I’m due in September and I feel like I can’t even enjoy pregnancy because I’m so so frightened of giving birth. I feel like nobody understands either because I cannot believe the amount of women who have said ‘oh it’s awful but once you hold the baby you forget it all it’s amazing’ I just don’t believe that at all. And I’m trying to prepare to be traumatised by it. So her saying that is just giving so many new expecting mums an unrealistic expectation. It’s just not fair.
Wishing you lots of love and luck, please don’t have any expectations. I’ve done it twice 5 years apart and both times were so different even though they both came out the same way
Neither was harder or easier than the other just different. I know it’s hard especially when you are coming to the end and may or may not get uncomfortable but try and put it to the back of your mind. Even the 2nd time after the experience of the first I put it to the back of my mind and I’m so glad I did because it wasn’t the same. You’ll get there & your experience will be your experience nobody else’s and the 1st time the things I was worried about weren’t even the things I struggled with, which surprised me
I was frightened like you at the beginning of my 1st pregnancy but in the end I didn’t care anymore because I just wanted him out
At the end of it all here we are years down the line all safe and well which I’m so grateful for. Again I know it sounds ridiculous when you feel like a lump how can you possibly put the birth to the back of your mind but honestly it’s not worth the worry and the stress. I even said to my midwife the 2nd time my birth plan is just to go to hospital and that’s as far as I’m going with it, I’m not thinking about it
I’m no expert or Mother Earth so hope I don’t sound like a prick
Take care xxx