There does seem to be a phenomenon of people being triggered by people breastfeeding or even talking about it. It is like when someone who didn't nurse responds "Fed is best" under a pro or educational post about nursing. I am interested to hear from mothers who feel this way.
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I have severely inverted nipples, therefore couldn't breastfeed my children. (I could have expressed in an attempt to establish supply, but it would have been a full time job during the time I should have been bonding with my babies, and it may not even have worked). It was immensely upsetting at the time, and even now eleven years on I still feel pangs of sadness, guilt, jealousy and inadequacy when I see breastfeeding content. I suppose if I still feel this way this far down the line, I always will.
I try not to begrudge people posting breastfeeding content as we're all adults. But by the same token, I've never posted about how proud and happy I was to give birth without intervention or pain relief, because a) it's largely down to dumb luck how these things turn out and b) I would never want someone who didn't have the birth experience they wanted to see it and feel sad. It's not worth it for me.
I think it's worth noting that in previous discussions around posting etiquette, I've had quite hostile pushback when I've stated my views and my MO. My bottom line is each to their own re: what to share; but I personally try not to share anything that could potentially cause pain
I try not to begrudge people posting breastfeeding content as we're all adults. But by the same token, I've never posted about how proud and happy I was to give birth without intervention or pain relief, because a) it's largely down to dumb luck how these things turn out and b) I would never want someone who didn't have the birth experience they wanted to see it and feel sad. It's not worth it for me.
I think it's worth noting that in previous discussions around posting etiquette, I've had quite hostile pushback when I've stated my views and my MO. My bottom line is each to their own re: what to share; but I personally try not to share anything that could potentially cause pain
This attitude is honestly so refreshing and resonates with me regarding delivering without intervention (I was intervention city x3) so smashing nusing was my only real triumph. Much to the detriment of my MH as I feckin hated itI have severely inverted nipples, therefore couldn't breastfeed my children. (I could have expressed in an attempt to establish supply, but it would have been a full time job during the time I should have been bonding with my babies, and it may not even have worked). It was immensely upsetting at the time, and even now eleven years on I still feel pangs of sadness, guilt, jealousy and inadequacy when I see breastfeeding content. I suppose if I still feel this way this far down the line, I always will.
I try not to begrudge people posting breastfeeding content as we're all adults. But by the same token, I've never posted about how proud and happy I was to give birth without intervention or pain relief, because a) it's largely down to dumb luck how these things turn out and b) I would never want someone who didn't have the birth experience they wanted to see it and feel sad. It's not worth it for me.
I think it's worth noting that in previous discussions around posting etiquette, I've had quite hostile pushback when I've stated my views and my MO. My bottom line is each to their own re: what to share; but I personally try not to share anything that could potentially cause pain
I find the lack of this self awareness with Katherine and the "not like the other girls" aspect of her personality really off-putting and unlikeable. I used to admire her determination and confidence, but now my eyes just roll whenever she says stuff.
guess i could say i feel this way. i'm not triggered by it in that i have no desire to breastfeed. but i'm on medication that is toxic when it passes into breastmilk so i had the choice taken away. I feel like a lot of breastfeeding women use it as a moral highground and want to rub it in peoples faces, like it becomes a holier than thou identity. " I'm a better mother as im doing it NATURALLY rather than using a scummy plastic artificial bottle and chemical milk".
it makes women who formula feed feel judged and looked down on.
It was breast or bust for me on my first, it was infuriating that anyone would let their precious breastmilk dry up.. Fast forward to my second who got a dangerous deficiency while being ebf (I was not deficient in this weirdly) thrive on my milk he did not.
If my milk was made specially for my child, my tiny baby seemed to want to have a deficiency that can make a child have learning difficulties and even brain damage. So my opinion on it mellowed so much, also it is SO hard. Not being able to share the feeding without pumping first is a ball ache.
Unlike Katherine I am painfully self conscious, so nursing in public was so hard for me too at beginning. I simply would never just let my breast dangle out for all to see online or anywhere.
I’m not funny about breastfeeding, it’s natural at the end of the day, babies need fed. I’m even feeling a bit bad for coming across as judgey on Katherine because I’d hate for a bf mum to read it and feel judged esp as your emotions can be all over the place when you have a newborn. It’s just a bit annoying to me to see her purposely show her boob as I feel it’s intentional and I can’t fathom why she’d do that.
I do wonder what the other super woke comedians think about Katherine working with and being close to Geoff Norcott and also Bobby being a Tory. Some of them are so bloody self righteous - Nish Kumar comes to mind (can’t stand him). It doesn’t fit with their ‘we all think the same’ ethos.
