New baby and post birth advice #2

[Upintheair83]

Yaaay i can now be on this thread as a new mum! my wee girl arrived on Saturday after a pretty quick labour and delivery, she's just perfect, although quite mucosy and quite sick (reflux?!) After feeding midwife supposed to be coming today...helpful when they don't give you a time though isn't it
Also does anyone have any remedies for chapped bleeding nipples? Nipple cream doesn't touch them, they got so bad yesterday I had to start pumping but the wee break has made it a bit more bearable today.
She's got tongue tie but because she can still latch they won't do much apparently!

So happy to hear this hun!!!!! Over the moon for you!! I loved following your pregnancy on that thread as we were similar due dates. Hope you are enjoying the baby bubble and enjoying lots of cuddles!!! Much love to you and baby hun xxx

 

[OIM]

This is interesting. I already take antidepressants & it has taken me years to find the right one for me and don’t want to mess with them. However, now I feel like I am struggling I want to try different methods of therapy other than an increase in meds. Plus, I feel like medication won’t help me to overcome the trauma, it’ll be nice to speak to a professional!
It sounds like you were happy with your treatment & you weren’t fobbed off.

can I ask, how long was your wait before you had the nurse come over?


Thank you for your reply. So sorry to hear about your dad
can I ask, what the CBT online has been like?

To be honest it was a last resort as I was finding it hard to fit in phone appts with a toddler and baby but it’s been much better than I thought. It’s helpful in a strange way to see things written down and be able to have a think before responding. It’s still an hour session like other therapy but just delivered online.

 

[Barra]

Hi ladies, I don’t have enough privileges to create a new thread but I feel like this may be the right fit. Open to correction though….
My two good friends (she/him) have just had a baby like - last night!
Just before the 20 wk scan I got them a belly cast and a mom pillow. They’ve been so great to me with recent relationship issues I’ve had.
I’d love to cook some meals for them to maximise sleep for them both and aid her recovery!
They do have a microwave but I know they would prefer ‘oven meals’. They only have it cos they used to Airbnb.
let me add they’re a mixed Korean/Irish couple so lots of variety there.
Any one have a list of meals they prepped in advance? I’ll obviously check with them before doing it if they have any prepared but hoping I could get some help here….2 adults and a wee one
feel free to remove/delete mods

 

[Definitelyme]

Hi ladies, I don’t have enough privileges to create a new thread but I feel like this may be the right fit. Open to correction though….
My two good friends (she/him) have just had a baby like - last night!
Just before the 20 wk scan I got them a belly cast and a mom pillow. They’ve been so great to me with recent relationship issues I’ve had.
I’d love to cook some meals for them to maximise sleep for them both and aid her recovery!
They do have a microwave but I know they would prefer ‘oven meals’. They only have it cos they used to Airbnb.
let me add they’re a mixed Korean/Irish couple so lots of variety there.
Any one have a list of meals they prepped in advance? I’ll obviously check with them before doing it if they have any prepared but hoping I could get some help here….2 adults and a wee one
feel free to remove/delete mods

Such a lovely thought! I am a tit cook so not a huge help but something my neighbour (who cooked us a lovely Thai green curry when our little one arrived) told me was that when she had her first someone cooked her the same curry, and Left if with the pouches of microwave rice so they didn’t have to do anything. So may be an idea if you’re doing something that goes with rice.

I suooose curry, chilli, bolognese& lasagne would be my go to for something if you want to reheat it.

Also, you could think about doing some lunches for them. I think it is massively over looked for new mums! Especially when OH is back to work and they are at home alone with a baby (plus older kids).

 

[LilyRose1234]

Hi ladies, I don’t have enough privileges to create a new thread but I feel like this may be the right fit. Open to correction though….
My two good friends (she/him) have just had a baby like - last night!
Just before the 20 wk scan I got them a belly cast and a mom pillow. They’ve been so great to me with recent relationship issues I’ve had.
I’d love to cook some meals for them to maximise sleep for them both and aid her recovery!
They do have a microwave but I know they would prefer ‘oven meals’. They only have it cos they used to Airbnb.
let me add they’re a mixed Korean/Irish couple so lots of variety there.
Any one have a list of meals they prepped in advance? I’ll obviously check with them before doing it if they have any prepared but hoping I could get some help here….2 adults and a wee one
feel free to remove/delete mods

This is such a lovely idea and no doubt will be much appreciated! From personal experience we got left a lasagne and cottage pie which we popped in the oven, and I also got a selection of homemade snack boxes to keep with me while I was breastfeeding which was so handy (fruit, nuts and chocolate). Also second the lunch idea - definitely gets overlooked!

 

[wakametango]

Guys I thought it would be best to post here.
My friend had a traumatic birth about 4 weeks ago and although she’s not opened up to me yet I keep hearing from other friends that she’s “angry”. She’s still piecing her emergency c section together and trying to process it all.

I’ve had a little look through and picked out perinatal mental health she can access via her GP but are there any other places she could go? I’m trying to make a list for her to she feels some support

thank you

 

[Definitelyme]

Guys I thought it would be best to post here.
My friend had a traumatic birth about 4 weeks ago and although she’s not opened up to me yet I keep hearing from other friends that she’s “angry”. She’s still piecing her emergency c section together and trying to process it all.

