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[RedMagnolia]

I really disliked the drinking and coffee morning threads on MNTrolls - mainly because I find the idea of having a virtual drink with strangers a lot less fun than having a real drink with friends - or just my husband during this lockdown They were also very cliquey with lots of in-jokes that I never understood, and I don't like cliques because there's usually some subtle bullying going on behind the scenes.

However, give them their due, they are spot on at troll hunting, and the admin appear to be swift in deleting a thread when speculation about whether it is true or not, is insensitive. Bereavement generally.

There are some trolls on Mumsnet playing the long game though, and I am often cynical about the saga-type threads about a cheating husband or an unexpected late pregnancy or regular trips to hospital but still being able to update Mumsnet at all times.

 

[Gym&Tonic]

I liked the thread title someone made the other day called “does anyone here actually like their husband?” and asked because it seemed everyone just complained and moaned about them all the time lol

No, they don’t like their husbands. Or their mother in laws or their neighbours or work colleagues.

They’re also obsessed with perimenopause on there. Anyone who posts saying they feel unwell are told they ’might be peri’, most recently they asked a woman who was only 26 if she was peri. Lots of conditions produce similar symptoms like b12 deficiency anemia and thyroid problems. They’re never considered though funnily enough.

 

[Kimeric]

There used to be a poster called ‘expatinscotland’ who had sadly lost a child to cancer. However she was often astonishingly rude and aggressive to others on the forum and got away with due to her circumstances. it. Anyone who ever stood up to her was subjected to a pile on for daring to be mean to a ‘bereaved parent’. She was treated with kid gloves and protected by the in crowd because many of them had been through her child’s cancer journey with her and I suppose that created unique bond between them. But in my family I have people who’ve lost children in terrible circumstances and they don’t go round speaking to people like shit on their shoe.

The HATE you would get if you mentioned the environmental damage of those god awful balloon releases....

"My kid tragically died. LETS KILL A FEW INNOCENT BIRDS AND HORSES DOWN WITH IT!!! And dont u DARE say anything because MY CHILD IS DEAD!!!! I simply MUST have the spectacle of a few balloons disappearing into the sky as a fitting tribute. LITTER AND DEAD ANIMALS YAY"

Paraphrasing, obvs.

From my lurking, I've seen that you can at least mention the damage they cause nowadays more without being screeched at by said brigade of MN Royalty.

 

[Furnessian]

I was on MN back in the 'royalty' days when I was very young, hormonal and, like a lot of people on there, utterly exhausted with babies and toddlers. It was a bit of a lifeline at first but soon turned rather nasty. There was one particular member of the 'royalty' who was semi-friendly at first but took against me because, if I recall rightly, she made an amusing spelling mistake and I quote tweeted her with a smiley face. After that, she just went after me, picking everything I said apart, being very personal and just being a complete bitch towards me, so I drifted off Mumsnet and eventually onto twitter, where almost two decades later, said 'royalty' is still acting like The Queen, though her spelling appears to have improved

 

[DuckDuck]

Last year I got 2 bags of Maynard sports mix because they are my fave , I was grateful for them as the children know what I like .

 

[Lechat]

They are suffering a DDOS attack - thread active on MN on it now. Really poor. didn’t they have that data breach? Wonder how the premium users feel about it?

 

[Gym&Tonic]

Often a sign of someone with too much time on their hands.

In my experience people like this are the ones with the problem. Not the in laws or neighbours. They just feed off the drama and look for trouble and offence when there‘s none intended, you can’t always get on with everyone, but you can make an effort to be civil. Which when you live next door to them, or married into their family, always seems like the sensible and mature option.

 

[CabalofBolorneaise]

It's a bit like the threads where someone asks 'what's the sweetest thing your DH has ever done for you?' and in between the 'he gave me his last Rolo/he bought me the shoes I coveted/he valeted my car,/he bought home a takeaway/he ran a bath for me' you can pretty much expect someone to tell them they are lucky to have a DH because their husband died 34 years ago and every day since has been full of grief and sadness.

