Katherine Ryan

[brianbutterfield]

She does suffer like me from hyper-independence which is a trauma response from living in extreme poverty. I relate to her because I designed the life I wanted eg- husband, nice house, holidays, a child, good job. Unfortunately if your life is your dream and not necessarily a shared dream you can end up doing everything because you’re the only one invested in that dream.
My husband lets me organise everything like holidays, flights, insurance, social events for our daughter, food. I feel angry about it but then I realise it was all my dream and he’s just going along with it. He’s not as invested in the vision I had for our life.
It worries me but I’m stuck now so I have to make the best of it.

 

[Bezzzz]

She does suffer like me from hyper-independence which is a trauma response from living in extreme poverty. I relate to her because I designed the life I wanted eg- husband, nice house, holidays, a child, good job. Unfortunately if your life is your dream and not necessarily a shared dream you can end up doing everything because you’re the only one invested in that dream.
My husband lets me organise everything like holidays, flights, insurance, social events for our daughter, food. I feel angry about it but then I realise it was all my dream and he’s just going along with it. He’s not as invested in the vision I had for our life.
It worries me but I’m stuck now so I have to make the best of it.

Oh my god … THIS HIT ME RIGHT IN MY CORE.

 

[Natterbox80]

She does suffer like me from hyper-independence which is a trauma response from living in extreme poverty. I relate to her because I designed the life I wanted eg- husband, nice house, holidays, a child, good job. Unfortunately if your life is your dream and not necessarily a shared dream you can end up doing everything because you’re the only one invested in that dream.
My husband lets me organise everything like holidays, flights, insurance, social events for our daughter, food. I feel angry about it but then I realise it was all my dream and he’s just going along with it. He’s not as invested in the vision I had for our life.
It worries me but I’m stuck now so I have to make the best of it.

Relate so hard! Feel like I just had a Therepy Aha moment. I don't feel stuck though, I just navigate around it and go on the holidays with friends and leave the family at home. He doesn't want to do the things with me that bring me joy but I don't want to do them with him either and that's fine.

I am the only person responsible for my own happiness, not him or anyone else. Me!

 

[Dustye]

She does suffer like me from hyper-independence which is a trauma response from living in extreme poverty. I relate to her because I designed the life I wanted eg- husband, nice house, holidays, a child, good job. Unfortunately if your life is your dream and not necessarily a shared dream you can end up doing everything because you’re the only one invested in that dream.
My husband lets me organise everything like holidays, flights, insurance, social events for our daughter, food. I feel angry about it but then I realise it was all my dream and he’s just going along with it. He’s not as invested in the vision I had for our life.
It worries me but I’m stuck now so I have to make the best of it.

I'm going to write this down to talk with my partner about later because you are so right!!!

 

[rosieflowers]

Bobby K's 40th looked deaddddd on their pictures! The venue was empty and looks like half the guests were his family and the party looked like boring corporate organised fun. I don't think he's left much behind in terms of a social life. I really don't think he's the catch that Katherine would have everyone believe

 

[ForeverMakingJibesWicked]

Ohhh Katherine. You can just duck off now. I get you’re annoyed and I would be too but seriously, burning out some risk-averse Diggerland employee who’s probably on minimum wage AND also quoting a quote you said you wouldn’t quote? I’ve seen the original reel and it’s just unnecessary, entitled whingeing masquerading as a PSA.

Grow up.

https://www.archive.is/oldest/https...red-not-allowed-ride-queueing-25-minutes.html

 

[femmegirly]

Ohhh Katherine. You can just duck off now. I get you’re annoyed and I would be too but seriously, burning out some risk-averse Diggerland employee who’s probably on minimum wage AND also quoting a quote you said you wouldn’t quote? I’ve seen the original reel and it’s just unnecessary, entitled whingeing masquerading as a PSA.

Grow up.

https://www.archive.is/oldest/https...red-not-allowed-ride-queueing-25-minutes.html

Karen Ryan

 

[emeraldopal]

She's mentioned quite a few times how much Fred hates being around literally anyone who isn't his family. Perhaps if he were socialised to any degree he'd have been ok with the poor staff member trying to measure him

 

[Simba88]

Ohhh Katherine. You can just duck off now. I get you’re annoyed and I would be too but seriously, burning out some risk-averse Diggerland employee who’s probably on minimum wage AND also quoting a quote you said you wouldn’t quote? I’ve seen the original reel and it’s just unnecessary, entitled whingeing masquerading as a PSA.

Grow up.

https://www.archive.is/oldest/https...red-not-allowed-ride-queueing-25-minutes.html

I don’t know, I’m kinda team KR here - he was clearly tall enough! My boy would’ve been devastated too in that situation. If the height requirement needs to be higher than 90cm then they need to change it. I also saw her stories and it was clearly tongue in cheek. Most of us would complain in the same situation.

 

[hereforthe_tea]

She's mentioned quite a few times how much Fred hates being around literally anyone who isn't his family. Perhaps if he were socialised to any degree he'd have been ok with the poor staff member trying to measure him

Kids his age were born in covid restrictions where you didn't see anyone and everyone you did was wearing a mask so yah some of them struggle with strangers...

 

[rosieflowers]

Kids his age were born in covid restrictions where you didn't see anyone and everyone you did was wearing a mask so yah some of them struggle with strangers...

It's been two years since any really strict covid restrictions. My daughter was born June 2020 and it definitely affected her for her first I would say 18 months. She was very clingy and cautious around strangers. But since then she's flourished at nursery and playgroup and sports clubs let alone around family and friends. There's been ample opportunity to socialise since COVID.

