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[BethanyGilbert]

I have just had the most MN thing happen. I mentioned on a thread my holiday had been cancelled and someone replied with...
"Come back to me when you've gone 30 years without a holiday abroad and you have to save for 2 years just for a holiday in Cornwall"
I haven't been on holiday in 5 years but even if I had last summer why shouldn't I be upset I should be going to Disney this weekend rather than for a walk.

 

[RedMagnolia]

I have just had the most MN thing happen. I mentioned on a thread my holiday had been cancelled and someone replied with...
"Come back to me when you've gone 30 years without a holiday abroad and you have to save for 2 years just for a holiday in Cornwall"
I haven't been on holiday in 5 years but even if I had last summer why shouldn't I be upset I should be going to Disney this weekend rather than for a walk.

It's a bit like the threads where someone asks 'what's the sweetest thing your DH has ever done for you?' and in between the 'he gave me his last Rolo/he bought me the shoes I coveted/he valeted my car,/he bought home a takeaway/he ran a bath for me' you can pretty much expect someone to tell them they are lucky to have a DH because their husband died 34 years ago and every day since has been full of grief and sadness.

 

[CabalofBolorneaise]

It's a bit like the threads where someone asks 'what's the sweetest thing your DH has ever done for you?' and in between the 'he gave me his last Rolo/he bought me the shoes I coveted/he valeted my car,/he bought home a takeaway/he ran a bath for me' you can pretty much expect someone to tell them they are lucky to have a DH because their husband died 34 years ago and every day since has been full of grief and sadness.

The old joke used to be that you could post that your *relative* had burnt your house down, poisoned your cat and had you arrested on false charges and you’d still get someone coming on to say “My *relative* is dead, don’t you know how lucky you are!”

 

[FrannyGallops]

The old joke used to be that you could post that your *relative* had burnt your house down, poisoned your cat and had you arrested on false charges and you’d still get someone coming on to say “My *relative* is dead, don’t you know how lucky you are!”

I was just going to say the same Someone will post about a vile, toxic, narcissistic mother (for example) and without fail someone else will say ‘at least you still have a mum. Mine’s been dead 5 years and I’d do anything to have them back ’

 

[Lolly666]

I tell you what irks me on Mumsnet. When someone posts something along the lines of my DH has gone missing. He said he was going to get milk and now it's almost 2am and he hasn't come back.
Then the next morning people pile in with "I hope he's ok OP and you're both getting some rest now" or some other pretend concern. No, you don't hope he is ok at all, you want the OP to come back on and say that it turns out the DH was with another woman and doing crack. But no they pretend to give a crap about the OP just so she will reply with the gossip for them. It is SO obvious!

 

[Belulah]

I have just had the most MN thing happen. I mentioned on a thread my holiday had been cancelled and someone replied with...
"Come back to me when you've gone 30 years without a holiday abroad and you have to save for 2 years just for a holiday in Cornwall"
I haven't been on holiday in 5 years but even if I had last summer why shouldn't I be upset I should be going to Disney this weekend rather than for a walk.

Cornwall is pricy! Maybe they should aim smaller-Great Yarmouth maybe!

 

[RedMagnolia]

I tell you what irks me on Mumsnet. When someone posts something along the lines of my DH has gone missing. He said he was going to get milk and now it's almost 2am and he hasn't come back.
Then the next morning people pile in with "I hope he's ok OP and you're both getting some rest now" or some other pretend concern. No, you don't hope he is ok at all, you want the OP to come back on and say that it turns out the DH was with another woman and doing crack. But no they pretend to give a crap about the OP just so she will reply with the gossip for them. It is SO obvious!

I do remember one poster whose husband had gone missing, and it turned out he'd taken his own life. That was heart wrenching and was backed up by newspaper reports.

 

[PrincessCharming]

Or when the poster posts for advice. It’s something traumatic and/or sensitive. Posters give advice but many also reply asking for updates as if it’s a soap and they need the next instalment. They then get huffy when the OP quite rightly disappears.

bleeping ghouls.

 

[CabalofBolorneaise]

Or when the poster posts for advice. It’s something traumatic and/or sensitive. Posters give advice but many also reply asking for updates as if it’s a soap and they need the next instalment. They then get huffy when the OP quite rightly disappears.

bleeping ghouls.

Often the poster can’t win. If they don’t provide any update, they are assumed to have been a troll, but if they give updates or haven’t done exactly what MN Royalty thought they should, they’re also called a troll (not meaning the soap opera style near constant updates which are indeed a troll sign).

 

[April89]

I am so glad I found this thread! MN has always been a strange one for me, I have posted occasionally and only felt worse afterwards as I was usually dismissed with comments asking why I care, why bother with the drama etc.

