Onto number 2
Sending you loads of love. I can’t imagine how hard it must be for you reaching the milestones, and packing things up, and knowing it’s this one time only. I am sure your lovely son will not suffer in the slightest for being an only child, and maybe if your brother has children then your son’s cousins will be as close to him as you and your brother are. My kids are very close to their cousins, and it’s wonderful relationshipReading posts about those of you who are keeping hold of your baby stuff makes me happy for you all but sad for myself. A few on here may know that my little boy was conceived via NHS funded IVF. I’m only entitled to one round so we won’t be having another baby.
I am so infertile that there’s more chance of pigs flying to the moon than having a baby naturally
I sold his Moses basket & lots of other baby stuff that he’s grown out of and the lady buying them asked me ‘are you not planning on having another one then?’ Because she was a stranger I just said ‘no unfortunately not’
Deep down I wanted to say ‘mind your own business, just give me your money and get out’
I did have a little cry after at the realisation of my situation
my boy is 4 months old and I have absolutely loved every minute of it, even the sleepless nights
But I do worry that he will struggle having no siblings, but I do try and tell myself that he won’t know any different so it shouldn’t affect him too much
I had an older brother and he always looked after me, he still does, and over the years we’ve made some amazing memories with all of our family. We have such a close bond too.
anyway, not really sure of the point to this post but I guess it’s just niggling away at the back of my mind. Sorry if I’ve brought the threads mood down
Thank you for your kind words, they made me smile! You’re right , I really hope he grows up with his cousins. Although his only cousins atm are much older than him, they aren’t overly interested in him right nowSending you loads of love. I can’t imagine how hard it must be for you reaching the milestones, and packing things up, and knowing it’s this one time only. I am sure your lovely son will not suffer in the slightest for being an only child, and maybe if your brother has children then your son’s cousins will be as close to him as you and your brother are. My kids are very close to their cousins, and it’s wonderful relationship
As you said, he won't know any different. And that's the main thing to think about.Thank you for your kind words, they made me smile! You’re right , I really hope he grows up with his cousins. Although his only cousins atm are much older than him, they aren’t overly interested in him right now
Trying not to dwell on things and enjoy these moments
Yeah you’re absolutely rightAs you said, he won't know any different. And that's the main thing to think about.
No different to people with siblings can't picture being an only child, because they know no different
He'll grow up knowing how wanted and loved he is and that is the most important thing!
I know increasing numbers of people who are choosing (and so lucky to be able to have that choice) do only have one child, for lots of reasons. I think having siblings is great, but I honestly don’t think any “only” children will be at all disadvantaged in life. Possibly the opposite! My cousin grew up with no siblings and she is so mature, intelligent, and has such a sensible head on her shoulders. Sometimes she makes me feel like the child (she’s 18, I’m 35 )
Aw thank you so much you’re very kind. And the same to you , it’s not all bad being an only child@Hairraiser my boy is probably going to be an only child out of choice. I was very lucky to get pregnant quite easily but I just don’t think I can go through the ordeal of a birth again. My partner is also adamant that this is it and seems to think siblings cause more harm than good (I think he’s triggered by his own childhood) but we’re sure it won’t be detrimental to him growing up. He sounds like a very lucky boy to have such caring and loving parents!
I can’t seem to quote your other post but just wanted to send you love. As long as your little one has your love I’m sure that’s all that matters. So pleased that IVF worked for you though, definitely enjoy every moment, it’s such a wonderful timeThank you for your kind words, they made me smile! You’re right , I really hope he grows up with his cousins. Although his only cousins atm are much older than him, they aren’t overly interested in him right now
Trying not to dwell on things and enjoy these moments
Oh I agree, I had that same question for 3 whole years before I snapped at people. I had the most horrific birth aswell as the gruelling IVF treatment and have had many people say to me ‘when’s the next baby due then?’ Seriously???!!!I can’t seem to quote your other post but just wanted to send you love. As long as your little one has your love I’m sure that’s all that matters. So pleased that IVF worked for you though, definitely enjoy every moment, it’s such a wonderful time
It really doesn’t help when people say “when are you having another baby” i think it can be just as hurtful as saying “when are you going to have children”
My health advisor is like that!! I said that this is probably it with her knowing full well how shitty my birth was and she was like ‘oh no, it will be nice for him to have a brother or sister, just wait a year.’It’s so bizarre how interested strangers are in other people’s family planning. I’m quite sure my husband wouldn’t ever have been asked those questions, but I had them all, especially when I only had 1. I even remember the midwife on the ward with no1 saying to me “we’ll see you again in two years, will we?” I had literally popped one out and she was asking when I was having another?!
That’s so rude!My health advisor is like that!! I said that this is probably it with her knowing full well how shitty my birth was and she was like ‘oh no, it will be nice for him to have a brother or sister, just wait a year.’
Wow. Very unprofessionalMy health advisor is like that!! I said that this is probably it with her knowing full well how shitty my birth was and she was like ‘oh no, it will be nice for him to have a brother or sister, just wait a year.’
I actually had someone at work asking when I was going to have babies.... (a male btw) and we had been trying for just under 18 months at this point so I felt a bit sensitive. My response was “why are you so interested in my sex life” that shut him up. I’m very blunt when I want to beIt’s so bizarre how interested strangers are in other people’s family planning. I’m quite sure my husband wouldn’t ever have been asked those questions, but I had them all, especially when I only had 1. I even remember the midwife on the ward with no1 saying to me “we’ll see you again in two years, will we?” I had literally popped one out and she was asking when I was having another?!
Mark’s and spencer I find stay the softest and have cute designs for girls and boys. Plus thick enough you don’t have to change them every half an hourMorningHas anyone got any suggestions for nice dribble bibs?
I’ll have a look, thank you. we’ve got some from Sainsbury’s I think and the label says one size but they’re tiny, tried putting it on the other day and it felt like I was strangling him haha.Mark’s and spencer I find stay the softest and have cute designs for girls and boys. Plus thick enough you don’t have to change them every half an hour
I’ve found that with some Asda ones we were given, also very rigid they just look uncomfortable.I’ll have a look, thank you. we’ve got some from Sainsbury’s I think and the label says one size but they’re tiny, tried putting it on the other day and it felt like I was strangling him haha.
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