I live with mine and have done for 4 years now. She is so incredibly infuriating for a million and one different reasons. She barely speaks English because she has a brain tumour which has impacted her memory so she only speaks her first language. She can understand English still but she is deaf and refuses to wear hearing aids. So it is very difficult to communicate with her or get her to understand anything. Mixed with mental illness paranoid schizophrenia and dementia. She is incredibly difficult to live with. For a couple of years she thought she had a demon possess her and would often scream at it. Or imagine my husband screaming and she would rush up at 3am to save him.
Since working from home she keeps walking in on important work meetings which has caused problems with work. Senior managers were unhappy because she doesn't walk in and watch, she will shout at me to eat or drink tea. This has interrupted SO many meetings. She doesn't understand why it is wrong. She won't stop. She hasn't stopped despite being told 100 times and work threatening me with warnings. Even my son tries to stop her barging in and it breaks my heart when I see how patient he is with his Nan. He tells her about his day and she will be in her own world half the time.
She is the sweetest woman and would do anything for us but not particularly receptive to new ideas. I have to eat rice or I'll be hungry despite eating a 3 course meal. Everything has to be her way. She is a complete pain whenever I clean the kitchen as in wipe the counters, hoover, mop etc.
My husband's solution is for me to clean when she is in bed at night. This drives me CRAZY because I want to do things on my own time. I work full time whilst juggling being a mum. I cook 95% of the time. Clean probably 70%. But I can't just get on with what I want to.
If I start cooking as soon as I finish work, she tells me to relax and sit down. If I sit down and watch tv for a bit, she will tell me to go cook. When I'm cooking she will tell me there is something wrong with the meal or the water has evaporated but it is absolutely fine.
I never seem to get a break from her. She is very very hard work and it isn't her fault entirely. But she won't ever give us a break either because my SILs (all 4 of them) won't look after her or invite her to their homes. We are very much just left with her.
*sorry I feel like I went on a rant and I needed to get it off my chest.*
Since working from home she keeps walking in on important work meetings which has caused problems with work. Senior managers were unhappy because she doesn't walk in and watch, she will shout at me to eat or drink tea. This has interrupted SO many meetings. She doesn't understand why it is wrong. She won't stop. She hasn't stopped despite being told 100 times and work threatening me with warnings. Even my son tries to stop her barging in and it breaks my heart when I see how patient he is with his Nan. He tells her about his day and she will be in her own world half the time.
She is the sweetest woman and would do anything for us but not particularly receptive to new ideas. I have to eat rice or I'll be hungry despite eating a 3 course meal. Everything has to be her way. She is a complete pain whenever I clean the kitchen as in wipe the counters, hoover, mop etc.
My husband's solution is for me to clean when she is in bed at night. This drives me CRAZY because I want to do things on my own time. I work full time whilst juggling being a mum. I cook 95% of the time. Clean probably 70%. But I can't just get on with what I want to.
If I start cooking as soon as I finish work, she tells me to relax and sit down. If I sit down and watch tv for a bit, she will tell me to go cook. When I'm cooking she will tell me there is something wrong with the meal or the water has evaporated but it is absolutely fine.
I never seem to get a break from her. She is very very hard work and it isn't her fault entirely. But she won't ever give us a break either because my SILs (all 4 of them) won't look after her or invite her to their homes. We are very much just left with her.
*sorry I feel like I went on a rant and I needed to get it off my chest.*