I do wonder what the other super woke comedians think about Katherine working with and being close to Geoff Norcott and also Bobby being a Tory. Some of them are so bloody self righteous - Nish Kumar comes to mind (can’t stand him). It doesn’t fit with their ‘we all think the same’ ethos.
If we went down the rabbit hole of not posting something because it might upset someone then no one would ever post anything. Should I not post my new house because someone else is stuck renting? Me on a run because someone has a disability that means they can’t? Me with my wife because someone else is single? Maybe don’t post your kids/pregnancy/feeding experiences at all out of respect for those who can’t have kids? Where would it end?!
This is exactly what people usually say to me when I talk about how breastfeeding posts make me feel
and it's true really. Going by my personal code of conduct means I rarely post anything ever, but that's ok with me as I never really feel the need to. I just lurk like a creep 
Well exactly. I’m so sorry you’ve had a hard time and I appreciate how you feel. But people can’t never share anything because ultimately everybody has something that someone else wants or can’t have or do.This is exactly what people usually say to me when I talk about how breastfeeding posts make me feel
So funny you mention Nish Kumar. In a previous life I had to hang around that set in hipsterville due to my gf at the time. bleeping dreadful people ... hence the fact she's now my ex.
Oo tell us moreSo funny you mention Nish Kumar. In a previous life I had to hang around that set in hipsterville due to my gf at the time. bleeping dreadful people ... hence the fact she's now my ex.
Much like Sarah Pascoe, Katherine Ryan started off as someone I quite liked and enjoyed and who I thought was clever and put across their feminist-leaning views without being annoying... but now they are both just tedious and irritating.
(Feminist is not a dirty word, btw)
(Feminist is not a dirty word, btw)
omg yes tell us more!!So funny you mention Nish Kumar. In a previous life I had to hang around that set in hipsterville due to my gf at the time. bleeping dreadful people ... hence the fact she's now my ex.
Don’t leave us hanginSo funny you mention Nish Kumar. In a previous life I had to hang around that set in hipsterville due to my gf at the time. bleeping dreadful people ... hence the fact she's now my ex.
I’ve heard a few audio clips of Nish Kumar on stage and just found him so arrogant, misogynistic (disguised as right on 
) and self righteous. Such a whiney and annoying voice too. And he’s the least funny of all that crowd. Is there a Nish Kumar thread Would love to hear your personal experience.
Re being triggered by bf posts. Personally, I find anything preechy annoying either way. I feel like all the info is out there re breastfeeding, great if you can but it does require support for most mums whether they realise it or not. It is much harder to breast feed on demand with a second or third kid running riot. Katherine has a nanny looking after Fred most of the time so she can let Fenna feed guilt free, no time restrictions, no juggling. My friend has twins and wanted to BF but quickly realised that it really was a full time job. She had another young one running around and a husband who had to go back to work and there was just no way. She ended up doing a bit of both but was really guilt tripped by health visitors. Maybe KR could credit the help she gets a bit more because she does come across as ‘ hey, I’m just an attachment parent and that is the best way to be and I am a chilled mama who managed to balance it all’.
I do agree with comments about it being unnecessary and an invasion of privacy and it is DEFINITELY a fetish and she is probably playing to that if she is doing it heaps. I guess I don’t have a problem if it’s just naturally there and not a focus in videos.
As for her lips, she says in her book that she got them done in a dodgy place where they used silicone so they are permanent.
I feel like lips mess up people’s natural face balance so badly. Cheryl cole especially but I’m seeing more and more women in their late 30s who have a kind of clown mouth. Not sure how to describe it. Not super pumped up just weird.
I do agree with comments about it being unnecessary and an invasion of privacy and it is DEFINITELY a fetish and she is probably playing to that if she is doing it heaps. I guess I don’t have a problem if it’s just naturally there and not a focus in videos.
As for her lips, she says in her book that she got them done in a dodgy place where they used silicone so they are permanent.
I feel like lips mess up people’s natural face balance so badly. Cheryl cole especially but I’m seeing more and more women in their late 30s who have a kind of clown mouth. Not sure how to describe it. Not super pumped up just weird.
Kind of a wide mouth? I was saying this to my husband the other night as well. We were watching the last Scream and Courtney Cox made me think it.
Yes! That’s it. Like it’s been stretched. Courtney cox definitely has it and I feel like it happens over time and starts to show late 30s and beyond. The lady at my beauty salon has it and I’m sure she’s had lip filler in her time.
Bahahaha sadly not. I wish I had been. I can just picture him getting enraged while having his sneaky ciggie on the balcony.Please tell me you’re referring to Bobby as the nanny
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