New baby and post birth advice #2

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Definitelyme

@Hairraiser tbh I would be making a complaint about how dismissive she was, and how she didn’t take your concerns seriously at all. You are very clearly reaching out for help, and doctors should be bending over backwards to help you, as so many cases of PND are missed for so long. It’s an absolute disgrace that you were robbed off, I think it’s disgusting what she has done to you. Luckily, you seem like a very strong woman, who is ready to fight for the help she needs, and know that your treatment today was substandard. I dread to think what damage she would do to someone who doesn’t have your inner strength. Don’t listen to her. Don’t give up. Fight for what you deserve to get. I’m so sorry this happened x
 
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WhatABore

That's awful!!
I'd put in a complaint if I was you!
Although I can imagine you're fed up of having to complain about all the services you're receiving!
 
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Hairraiser

I’ve googled my local perinatal service but the only way to speak to them is via a referral? Is this something the HV can do? I feel I may get more success through them.
just had enough of it all now, why are some medical professionals so out of touch with things like this?

It just makes you lose all confidence in them doesn’t it? I really hope they are able to be more supportive & helpful if my boy ever needs help in the future
That’s a shame they even mentioned having more children, it’s not about the future it’s about now. Why do they have to be so dismissive?

I’m gonna contact my HV today and see what they say.

WhatABore said:
That's awful!!
I'd put in a complaint if I was you!
Although I can imagine you're fed up of having to complain about all the services you're receiving!
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Totally fed up. I’m waiting on the report from the Incident, not sure wether to take it further or not..it’s a difficult one

I think I may complain yes. I think she’s new , cause I’ve never seen or heard of her before.
she kept saying, ‘oh perhaps I should of read your notes I would of know that’
Maybe she realised after a while that she was being awful. There’s so much to my birth story even way before IVF I had a lot of problems in hospital during surgery i had before so I’m losing faith in the NHS completely.
 
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Icbaaaa

Yeah your HV can, I spoke with my HV and she put in an urgent referal to perinatal the same day and they called me a couple of hours later. I wasn't sure if you could directly contact them or not, my service has given me their direct number. It's utterly ridiculous, like others said definitely put in a complaint! The way you're being treated is horrible. If you feel things are getting far too much for you and you need to offload, you could always call PANDAS (they specialise in perinatal), samaritins or breathing space. My HV also contacted my GP to prescribe me anti depressants and perinatal prescribed me other medication too.
 
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Hushpuppy

Hi ladies, a lady I have been speaking to since finding out I'm pregnant gave birth yesterday and I'd like to send her a gift. My budget is £50. I was thinking maybe some food, but I wasn't sure, so thought I'd come to you guys for some ideas! Did any of you receive a present (through the post - we don't live locally unfortunately) that you really appreciated in the first week after giving birth?xx
 
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Hellofromtheotherside

Food 100%!!! It was the best present not thinking about what to cook everynight etc xx
 
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Lulu Goss

I haven’t had my baby yet (just lurking on this thread to see what’s to come ) but a lot of new mums I know have said how much they appreciated vouchers for things like hello fresh/just eat as cooking is the last thing they want to be doing in the first few weeks.
 
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moimoi

A family member emailed us a £50 Deliveroo voucher which was so lovely as they live far away and couldn’t cook us anything.
 
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Hushpuppy

Hellofromtheotherside said:
Not sure if it's a national thing but we had some meals from the brand 'cook' not sure if they do a voucher or somthing so she could order some meals online xxedited with the link https://www.cookfood.net/menu/meal-boxes/new-parents
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This is fab thank you, will look into it x

moimoi said:
A family member emailed us a £50 Deliveroo voucher which was so lovely as they live far away and couldn’t cook us anything.
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I will check her post code to see she gets it, because we don't get deliveroo here, even though I'm on the Essex/London border. Very strange!
 
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Hbirdette

You can get vouchers for a food company called “cook” all microwave/oven ready meals.
ETA: just seen this has already been mentioned
 
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Hushpuppy

Hbirdette said:
You can get vouchers for a food company called “cook” all microwave/oven ready meals.
ETA: just seen this has already been mentioned
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Yes thank you, I think I'm going to go for this option. They've got lots to choose from. Looks perfect. Thanks everyone x
 

WhatABore

Food yes, some self care items.
I got a bunch of bath bombs because I love baths and it was the best present. And (not that people have to gift me things obviously) but they were the only person that actually thought about me and not just baby!
 
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Hushpuppy

WhatABore said:
Food yes, some self care items.
I got a bunch of bath bombs because I love baths and it was the best present. And (not that people have to gift me things obviously) but they were the only person that actually thought about me and not just baby!
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Good idea! Maybe I will send a little pamper kit as well, with a bath bomb or salts, face mask and space mask! Fab idea thank you x
 
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Hairraiser

Thank you, I will do that then. I think you may have told me about this before? But I genuinely thought the GP would be more helpful, I was so wrong
I already take fluoxetine but I don’t think they’re any good for me, I need something abit stronger!
 
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Chickenandgravy

Is 3 weeks post partum too early to have a period?!

My post partum bleeding had pretty much tailed off but yesterday and today its back to being bright red and clotty like a period I'm exclusively breast feeding so I thought that kinda staved your periods off for a little while?
 
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Definitelyme

It most likely still your pp bleeding. Mine was on and off until 8 weeks this time, sometimes barely there, sometimes bright red again. Generally ebf does hold off your period (earliest I’ve ever had mine back is 9 months), but not always.
 
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Chickenandgravy

Definitelyme said:
It most likely still your pp bleeding. Mine was on and off until 8 weeks this time, sometimes barely there, sometimes bright red again. Generally ebf does hold off your period (earliest I’ve ever had mine back is 9 months), but not always.
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Ah right, thats good then i could be doing without them for another wee while
 
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mg89

We got a cook voucher after baby was born and it was great! So helpful!
 
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