Mumsnet #4

[Gym&Tonic]

All threads about Amber Heard and Johnny Depp on there are about how she’s being dragged through the mud because she’s a woman and it’s misogyny. They can’t accept that sometimes women are wronguns as well as men.

 

[Wolf359]

I love tattle and I love MN. I think both are great and that is the hill I will die on.

 

[TheDragonWithAFlagon]

Guys, everyone needs to read this ASAP. This is the craziest one I’ve read for a while.

Although I do feel a bit sorry for the OP as she can’t be well.

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Her problem was that somebody looked at her baby?


I'd give her some leeway for being in the immediate postnatal period, but really...

 

[maytoseptember]

It's really difficult to get a child into a special needs school, I've got friends who have had to fight to get their child a place in one.

Special needs school places are as rare as hen’s teeth. You can’t simply take your child out of mainstream and rock up at a SEN school the following week, can you? The fights with the local authorities, the insistence that mainstream can meet a child’s needs when they can’t, the message that all local SEN schools are full, the tribunals…

I knew a child who should never have been sent to mainstream, it’s just completely the wrong setting for them. In Reception the parents had to start looking for a SEN school. A place was awarded, but not until year 2. So they had to stay in mainstream, being taken out of class and sat on their own with a TA, for an entire extra year. It was so upsetting to see how badly this child was failed. Everyone did their best but it wasn’t good enough.

 

[BethanyGilbert]

I put up a post last night when I was upset (More fool me). I was in a rush and missed out a comma. Apparently this made my post incomprehensible and no one could possibly understand what I meant. Instead they all queued up to tell me that I needed a comma. If only they would allow people to edit eh?

 

[ChampagneBox]

Maybe my mum was overprotective but…half these mums expected their 9/12 yr olds to have gotten them a card…but when are 9/12 yr olds going to be going out to shops alone to be able to buy cards? it smacks of insecure women projecting onto their children.

 

[EmilyChambers]

What does everyone think of the stepmum who didnt get her stepchildren easter eggs but got their 3 year old together one because he should buy his own kids eggs? I think its mean spirited personality she sounds nasty . If youre going to begrudge picking up an egg for them don't get with someone who has children.

But remember this is the same site where the majority of posters absolutely insist that once your own child turns 18, they need to be out of the family home and working and supporting themselves.

They cannot abide Stepmom, stepchildren or men!

I've seen replies where they truly believe you should do nothing for your stepchild, you don't but any presents for your stepchild, your stepchild cannot come on your holiday yet no one in real life acts like that.

Same as they advocate that you shouldn't be in contact with your husbands family as it's his family and not yours so any presents or cards for them are strictly to be arranged by him and not you. Its abusive if you do this!

 

[maytoseptember]

Thread asking for advice about a pasta bake using a jar () of sauce… of course someone has to come on and say that they’ve never used a jar (shock horror) of sauce. Ok, so perhaps this isn’t the thread for you then and no need to comment?!

Did they come on all confused, asking what a pasta bake was? “Oh, you mean pasta al forno? I had no idea you could get sauces in jars… how déclassé”.

 

[Dot_Cotton]

A complete random poster set up a new thread but soon asked for it to be taken down as the OPs posts wouldn’t be highlighted.

..No update from the OP since she was on her way to a friends. She may be on the way to the airport now though

After reading about the husband on a jolly to Spain rather that Portugal, I hot footed it over there to read the thread and I am desperate to know the outcome of this. I hope she makes a new thread I am so invested and don’t know how I will sleep tonight not knowing

 

[TheDragonWithAFlagon]

all kids must be kicked out by the time they’re 12.

Well, they're all about six foot two by that point and the long, thick, naturally blond hair on both sexes must get everywhere.

I do wonder if they're mistaking a Golden Retriever/St Bernard cross for their firstborn sometimes.

 

[Wackie Jeaver]

OFFS just started reading a brilliant thread about a vegan pissed off with neighbour's meaty bbq and smoke 'n all, and it's been bloody pulled!

 

[SpindleWhorl]

We have a live competitive under eating thread, "portion sizes in pubs and restaurants why are they so big"

 

[Wackie Jeaver]

A six foot two Golden Retriever?? I bet it eats everything in the house but is also slim but muscular, plays every sport to county level or higher, is devilishly attractive to the opposite sex but also very respectful...
ETA and of course highly academic!

 

[Wackie Jeaver]

Funny how you never see a what to buy from Iceland or Farmfoods thread isn’t it though?

Iceland is fucking brilliant!! love the place. Dont think we have a Farmfoods nearby or I'd be checking that out.

 

[SqualorVictoria]

Only got to read the OP; but that thread just was..weird. I mean, how was the neighbour to know that the baby hadn't meant their grandparent(s)?

It had nothing to do with that and everything to do with the fact that the neighbour is attractive and the OP is a bit put out she gets on with her husband and the OP probably feels a bit exhausted and not great in herself. That's my theory anyway

 

[maytoseptember]

Just reading the post about the child being hurt by a child with SEN. I agree every child deserves to not be hurt or upset at school and if my child who has SEN continues to be violent when he starts full time we will likely have to home school. However some of the attitudes towards children with additional needs is horrific and i hope with everything I have my son never comes into contact with people like some of them on there.

If MN attitudes towards children with SEN are indicative of wider society then we’re screwed (my kids are autistic).

I’ve seen threads in the past where parents have posted about “bad behaviour” that is clearly outside of the norm. Pretty clear to anyone with experience that this is an unhappy child with undiagnosed/unsupported needs.

My god, the vitriol from other posters. Ripping the OP a new arsehole for being a shit parent. Offering excessively cruel “advice” to whip the child into shape. Shouting down any suggestion of SEN because “OMG everyone uses that an an excuse nowadays. Why does it have to be SEN? Can’t a child be a BRAT anymore?”.

I’ve just scanned through the thread and it sounds like a load of cobblers anyway. People love to make up shit about children with SEN, wind them up and watch them go. I don’t believe a school would ever tell a parent that their child’s bully is struggling to cope with school because they know they are different, that they have a duty of care to the bully (not the assaulted child), and that they are dealing with things “sensitively” due to the child’s additional needs.

Nope. Way too much detail. Schools in my experience are very cagey when it comes to discussions around the needs and behaviours of other people’s kids.

Still, the OP got what they wanted. Made three posts and buggered off. People are frothing at the mouth, saying violent SEN kids are a new phenomenon, and - best of all - nodding sagely at every poster who suggests the kid be expelled and sent to a specialist school… like it’s that easy.

 

[PrincessCharming]

Just had a really big salad for my lunch

Me too, but with a WHOLE jacket potato, so I probably need to be lined up and shot by the MN Food Mafia!

 

[PrincessCharming]

It’s a bit crass imagining it from the safety of here when people are having to flee their homes and be separated from their children. Not one bit of empathy shown.

 

[Becclo44]

MN have finally changed their platform (not that I can see any changes) and there are people announcing that the change is upsetting them so much that its making them cry.

I give up.

haha when I read your post I just assumed you were joking or exaggerating a little but after having been on there, you’re not are you?! They’re even sending each other the flowers emoji and ‘unmumsnetty hugs’ which is when you know serious shit has gone down

they’re all nuts!!

 

[Rekyavikgirl]

I can't help seeing Mumsnet as a bunch of bitches hanging around the school gates. The kind of woman you'd avoid as a kid- and as a parent. They are so relentlessly unkind to each other. I realise the irony of this statement if you're not a Tattler!