Oh that's great thanks, mine will prob be around the second week of Jan, I'll need to take a day or two off work I'd say, haven't taken a sick day in 6 years and don't know what to be telling them
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Sorry for jumping on this thread, I’m going for embryo transfer today, I had my egg retrieval last week and they got 11 eggs but only 1 has made it to embryo stage! I can’t help feeling all kind of emotions about , scared that it won’t work. Then we will have to go through the whole process again! I know you only need one good egg! But I just worry that it won’t work! I wish I could be more of a positive person!!
Good luck on your transfer! Hope everything goes well. I think it’s totally normal to be worried, take care of yourself x
Wife and I have just started the IUI process and the clinic have already got us mixed up after our first appointment and sent something through to our GP under her name instead of mine (I will be the one going through the IUI). I cannot be arsed with this kind of thing this early in the process.
Oh good luck! You're right, it can only take one and I guess all progress and steps you take are good right, hoping everything goes well for you
So my next period is due on the 28th of this month and the clinic is closed for Christmas on the 23rd until after the New Year and I have to have a scan on the first day of my period to check all is ok before I start taking meds. So that means I can't start this cycle. Then next cycle my period is due on the 24th of Jan and of course it's typical that we are going away on the 23rd of Jan until the 27th. It's with my sister and her kids, so not like I can change it.
Clinic said they could put me on the pill, starting first day of my next period until 15th of Jan to bring on an early period on the 20th. My cycles are very regular, and I really don't want to go on the pill for a couple of weeks to mess with that. Am I mad delaying until Feb now? I just think it's bad advice from the clinic but maybe it's not, I dunno
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I don’t think you’re mad for delaying, the IVF process can take over your life so I think it’s important to try and make it as convenient as possible. That being said, I wouldn’t worry too much about messing with your cycle as the IVF medication will affect that anyway, with drugs stimulating the follicles, drugs to suppress natural ovulation and then ovulation not occurring until after you’ve triggered.Oh good luck! You're right, it can only take one and I guess all progress and steps you take are good right, hoping everything goes well for you
So my next period is due on the 28th of this month and the clinic is closed for Christmas on the 23rd until after the New Year and I have to have a scan on the first day of my period to check all is ok before I start taking meds. So that means I can't start this cycle. Then next cycle my period is due on the 24th of Jan and of course it's typical that we are going away on the 23rd of Jan until the 27th. It's with my sister and her kids, so not like I can change it.
Clinic said they could put me on the pill, starting first day of my next period until 15th of Jan to bring on an early period on the 20th. My cycles are very regular, and I really don't want to go on the pill for a couple of weeks to mess with that. Am I mad delaying until Feb now? I just think it's bad advice from the clinic but maybe it's not, I dunno
I suppose the other thing to think about is if you did take the pill to bring your period on earlier, would you need to start meds whilst you’re on holiday? Just something to consider if you’ll need to keep drugs in the fridge and actually give yourself injections while you’re away.
Good luck! How did it go?
I’ve got my phone consult with the doctor today to get the ball rolling
I'm only going about an hour away and it's self catering, realistically i could come back for scans and all. I said to them anyway I didn't want to start the pill so we just agreed I'll get in touch when my next cycle starts, who knows it could be early or late and then timings might work out!
Thank you for all your good luck wishes! It went okay so fingers crossed! I just get anxious and question why it never happened naturally! I have a 9 year old who I had with my ex partner and never really got to enjoy his first few years through a blur of dv! So hoping I get a second chance at being a good mum and my husband gets the chance to be a dad as he has shown how good he is with my son.Good luck! How did it go?
I’ve got my phone consult with the doctor today to get the ball rolling
Good luck with your journeys
Had some good news yesterday, our referral has been accepted by the NHS and we are officially on the waiting list - yay!
Hi ladies! I’m 25 and my husband is 28. My husband has anorchia, so we needed to use donor sperm. We unfortunately had 6 failed IUIs between Dec’ 21 and June’ 22. We chose a new donor in July this year and started our IVF journey in august. Amazingly we managed to get 10 embryos in the freezer🥹! I got OHSS so we weren’t allowed to transfer that month. We did a frozen embryo transfer early on in November and that little embryo has decided to stick around! we were discharged from our clinic on Monday - a day I never thought would happen!
If anyone has any questions RE: the IUI or IVF process, or using a donor then I’m happy to try my best to answer
good luck with your journeys 
we were discharged from our clinic on Monday - a day I never thought would happen!If anyone has any questions RE: the IUI or IVF process, or using a donor then I’m happy to try my best to answer
good luck with your journeys 
This is amazing I’m so happy it all worked out for you in the end congratulationsHi ladies! I’m 25 and my husband is 28. My husband has anorchia, so we needed to use donor sperm. We unfortunately had 6 failed IUIs between Dec’ 21 and June’ 22. We chose a new donor in July this year and started our IVF journey in august. Amazingly we managed to get 10 embryos in the freezer🥹! I got OHSS so we weren’t allowed to transfer that month. We did a frozen embryo transfer early on in November and that little embryo has decided to stick around!
If anyone has any questions RE: the IUI or IVF process, or using a donor then I’m happy to try my best to answer
So I’m meant to test on Tuesday 20th , I know it’s going to be negative as I’ve been bleeding and getting pains in my left side. I just feel like why am I prolonging the answer holding on to a bit of hope that it’s positive! I just feel like such a failure that my body can’t even hold on to an embryo through ivf! All I wanted was a second chance at being a mum to raise a baby in a happy home, I’m grateful to have my son but anytime I try and think back to his first few years I just think of all the dv I went through! Sending good luck to you all!!