The old joke used to be that you could post that your *relative* had burnt your house down, poisoned your cat and had you arrested on false charges and you’d still get someone coming on to say “My *relative* is dead, don’t you know how lucky you are!”

 

[Kaylon8083]

I once went to a party as a teenager and some of the guests were from a private school. They behaved appallingly - boys were going into the girls toilets, someone banged their head and made a real drama of it. They were so rude and bad-mannered too.

I remember telling my mum on the way home and she said just because you go to a private school doesn't mean you're above manners and she would have been so ashamed if I behaved like that.

So I can well believe how some of those who didn't get into Oxbridge would have been like.

 

[ButtonDownTheHutches]

No one eats home made cakes and no one owns a loo brush because they’re all obsessed with germs

oh man, the shoes on/shoes off in the house threads - they can get terrifyingly vicious! Keeping your shoes on in someone’s house is as filthy as shitting in their fridge!

 

[Gym&Tonic]

I saw the thread about the 3K art. Russia isnt in EU and doesn‘t have a good relationship with the bloc!

Do you ever post on there or just read? I’ve only ever posted once when I had a problem with my radiators!!! There’s a plumber on there and ( I think it’s a he) is really helpful! Saved me calling out someone to look when one of them didn’t work . Apart from that have never posted, it seems like it’s stuck in rut.

I used to, before I got banned for telling a poster she was a poor mother for putting her partners needs above those of her teenage children. The partner was horrible to her son, and inappropriate with her daughter. Apparently this isn’t the spirt of the site though.

 

[House of Tea]

There’s a new one with a caravan parked on someone’s drive after they returned from holiday. I didn’t read beyond first few paras. School holidays innit.

 

[House of Tea]

DIAGRAM???!!!!!!!!

JK

Penguin bollards!

 

[Chipstiz]

Such a weird flex. Pretending to be middle class would just make me feel even worse about the fact I've got fuck all??

 

[Chunkeylaydee]

Or I’ve name changed then forgets in their next post outing themselves.

 

[Booington]

Did anyone see someone starting a thread saying they missed Bluntness and then someone came on called Bluntness101 pretending to be Bluntness?

i bloody hate her, I literally ignore her if she ever comments anything to me (not that I post these days!) shes who I meant earlier, commenting on police bail when she knows NAFF ALL about it. She honestly gives me the rage and posters constantly quote her for some reason!

 

[String Man]

Mumsnet has had its day. It's full of trolls now. The worst thing to come out of it is that Reddit sub MNTrolls. A pack of nasty PBP trolls with bitterness oozing out of every pore.

Mumsnet has been full of trolls for years now. Too many unregulated posters and not enough mods.

Is that Reddit sub still around @Lucille?

From memory, that was set up as a result of the David scam and MN's deletion of any reference to it. I think MN were embarrassed by the part they played in publicising the fundraising account.

I think it started off with good intentions but soon descended into in-fighting. Last time I looked (a loooong time ago) it seemed to be imploding, plus they were having some kind of turf war with another Reddit sub

 

[Cheeseandbiscuits]

I’ve found my people
never felt like I fit in on that site as I always seemed to have the opposite opinion to everyone else! I’ve now deemed that, that is probably a good thing! Would always go to comment or offer an opinion but couldn’t be bothered to deal with the backlash. Quite liked it for a quick bedtime read. Now I’m all about tattle.
Found tattle after alicegate and haven’t been on Mumsnet since the start of lockdown. It feels good

 

[Chunkeylaydee]

AF actually has a job and doesn’t actually sit at home on Mumsnet 24/7?

Lots of people are now struggling. I’m wondering if the 2nd home is a caravan park.

 

[Gym&Tonic]

And the thing is, yes often men do behave badly. But so do women! In real life I know just as many women who’ve had affairs and cheated on their husbands and partners as I do men. In fact I’d say it’s pretty evenly balanced.