I’ve had a little look through and picked out perinatal mental health she can access via her GP but are there any other places she could go? I’m trying to make a list for her to she feels some support

thank you

That is so kind of you, and I’m so sorry to hear your friend is having such a difficult time. I don’t have any advice, unfortunately, just wanted to say you’re a great friend.

 

[Squiggle]

This thread has the most kind hearted people on here I have no advice for some of the recent posts, just want to say I appreciate how lovely you all are xx

 

[littlepup]

Guys I thought it would be best to post here.
My friend had a traumatic birth about 4 weeks ago and although she’s not opened up to me yet I keep hearing from other friends that she’s “angry”. She’s still piecing her emergency c section together and trying to process it all.

I’ve had a little look through and picked out perinatal mental health she can access via her GP but are there any other places she could go? I’m trying to make a list for her to she feels some support

thank you

See if her hospital has a birth reflections service. They will take her notes and go through everything to explain what happened and why, what decisions were made by the medics and the subsequent consequences etc. If she feels angry this may help her understand why it happened the way it did.

re: meals for new Mum. Lovey thought. I filled our freezer before baby came - I did Thai curry, Indian curry, lasagne, fish pie, chicken and leek pie filling (to top with a square of pre rolled puff pastry), chilli. I did some smaller portions to go on Jacket potatoes. Tbh we’ve still got some because I was more able to cook still than thought.
I wish I’d had some healthier snacks at the start. We were brought food but it was all cakes and treats. A fruit basket with some granola bars or similar would have been fab.

 

[Hbirdette]

Hi ladies, I don’t have enough privileges to create a new thread but I feel like this may be the right fit. Open to correction though….
My two good friends (she/him) have just had a baby like - last night!
Just before the 20 wk scan I got them a belly cast and a mom pillow. They’ve been so great to me with recent relationship issues I’ve had.
I’d love to cook some meals for them to maximise sleep for them both and aid her recovery!
They do have a microwave but I know they would prefer ‘oven meals’. They only have it cos they used to Airbnb.
let me add they’re a mixed Korean/Irish couple so lots of variety there.
Any one have a list of meals they prepped in advance? I’ll obviously check with them before doing it if they have any prepared but hoping I could get some help here….2 adults and a wee one
feel free to remove/delete mods

I second the lunch stuff, I still really struggle to eat lunch when I’m on my own - it’s not even that I don’t have time I just can’t be bothered even if it’s just the same stuff but in individual portions!
my mum made us cake when the baby came... she said it freezes really well but it never made it there

 

[wakametango]

See if her hospital has a birth reflections service. They will take her notes and go through everything to explain what happened and why, what decisions were made by the medics and the subsequent consequences etc. If she feels angry this may help her understand why it happened the way it did.

That sounds fab, sounds like exactly what she needs thank you

 

[Definitelyme]

See if her hospital has a birth reflections service. They will take her notes and go through everything to explain what happened and why, what decisions were made by the medics and the subsequent consequences etc. If she feels angry this may help her understand why it happened the way it did.

re: meals for new Mum. Lovey thought. I filled our freezer before baby came - I did Thai curry, Indian curry, lasagne, fish pie, chicken and leek pie filling (to top with a square of pre rolled puff pastry), chilli. I did some smaller portions to go on Jacket potatoes. Tbh we’ve still got some because I was more able to cook still than thought.
I wish I’d had some healthier snacks at the start. We were brought food but it was all cakes and treats. A fruit basket with some granola bars or similar would have been fab.

So true about the junk food. I have a very sweet tooth, and so my family always bring masses of sweets and chocolate when I give birth, but even I have a limit, and when you feel a bit bleugh anyway a nice fruit salad or something would have been fab!

 

[OIM]

Guys I thought it would be best to post here.
My friend had a traumatic birth about 4 weeks ago and although she’s not opened up to me yet I keep hearing from other friends that she’s “angry”. She’s still piecing her emergency c section together and trying to process it all.

I’ve had a little look through and picked out perinatal mental health she can access via her GP but are there any other places she could go? I’m trying to make a list for her to she feels some support

thank you

Definitely look into if her hospital has a birth reflections service.

 

[Hellofromtheotherside]

How long will it take for my milk to dry up the pain is real right now!!!!

 

[Pinkii]

How long will it take for my milk to dry up the pain is real right now!!!!

Took a good 3/4 weeks for mine to dry up, first few days was awful, i felt so ill.

 

[LilyRose1234]

does anyone have a recommendation for a pram suitable for a newborn that folds up to take on a plane?

 

[WhatABore]

How long will it take for my milk to dry up the pain is real right now!!!!

Mine took about 4 weeks. But the pain/uncomfortable time was around a week and a half.
Although at 14 weeks, still not completely dried up!

 

[OIM]

does anyone have a recommendation for a pram suitable for a newborn that folds up to take on a plane?

babyzen yo-yo or mountain buggy nano

 

[Jojoo]

does anyone have a recommendation for a pram suitable for a newborn that folds up to take on a plane?

Baby zen love it so much

 

[HoneyBee29]

Hi ladies, I’m currently on Sertraline for PPD only started it a few days ago has anyone else been on this medication and lost their appetite and if so did it last the whole time you where on the medication or did it go away?