thing by Tommy, stick to your guns.
I’ve no idea how people feel so entitled to do shit like this. You are completely right when you said that THEY chose THEM. We didn’t.
I told my friend yesterday that I could meet up with her in a couple of weeks time, my partner will go meet his mate so we can just catch up in peace ie YOUR BOYFRIEND ISN’T INVITED. Woke up this morning to a message saying”me and Dickhead will come down together another time, hopefully soon so all four of us can all meet up & see each other plus baby Ems can meet her uncle”
my hands were shaking I was so angry with her! I typed out 3 or 4 replies blasting her with both barrels but ended up deleting them each time so I could cool off a bit. In the end I just haven’t replied to her. Words fail me.
He’s not her uncle, he’s a fucking random to me. She’s not listening to me and I have no idea why she is pushing so hard for this relationship to be forced.
I am sick to the back teeth of this. She has zero clue how tough it is to have a baby and doesn’t seem to understand that you have no time to yourself and even if you somehow do find a slither of time you don’t want to spend it with arseholes.
No clue how to even fix this, just solidarity with you and Tommy.
We’re the same that stretch was his longest it just came at the wrong time of the nightI hope you can find a good answer with your OH.
Sleep was better last night, only up every 1.5 hours with one 3 hour stretch but that's the first night in a long time so definitely not out of the woods but he has a lot going on right now! Weaning, first tooth coming, learned to get to sitting independently, crawling faster every day, so there's so many changes going on.
I think with partners there probably isn't any malice, I think people just obviously adore their partners and want to do everything with them and can't fathom others naturally won't feel the same. My OH's brother was like that, before he split up with his girlfriend she had to be EVERYWHERE with him, it was seriously weird to everyone but them (didn't help that noone was particularly keen on her, I suspect much loved spouses fit in much better!) I personally find it utterly bizarre because it doesn't even occur to me to take OH to everything, not because I don't love him, but because they are my friends/family and why the fuck would he enjoy being there? And vice versa. I'm personally extremely grateful I don't have to go to every MIL family function
I flip from each of those, is it him or is it her…it’s exhausting and I’m tired of it. It’s like dealing with love struck teenagers. It’s the fact that my baby keeps getting brought into the equation that’s the final straw.That is so bizarre. At first, when you explained the situation, I was thinking could it be that he is mega controlling and won’t let her see you on her ownbut actually it sounds as though it may be her trying to push it. I’m not sure what I would do in your situation to be honest but hope you manage to think of something - it would be a shame to lose the friendship but I totally get why it’s making you uncomfortable.
With the change of clothes, it's hard.Hi all
Baby o has done 2 half days at nursery so far and it seems to be going well. I’ve been calling halfway through the session to check in and I think she’s had a few moments of being overwhelmed and crying and she won’t sleep longer than 30 mins but I’m hoping that will settle down soon.
I always send her with a change of clothes because her key worker warned me they’d do messy play etc but both days so far she’s come home in the spare clothesbut yesterday her original clothes just had a few food stains and today it was some paint splashes, like surely they don’t require an entire change of clothes?
Also she had been learning to crawl but she was just doing a few shuffles round the living room - tonight I left her in the middle of the living room while I emptied her bag in the kitchen and heard a chuckle - the git had only barrelled down the hallway and was sat in the doorway
It’s difficult with the kids that do a half day cause they don’t get all that messy. The kids that do a full day we’d change them just after tea so their original clothes would end up filthy and they were going home clean just to get stripped off and thrown in the bath and bedWith the change of clothes, it's hard.
I worked in a nursery before and it's hard to get it right
Some parents would be annoyed at a slightly dirty top and question why you didn't change their top and then on the other hand, there's parents questioning why we bothered to change their clothes when it's got paint all over
My daughter painted herself blue at nursery once, and im talking actually head to toe looking like a smurf, and they just sent her out all blue as if nothing was amissWith the change of clothes, it's hard.
I worked in a nursery before and it's hard to get it right
Some parents would be annoyed at a slightly dirty top and question why you didn't change their top and then on the other hand, there's parents questioning why we bothered to change their clothes when it's got paint all over
My eldest used to go through 2-3 outfits a day at nursery. Now she’s 3, she generally manages to stay in the same outfit but as a baby she’d just come home with a pile of laundry each dayHi all
Baby o has done 2 half days at nursery so far and it seems to be going well. I’ve been calling halfway through the session to check in and I think she’s had a few moments of being overwhelmed and crying and she won’t sleep longer than 30 mins but I’m hoping that will settle down soon.
I always send her with a change of clothes because her key worker warned me they’d do messy play etc but both days so far she’s come home in the spare clothesbut yesterday her original clothes just had a few food stains and today it was some paint splashes, like surely they don’t require an entire change of clothes?
Also she had been learning to crawl but she was just doing a few shuffles round the living room - tonight I left her in the middle of the living room while I emptied her bag in the kitchen and heard a chuckle - the git had only barrelled down the hallway and was sat in the doorway
So I haven't had experience with it but I think that kathrynstaggibclc on Instagram has a highlight on it, and I think Lucy Ruddle has a group on Facebook called "UK Relactation and Adoptive Breastfeeding Support" but not sure if that's one you've tried that's not been very active. All the best with it!Hey mamas, Has anybody had any experience with relactation? I'm 4 months pp and giving it my best shot. Can't seem to find any forums or places to discuss it all the FB groups don't seem to be very chatty. Hv and GP weren't much use eithergrateful for volunteers on the helpline and the le leche support.
Thank you so much! Lucy Ruddle's book on it arrives tomorrow so I'll check the group outSo I haven't had experience with it but I think that kathrynstaggibclc on Instagram has a highlight on it, and I think Lucy Ruddle has a group on Facebook called "UK Relactation and Adoptive Breastfeeding Support" but not sure if that's one you've tried that's not been very active. All the best with it!
Is sleep training something you would do at home normally?Is it the absolute worst idea ever to try and sleep train the baby while on holiday?!? At home, either she feeds to sleep, or she’ll sleep in the pram / car, or I rock her in the rocking chair. This is now the second night she won’t feed to sleep and it’s now 9pm here. Husband is being useless and won’t help (well he is insistent that he can take her to the bar and rock her to sleep therebut he won’t try and rock her to sleep in our room). Is it daft to try some kind of sleep training method with the cot?! Lord knows, I just want to sleep!
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