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People are going to look back on this thread and wonder who or what was the mythical "Pebbledash" !
 
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When my ex and I went on holiday to Portugal, we had a horrendous afternoon wresting with a broken hire car and then trying to get back to our apartment via a dual carriageway that we both fell onto the beers that evening and decided to try the local 'Algarvian Tuna'.

Fast forward a few hours and both of us were spectacularly ill but managed to get through the night. The morning after, my ex went to the loo and found a huge poo sitting there. I got up and then remembered I must have been ill again and forgot to flush so decided to pretend we had been burgled. Luckily, we were so pissed we left the door unlocked too so my plan worked.

I had to play along for weeks while he told all our friends about the otter-sized poo the burglar had done when we got back from holiday.
 
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I slept with a guy that my friend (at the time) liked. He kissed me on a night out and it all went from there. He wasn't interested in her but she doesn't know. Oops.
 
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When I was a little I was having a bath with my brother and I did a poo in the bath, when mum turned back to us I blamed my brother and she believed me and told him off. To this day he remembers and I still deny it. Even at 40 I won’t admit it😂😂😂

Sorry if this one is really triggering.

13 years ago when my children were little and I’d been married for 8 years, I was grape on a night out with friends by a pub landlord. I am certain date grape drug was used. I rarely went out, and didn’t know him.

I got hold of his number from a friend the next day and questioned what he did to me, he tit himself and he quickly told the town we had sex and I consented. To this day I’ve only one flashback of that night, enough to know what he did to me, just one flashback of seconds. . So the whole town thought I was some evil cheat on my husband, I ended up with severe anxiety and PTSD. The reality was only my husband believed me that I was grape and I ended up in years of therapy. My GP said it was grape and urged me to go to the police but I couldn’t face it as everyone seemed to believe his lies. So I couldn’t face telling the world I was grape as I thought no one would believe me. I was the talk of all the gossips at the school gate, no wonder I had severe anxiety leaving my house. My own mother believed the rumours over her own daughter, no wonder I always blamed myself and suffered so much.

Bit of a depressing one but that’s one huge secret I’ve never told anyone other than my husband, Gp and therapist.
 
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As a teenager I found out a family member (male) was cheating on his wife with (I think) a sex worker. I went to use his computer, with permission, and saw it was logged into an email account I didn't recognise (I knew his 'real' email address) and there was an email open on screen - some of the details were negotiating a meet up, sex acts etc. It was definitely him as it was signed off using his name etc.

I was completely panicked. Closed everything down while my heart was racing and never mentioned it to anyone. I feel guilty now for not telling his wife (they are very recently separated, only last year, but I saw this stuff like over 10 years ago) but I was just a child really at the time and so disturbed by it I wouldn't have known what to do.
 
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I crashed into a parked car the week after I passed my driving test. I was 17, probably shouldn't have passed really, examiner was babbling on about his divorce and not even watching my driving, I went to my friends, it was pitch black, I took the corner too fast in 3rd gear and crashed into a parked car. At the time I just jumped out, see the car just had a small mark and drove off panicking but still feel guilty 17 years later as I reckon the damage was a lot more it was just too dark to see!! I then realised I'd smashed my headlight and panicked and told my dad that it was like that when I returned to a car park in the high street, he was like "oh yeah i can see how that happened, dont park on the corner again" I still haven't told him! 🤭🤣
Hahahah, I once knocked my own wing mirror off, I scraped someone else’s car & I told my dad I nipped into spar shop and when I got back in the car it was like that. He went to the shop asking for cctv🤦🏻‍♀️😂 he still doesn’t know I lied.
 