The worst posts for me are when an OP asks 'AIBU to take a day off work?', and I always feel so bad because I know how the thread is going to go, regardless of the reason for a day off - 'I have never taken a day off / I would go in if I were you / I went to work with a broken leg' and other comments becoming gradually more and more ridiculous! I half expected someone to come on and say 'I went to work during surgery, I just got wheeled in and got on with it'. I always felt bad for the poor OP feeling rough and then getting harsh comments from MN.

 

[DuckDuck]

The constant * I'm following rules but my NDN has parties every Friday night *
Stop curtain twitching .. it's been a year now . Apart from pubs and betting shops everything is open .. people are bored and are being vaccinated, you do you and let the rest crack on

 

[ScorpioMoon]

primarks not open desperate for new leggings

 

[DuckDuck]

primarks not open desperate for new leggings

Yes !! I popped into town last week , can't remember the last time I went into town and was like * primark is shut * .. I even rang the man and said * primark is shut * he was like ...errrrr yeah like it wasnt a surprise, I didnt even realise cos it seems every b shop is open apart from pubs and restaurants

 

[RedMagnolia]

I am so glad I found this thread! MN has always been a strange one for me, I have posted occasionally and only felt worse afterwards as I was usually dismissed with comments asking why I care, why bother with the drama etc.

The worst posts for me are when an OP asks 'AIBU to take a day off work?', and I always feel so bad because I know how the thread is going to go, regardless of the reason for a day off - 'I have never taken a day off / I would go in if I were you / I went to work with a broken leg' and other comments becoming gradually more and more ridiculous! I half expected someone to come on and say 'I went to work during surgery, I just got wheeled in and got on with it'. I always felt bad for the poor OP feeling rough and then getting harsh comments from MN.

Same with going to A&E. Unless your head has fallen off or you have accidentally been disembowelled, it's incredibly selfish to take up room in A&E when there are people who are really sick. Put a hot cloth on it and take an aspirin and stop being so pathetic. It's for accidents and emergencies only, not someone like you with a thunderclap headache and chest pain.

 

[HockyRorror]

Mumsnet is both a site where people have 101 on speed dial, feel intimidated if a stranger ever talks to them and never answer their front doors if there’s an unexpected knock after 8pm, but in the same breath, when replying to an OP who has had an unpleasant encounter with an aggressive person, will say “I’d have found it very hard not to her, OP”. You? The timid, 101-ringing person who hides behind their front door at the slightest knock of an evening? You’d have punched someone who was shouting in your face and threatening you? No you wouldn’t!

 

[Gym&Tonic]

The constant * I'm following rules but my NDN has parties every Friday night *
Stop curtain twitching .. it's been a year now . Apart from pubs and betting shops everything is open .. people are bored and are being vaccinated, you do you and let the rest crack on

They’ve been behaving like this from the very start. Getting their knickers in a knot because their neighbours were sitting in their garden, or someone across the road had taken their dog for walk more than once. Those are just two really petty examples I saw. It was very easy to see who‘d have been in the Gestapo in another life that’s for sure. Yeah go ahead and report them, but remember that this won’t last forever and you’ve got to continue living by these people. But then most Mumsnetters seem to hate their neighbours anyway and find fault with everything they do, and this is just an extension of that.

 

[BethanyGilbert]

They’ve been behaving like this from the very start. Getting their knickers in a knot because their neighbours were sitting in their garden, or someone across the road had taken their dog for walk more than once. Those are just two really petty examples I saw. It was very easy to see who‘d have been in the Gestapo in another life that’s for sure.

So many people posting about while they were on a walk they saw others on walks. The OP was simply getting exercise but the others are granny killers.

 

[Gym&Tonic]

So many people posting about while they were on a walk they saw others on walks. The OP was simply getting exercise but the others are granny killers.

Not to mention the whinging about joggers and people on bikes getting in their way. The gym’s are closed and people need to exercise to keep healthy and boost their chances of fighting off the virus! But then many Mumsnetters also revel in being overweight and having an unhealthy BMI so of course they are allergic to sodding exercise aren’t they?

 

[Pinkii]

The covid threads make my blood boil.

so sick of seeing ‘but ItS ThE RuLeS’

someone mentioned about going to see her new suicidal friend and out come, you CANNOT see her, because ItS ThE RuLe’- maybe just call her or facetime her, common sense is lacking with most posters on there.

some people have truly loved the misery of the last year

 

[Mardymermaid]

There was a post mentioning when mask requirements and someone was moaning that people were looking forward to stopping wearing them. The poster was saying they were going to keep wearing there’s past requirements and others were idiots or similar for not. It’s ok to be looking forward to getting rid of them. I can’t wait I’m sick of panicking that I’ve forgot if for school pick up /public transport /the shop.