Thanks for starting a new thread notSUBmissive and thanks to Tuppence for a great thread title.
Yes it's plain to see (just look at the votes!) that Mark has ruined Nadia's you tube channel.
It's actually quite sad isn't it because for a while she had a good thing going with Kaye they definitely had some chemistry together a bit like the odd couple but it worked?
Was it his wife's close friendship and successful business partnership that triggered Mark?
Did he see the inclusion of his home and home life in their material as a kind of invasion of his privacy and territory so he thought he'd take it back by taking control of it?
Had he always secretly watched his more famous and popular wife out of the corner of his eyes and secretly muttered to himself one day ...one day I'll show you who is boss... .?
Also with his voracious need to be seen and heard (above all others) plus feeling a bit hen pecked because maybe he didn't pull his weight at home and Nadia felt tired and frustrated and had the audacity to tell him!
You see how easily that narrative gets twisted (I've seen this strategy at work before) someone pushes you to your wits end by being evasive and non committal and irresponsible you then call them out on it they then go on a massive strop about how their feelings are hurt and how dare you talk to them like that (by drawing attention to their faults) they then make sure that anyone who is anyone gets to hear about it.. (,because they love to complain) thus creating a never ending feed back loop whereby they not only monopolise all the attention but by this time in their own head and in everyone else's they are the injured party (and not you) thus cementing for good their very cherished victim status.
You see (maybe mark can say this all his life) it wasn't me it was (Nadia) it was the trolls it was them (ex wife, mother, father ) etc etc etc.
This is the absolute mind
duck of living with a narc.
He found in Nadia not the love of his life but someone gullible and needy and easy to manipulate.
That's how it started she rushed in where fools fear to tread without a merry thought or fear about who he actually was!!
All she saw was his little boy lost act (it is an act if he wanted to and he had no choice in the matter, he could pull his finger out and sort himself out,
but he doesn't want to while he can sit back and pull the strings and coast through life on easy Street).
He probably fed her a hundred and one sob stories about how he'd been wronged (probably knowing Nadia's vanity involving other woman and how they didn't understand him!) so he lures her in?
How can she resist this man he is wanted (probably for child maintenance!
) by other woman he's quite a catch no?
Remember everyone about how she spun the story about his ex girlfriend gatecrashing their wedding (she just couldn't stand to lose him to another woman
)
So now we have the hour the stage was set (by mark) here is Nadia womanly sultry Nadia her of the comforting cooking skills and fuller figure (yes even in her first cookbook she mentioned that mark liked breasts!) So proud was she that her cups were literally over flowing (literally she is pregnant!) although it's not with joy or happiness (a narc can never give you that) but with the promise and hope of future happiness (never to be fulfilled) and in the meantime a kind of giddy almost nervous slightly intoxicating excitement. . .
That will do you are already chemically imbalanced by this point and that's how it starts the rollercoaster of emotions.
The marriage the traumatic birth of a beloved daughter (,on a day that is loaded with significance) then will come the down time feeling confused and deflated as she struggles with a new born (she thought she would wing it being so sure of her maternal instincts but it's proving far harder than she thought) suddenly maybe the hot husband and promising whizz kid is starting to look a little frazzled around the edges maybe not his suave self he seems to be drinking and Nadia probably needed support (he see's that she is not wonder woman and the goddess she advertised herself as (when ego meets ego) and ironically now he's the one that feels cheated?
Why underneath it all she is just like a little girl (trapped in the body of a woman) and him well he's always been like Peter Pan anyway but he thought he'd hit the jackpot because here is someone who can finally look after me and give me the chiidhood that I never had! (Or so he thought)
In order to do that though she would have to relinquish all her needs and just focus on someone else (Mark) he decides no she cannot be allowed to have any needs desires or ideas of her own because that will trigger feelings of abandonment in me and that cannot be allowed to happen.
Above all the tragic thing is that in order to feel safe and secure he must build himself a fortress he must pull the strings and call the tune and get everyone to dance to it.... that's what he has done from the beginning. ..anything he gave he gave begrudgingly and only so he could store it (it's his provisions for when times are bad) and use it to coerce control.
Nadia has always I think been a bit out of control when that happens you advertise to potential predators hey I'm a bit of a leaky vessel anyone want to come along and take advantage?
Also (and I feel like have to include this not from spite but understanding) it's also payback time for her as well because she has a past history of not treating people very well.
Trust me mark will have picked up on that straight away she doesn't set boundaries either and she doesn't respect others?
If anything bad happens to her in sense it will be easy to say she did it to herself and by her own hand? In other words her bad behaviour will now come back and bite her in the form of self sabotage but people who live life on the edge are familiar with insecurity and pain anyway so it won't take much to create imbalance
He then located and liberated and used everything that is bad or negative in Nadia (unfortunately he's had quite a lot to choose from).
The media has given someone who was already a bit unstable and volatile and extroverted to the point of being annoying a platform somewhere she can air her views and dirty laundry!
She is talkative and irritable and over excitable with a longing which has now turned into a demand to have the best of everything and if she can't be the best well she will certainly be the most commanding!
He watches all this he sees how she casually alienates people on a daily basis but also in a strange way draws them in (if only for the wrong reasons) he knows how easy it would be for him to use that to his advantage.
Now she started something with Kaye based at home well it's just toi easy for him now he doesn't have to lift a finger the ball is in his court ...
This being Nadia who is so open to having her head turned he'll start paying her attention now.
It's the old promise remember when we took our vows and I promised you a future? (That she would be taken care of and she is! Just not in the way she would have wanted) no this is being taken care of in the way you would take care of a pest.
Relegating her to the sidelines (in her own home) even though she shoulders most of the responsibility the way that he was relegated to the sidelines (in his mind) when she was the one who publicly got all the attention and money.
Money being the key for him he has to find a way to gain access to that to even things out after all he always wanted his fair share.
If she signs over her finances (after all she is just like a greedy child who would trust her anyway she would just waste it anyway he tells himself) if things get written off as expenses if I can find a way to finally have people (a captive audience) exactly where I want them.. This is the purpose for him of the you tube channel?
So there it is it was handed to him on a plate he probably smiled a smile of indulgence when it took of with Kaye because he knows how easy it is now! to insert himself into the dialogue and into the narrative.
Nadia doesn't deny him anything she was always was so easy so predictable!
E viola!
agree 
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up your daughter's. Well in this case it's not because he's a (cough) hot husband!