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I thought no one would believe me. I was the talk of all the gossips at the school gate, no wonder I had severe anxiety leaving my house. My own mother believed the rumours over her own daughter, no wonder I always blamed myself and suffered so much.
Am so so sorry to hear that. What is it about society that people always want to blame the woman and not believe her. How many times have you heard of men doing terrible things, and all people ever say is "his wife must have known" or things like that
 
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The reality was only my husband believed me that I was grape and I ended up in years of therapy. My GP said it was grape and urged me to go to the police but I couldn’t face it as everyone seemed to believe his lies. So I couldn’t face telling the world I was grape as I thought no one would believe me. I was the talk of all the gossips at the school gate, no wonder I had severe anxiety leaving my house. My own mother believed the rumours over her own daughter, no wonder I always blamed myself and suffered so much.
I am so sorry this happened to you, honestly disgusts me hearing things like this. A family member of mine was sexually assaulted and went to court over it; she was dragged over hot coals, even by her own mother too, who told her off for getting drunk that night.
 
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When I am driving I pretend I am on X factor and sing as if i am the best singer in the whole wide world. I get a Susan Boyle reaction. Simon signs me straight away. The audience are giving me a standing ovation, they are crying at just how wonderful I am; I am just magnificent. Its good fun until you get to the lights and people clock you doing it and you cannot actually carry a tune in a bag. :giggle: 😁

( i also shagged my boss in the comms room but thats a secret that i am not gonna tell, even on here, just in case i get outed - oops)
 
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I am so sorry this happened to you, honestly disgusts me hearing things like this. A family member of mine was sexually assaulted and went to court over it; she was dragged over hot coals, even by her own mother too, who told her off for getting drunk that night.
I had a few drinks and maybe was a bit tipsy but never in my life have I no memory after drinking. I was told by a bar staff member who knew my brother that he was giving me free drinks, triple vodkas and coke. I don’t ever drink spirits. So I’ve no idea what he did to me but I’d never ever sleep with anyone. My husband is the only man I’ve ever been with so what this man did to me destroyed me.

I’m so sorry for your friend, that’s awful, My mum and sister turned their backs on me saying my husband should leave me. Needless to say I don’t speak to them anymore.

Am so so sorry to hear that. What is it about society that people always want to blame the woman and not believe her. How many times have you heard of men doing terrible things, and all people ever say is "his wife must have known" or things like that
Exactly. It was the lowest time in my life and I lived years of anxiety and panic attacks which led to chronic physical health issues. I’d never ever cheat on my husband, he’s the only man I’ve been with my whole life, it destroyed me people believed that I’d do such a thing and I never got to voice the truth of what happened, I just took the abuse. For years I said it was my fault, maybe I drunk more than I realised, I’m just a drunk cheat. Until my doctor and therapist said no it’s grape.
 
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When I was a little I was having a bath with my brother and I did a poo in the bath, when mum turned back to us I blamed my brother and she believed me and told him off. To this day he remembers and I still deny it. Even at 40 I won’t admit it😂😂😂

Sorry if this one is really triggering.

13 years ago when my children were little and I’d been married for 8 years, I was grape on a night out with friends by a pub landlord. I am certain date grape drug was used. I rarely went out, and didn’t know him.

I got hold of his number from a friend the next day and questioned what he did to me, he tit himself and he quickly told the town we had sex and I consented. To this day I’ve only one flashback of that night, enough to know what he did to me, just one flashback of seconds. . So the whole town thought I was some evil cheat on my husband, I ended up with severe anxiety and PTSD. The reality was only my husband believed me that I was grape and I ended up in years of therapy. My GP said it was grape and urged me to go to the police but I couldn’t face it as everyone seemed to believe his lies. So I couldn’t face telling the world I was grape as I thought no one would believe me. I was the talk of all the gossips at the school gate, no wonder I had severe anxiety leaving my house. My own mother believed the rumours over her own daughter, no wonder I always blamed myself and suffered so much.

Bit of a depressing one but that’s one huge secret I’ve never told anyone other than my husband, Gp and therapist.
I'm sorry you went through that. Didnt your husband go round and sort him out?
 
