Also the:
1) He earns more than me so therefore has more disposable income= all money is family money, he's financially abusing you
2) I earn more than him = he's a cocklodger (a term I had never heard before MN but apparently means he's a kept man and is abusing you)
1) I only see him once a week on the same day and I'm OK with that but... = he obviously has a whole second family you don't know about
2) I see him every day and I'm OK with that but... = he's smothering you and has something to hide. LTB
It's a whole other world over there