I don’t actually want a response but just need to get stuff out of my head! So I actually done a test today which confirmed what I already new that the ivf didn’t work!
I’m just finding it difficult to get my head around when we were told over 2 years ago we had no fertility issues but it just wasn’t happening so we paid for ivf and the outcome is just more added heartache!
I just feel like I want to run away from it all! Don’t get me wrong I’m grateful to already have a son but I don’t feel like a parent to him I feel like my parents sisters etc and his own dad all take that relationship away!
I feel like my work don’t understand as long as work gets done! I feel like my family don’t care as long as they see my son.
I feel like a traitor as I know so many people are struggling to have one child! I just want to experience having a baby in a loving relationship with my husband! Not to have memories tarnished with dv, ptsd, anxiety and depression! Everywhere you go there are babies or families I even had a friend text me saying she struggled but yet she was pregnant as if to rub it in my face saying that they considered ivf but didn’t need it!
I’m just finding it difficult to get my head around when we were told over 2 years ago we had no fertility issues but it just wasn’t happening so we paid for ivf and the outcome is just more added heartache!
I just feel like I want to run away from it all! Don’t get me wrong I’m grateful to already have a son but I don’t feel like a parent to him I feel like my parents sisters etc and his own dad all take that relationship away!
I feel like my work don’t understand as long as work gets done! I feel like my family don’t care as long as they see my son.
I feel like a traitor as I know so many people are struggling to have one child! I just want to experience having a baby in a loving relationship with my husband! Not to have memories tarnished with dv, ptsd, anxiety and depression! Everywhere you go there are babies or families I even had a friend text me saying she struggled but yet she was pregnant as if to rub it in my face saying that they considered ivf but didn’t need it!
I’m really sorry it didn’t work and I don’t think you should feel any differently just because you already have a son. This is your story and I personally totally understand that you want your chance to have a different experience. Don’t give up
I’m really sorry that it didn’t work for you. Just because you have a child already doesn’t make your feelings any less valid. Have you been able to speak to your clinic since you’ve had the result? Take care of yourself x
I totally understand, it's heartbreaking whether it's your first or not, who doesn't want their child to have a sibling to bond with! I hope your clinic will be able to give you some answers, you deserve them
Just on the no issues thing, we didn't have any either, only thing that showed up was high DNA fragmentation for my husband, we had our last child no problem 6 years ago so sometimes semen quality can deteriate over time, have you had a DNA frag test done? Not every clinic recommends it but basically if results are poor, ICSI is the way to go
Hello everyone, We've been trying for a baby for 5 years and we're currently due to start IVF in January (hopefully.) We've had all the tests and all is good with his results, all is mainly good with me, the only problem is that I have "really low" AMH levels according to the specialist. My mum went through early menopause at 42 so it kind of makes sense that my AMH would be low at the age of 37. The diagnosis is "unexplained infertility".
No IUI offered here so we have 1 round of IVF on the NHS and the specialist is managing our expectations by telling us that the quality of my eggs might be too low even retrieve let alone to create an embryo but Dr google tells me an AMH level of 1, although it's low, it's not as low as the consultant is making out (i.e not much hope of IVF working with my eggs) yet I'm still getting really ahead of myself thinking I will be growing a baby by February and this time next year baby will be with us (I know, I shouldn't be)
We have our appointment with the nurse on Wednesday which I'm kind of terrified about because i know that's when we will be taught how to do the injections and I'm petrified of needles.
We're both healthy in terms of all the BMI parameters, vitamins we should be taking etc, but i'm just wondering if anyone can advise on questions we should ask the nurse on Wednesday?
No IUI offered here so we have 1 round of IVF on the NHS and the specialist is managing our expectations by telling us that the quality of my eggs might be too low even retrieve let alone to create an embryo but Dr google tells me an AMH level of 1, although it's low, it's not as low as the consultant is making out (i.e not much hope of IVF working with my eggs) yet I'm still getting really ahead of myself thinking I will be growing a baby by February and this time next year baby will be with us (I know, I shouldn't be)
We have our appointment with the nurse on Wednesday which I'm kind of terrified about because i know that's when we will be taught how to do the injections and I'm petrified of needles.
We're both healthy in terms of all the BMI parameters, vitamins we should be taking etc, but i'm just wondering if anyone can advise on questions we should ask the nurse on Wednesday?
Thank you for your reply! I think we will ask the question, I just feel so rubbish about it all and blame myself, my husband is a fantastic role model to my son and I don’t want him not to have the chance to have his own child. It’s hard when you go through dv find someone who then treats you right to struggle to conceive! My son has 2 half siblings through my ex and it bloody hurts knowing he ruined my memories with him and treated me like tit but gets the chance to have more kids!I totally understand, it's heartbreaking whether it's your first or not, who doesn't want their child to have a sibling to bond with! I hope your clinic will be able to give you some answers, you deserve them
Just on the no issues thing, we didn't have any either, only thing that showed up was high DNA fragmentation for my husband, we had our last child no problem 6 years ago so sometimes semen quality can deteriate over time, have you had a DNA frag test done? Not every clinic recommends it but basically if results are poor, ICSI is the way to go
Really hope it works out for you too
CD1 for me so hopefully we will be doing our FET in January 2023! Just booked my CD10 scan to check my lining, which will hopefully be OK for them to give us a date for the transfer