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When we’d just moved into our house 8 years ago we were having all the taps changed, so the water was off. I had a terrible stomach ache suddenly that wouldn’t wait. I’m ashamed to say I had to go in the cat litter tray in the utility room 😩
Plumber and my husband were both gagging at the smell asking what on earth the cat had been eating. Still never told anyone the truth. 😂
😂😂😂😂😂😂 OMG love this
 
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I caught someone stealing money from work. Gave evidence to my boss. He did nothing. I compiled more evidence, till trackers etc. Bosses boss tell him to look into cash loss. I get told I'm being watched. I made sure to be on the same shift as the thief and took £70 out of the till. Still nobody did anything.

I've had sex with a stranger against a bin behind a kebab shop 30 seconds after meeting. I have paid a cab fair "in kind". Nobody would ever guess because I'm so "sensible" and have been monogamous for absolutely years
I’m sorry you met someone and then within 30 seconds you had sex. How does that happen 😂😂😂
 
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Sorry if this one is really triggering.
13 years ago when my children were little and I’d been married for 8 years, I was grape on a night out with friends by a pub landlord. I am certain date grape drug was used. I rarely went out, and didn’t know him.
I got hold of his number from a friend the next day and questioned what he did to me, he tit himself and he quickly told the town we had sex and I consented. To this day I’ve only one flashback of that night, enough to know what he did to me, just one flashback of seconds. . So the whole town thought I was some evil cheat on my husband, I ended up with severe anxiety and PTSD. The reality was only my husband believed me that I was grape and I ended up in years of therapy. My GP said it was grape and urged me to go to the police but I couldn’t face it as everyone seemed to believe his lies. So I couldn’t face telling the world I was grape as I thought no one would believe me. I was the talk of all the gossips at the school gate, no wonder I had severe anxiety leaving my house. My own mother believed the rumours over her own daughter, no wonder I always blamed myself and suffered so much.
Bit of a depressing one but that’s one huge secret I’ve never told anyone other than my husband, Gp and therapist.
i am so sorry to hear that happened to you 💜 it obviously happens much more often than we think because i had a very similar situation when i was very young. i was assaulted by a guy older than me after a night out. as i was drunk, it was easy for him to tell everyone that we had consensual sex and that i cheated on my boyfriend with him. i was so scared of him that i didn't even admit to my boyfriend what the actual truth was. :(

I’m sorry you met someone and then within 30 seconds you had sex. How does that happen 😂😂😂
on a more positive note, i am also very intrigued as to how this happens lol
 
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I'm sorry you went through that. Didnt your husband go round and sort him out?
He wanted to but I begged him not to. I didn’t want any fights or police involved. My mum and sister at the time convinced me JT was all my fault. If it happened now I’d tell them to sod off and just go to the police. Older and wiser.

i am so sorry to hear that happened to you 💜 it obviously happens much more often than we think because i had a very similar situation when i was very young. i was assaulted by a guy older than me after a night out. as i was drunk, it was easy for him to tell everyone that we had consensual sex and that i cheated on my boyfriend with him. i was so scared of him that i didn't even admit to my boyfriend what the actual truth was. :(


on a more positive note, i am also very intrigued as to how this happens lol
I relate so much. Sending you a hug xxx
 
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He wanted to but I begged him not to. I didn’t want any fights or police involved. My mum and sister at the time convinced me JT was all my fault. If it happened now I’d tell them to sod off and just go to the police. Older and wiser.
I relate so much. Sending you a hug xxx
i completely understand why you didn't want anyone involved, and i would have reacted differently today as well, but we did the best we could! sending a big hug back 💜
 
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I don’t think it’s ‘normal’ to have to give advice that long term partners can’t be trusted.
I thought it was more, ultimately you can only be responsible for yourself. If a woman doesn't want to get pregnant, she can go on the pill or have an IUD fitted. If a man doesn't want to get someone pregnant, he should wear a condom, regardless of what his partner is telling him. If you definitely don't want children as a man, you can even get the snip.
 
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