Controversial here but I only see that being used as an excuse now by parents who don't make any effort to socialise their kids or even spend meaningful non- Coco Melon time with them themselves

 

[Natterbox80]

My son was a stereotypical Covid baby and not in creche, he is nearly 3 and he is only coming out of his shell now. But it was a long ass horrible winter (and early Spring) here and we did not get to socialize him much with kids other than his young siblings, but I have him out playing (supervised) with kids on the estate and he is like a new kid after just a few weeks. Kids of all age call for him now to come out and play it is adorable. We could have done better with the socialization and him not being in creche but he starts Montessori in September so he will be grand. He actually doesn't like watching the TV so we couldn't even use that to entertain him when busy, and he was/is a HANDFULL at times.

I cannot imagine Fred gets much socialization other than a nanny who is not a kid obvs. She needs to stop this Fenna is the best baby tit cause Fred will get a complex cause well she paints him in a bad light in comparison.

 

[hereforthe_tea]

It's been two years since any really strict covid restrictions. My daughter was born June 2020 and it definitely affected her for her first I would say 18 months. She was very clingy and cautious around strangers. But since then she's flourished at nursery and playgroup and sports clubs let alone around family and friends. There's been ample opportunity to socialise since COVID.

Controversial here but I only see that being used as an excuse now by parents who don't make any effort to socialise their kids or even spend meaningful non- Coco Melon time with them themselves

My eldest is 2.5. Goes to nursery 3 days a week. Playgroup once a week, play dates weekly, swimming/park at the weekend.
She watches TV once a week(?) on average.
She is very shy around strangers and takes a while to warm up to adults. Children she's fine with will play with ones she doesn't know. But doesn't take to adult she doesn't know straight away. Someone coming up to her with a stick would freak her out. Happy to hear what I've done wrong with her to 'fix' this.
Saying all this I try my best to not make a big deal out of it with her, whereas sounded like katherine thought he should be scared? I dunno. All kids are different anyway.

 

[rosieflowers]

My eldest is 2.5. Goes to nursery 3 days a week. Playgroup once a week, play dates weekly, swimming/park at the weekend.
She watches TV once a week(?) on average.
She is very shy around strangers and takes a while to warm up to adults. Children she's fine with will play with ones she doesn't know. But doesn't take to adult she doesn't know straight away. Someone coming up to her with a stick would freak her out. Happy to hear what I've done wrong with her to 'fix' this.
Saying all this I try my best to not make a big deal out of it with her, whereas sounded like katherine thought he should be scared? I dunno. All kids are different anyway.

Exactly, all kids are different. It sounds like you do everything you can for yours and maybe she is naturally just more cautious/ reserved just as some adults are. I don't think it's related to COVID though.

 

[Natterbox80]

Do you think that perhaps Katherine has concerns that Fred might be neurodivergent? Sorry I have no idea what happened with the stick so I really reading between the lines and what she has said about him previously. Liking routine, not liking being away from house and hating holidays, so much so he was not brought on holiday and not reacting to someone with a stick when she thinks he should (am I right in saying that). She doesn't really talk about him too warmly which kinda makes me sad.

 

[emeraldopal]

Do you think that perhaps Katherine has concerns that Fred might be neurodivergent? Sorry I have no idea what happened with the stick so I really reading between the lines and what she has said about him previously. Liking routine, not liking being away from house and hating holidays, so much so he was not brought on holiday and not reacting to someone with a stick when she thinks he should (am I right in saying that). She doesn't really talk about him too warmly which kinda makes me sad.

She's said people have subtly suggested it based on the way he interacts with people who aren't in his immediate family, but that she knows he isn't. It may be a bit of a sore spot, as she had an email last week from a woman who thinks her nephew is neurodivergent, and her advice was to stay well out of it, not to give any suggestions or advice on other people's kids. Which is fair enough in many ways!

 

[Shugsyshalone]

Ohhh Katherine. You can just duck off now. I get you’re annoyed and I would be too but seriously, burning out some risk-averse Diggerland employee who’s probably on minimum wage AND also quoting a quote you said you wouldn’t quote? I’ve seen the original reel and it’s just unnecessary, entitled whingeing masquerading as a PSA.

Grow up.

https://www.archive.is/oldest/https...red-not-allowed-ride-queueing-25-minutes.html

In a recent podcast episode she ranted about the flight attendant asking her to use the seatbelt and said she might have come across as being ‘short’ with the staff on the flight ……….. she just sounded like she was acting like a total witch to the staff no matter what way she tried to justify her bad mood!!!!! She rants and acts entitled about everything but tries to disguise it as sarcasm or humor

 

[Natterbox80]

She's said people have subtly suggested it based on the way he interacts with people who aren't in his immediate family, but that she knows he isn't. It may be a bit of a sore spot, as she had an email last week from a woman who thinks her nephew is neurodivergent, and her advice was to stay well out of it, not to give any suggestions or advice on other people's kids. Which is fair enough in many ways!

I totally get that, I know my son is not neurodivergent too and people hint at it cause he goes into his shell at parties and has little speech. I almost find myself showing videos of him not acting the way they perceive to be neurodivergent. People need to mind their own business, including me suggesting it but I was not aware people were saying it to her too so I feel her pain.

 

[brianbutterfield]

People need to STOP pathologising each other and each other’s children. Unless you are a qualified, experienced Psychiatrist, you have absolutely business bandying around labels like autism.

Let people be. let children be sensitive and themselves without labelling them with ND.

The pole thing was annoying because you clearly see that he was tall enough. Customer service in the country is absolutely appalling and I agree with KR that it is bad.

 

[Kipanchew]

LOL Turning into mumsnet