This exactly. She was probably the follower in primary school then got to secondary and needed to assert herself as her primary friends were probably moving in different friendship groups.I think she screams of a child who is so desperate to fit in, and in order to be sooooo popular and wanted will buy or possibly previously had her mum buy exactly what she wanted
She had no one to cling on to and in order to fit in/ become popular she became spoilt by fiddle and weepy. (Although I do reckon they showed her love by buying her stuff. She’s devoid of any emotion around her children and like others have said it’s probably a cycle she’s unable to break with them
she’s done the same with the sister and niece. Given them the house because she equates items with love). If rumours of her being a bully at school are true then i reckon She bullied her primary friends to gain popularity and have all the attention on her and that’s been her personality ever since.
She is a classic narcissist
eta- Sorry for the long paragraph I hope it makes sense. It did in my head. I was typing fast so I wouldn’t forget what I was writing