You shouldn't have to tell him anything, if he's a grown man he will will know how the world works. If you have sex then women can get pregnant. If you absolutely do not want to have a baby then you take personal responsibility to ensure it doesn't happen.
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Or sometimes contraception just fails. No contraception is 100% effective. I know a woman who got pregnant with a coil fitted, and a few who’ve fallen pregnant on the pill. It’s a bit misogynistic to blame the woman. Well actually very misogynistic. If he doesn’t want kids he can always get the snip.
A lot of men don't bother to ask about contraception. It is something they leave up to the woman.
I actually reminded my first child's dad that he'd never actually asked me if I was on the pill and he said he thought I would have started taking it when I I started seeing him (I'd been single a bit beforehand).
I'm not justifying it , but the child is still as worthy as a planned child.
I actually reminded my first child's dad that he'd never actually asked me if I was on the pill and he said he thought I would have started taking it when I I started seeing him (I'd been single a bit beforehand).
I'm not justifying it , but the child is still as worthy as a planned child.
Ultimately every time you have sex you accept a child may be produced from it (failed contraception). If he really doesn’t want a child he should wrap it up and as an adult if he can’t accept that maybe he shouldn’t he having sex.
You should be telling your son to use condoms because it reduces the risk of std’s and also ensures he’s taking responsibility for his own fertility, not because a woman may or may not lie about birth control (birth control can also fail so there’s that too).
Men rarely seem so bothered about STDs .
But if you’re in a relationship and the understanding is that the woman is using contraception, if she then knowingly stops taking it to get pregnant without telling him that is absolutely deception. Otherwise why not tell him she’s stopped taking it. I’m not judging anyone but personally I do think it’s very wrong to make such a life altering decision without consulting your partner. If you didn’t think you were doing something wrong you’d say that you had come off the pill, not hide it, surely.
Well I guess that’s on them but they really should be bothered about not spreading it around at the very least.
Yes but we weren’t talking about contraceptive failing were we!!! We were talking about people actively lying to their partner about contraception, you might think that lying like that is alright in a relationship, I personally don’t
I never said that wasn’t wrong. Just that adults need to accept sex may result in a baby regardless of the precautions taken. A mother shouldn’t need to remind her adult son to wrap up his fool.
Am I the only one who thinks the posts by Pebbledash were bullsh#t?
Eating her thrush - come on, seriously? I think she was just a wind up merchant.
Eating her thrush - come on, seriously? I think she was just a wind up merchant.
Gawd, my lads nearly 29, we had those talks when he was 14, I'd never expect to have to issue reminders about it now at his age, that's up to him and his fiancée to work out!
I do understand what you’re saying and agree when it comes to casual relationships most definitely, men should definitely be taking precautions. My brother has 2 kids with 2 women he was never in a relationship with and that is on him. But in a serious committed relationship I don’t think it’s the same if a couple have discussed contraception. For many years I was on the injection so we didn’t have to use condoms, it wouldn’t have been right for me alone to just decide to stop doing that without giving my partner any say in that. That’s just my feelings on it but anyway I don’t want to derail so will leave it there x
My child's dad knew I was crap at taking the pill, I always spoke about babies etc and he didn't want to wear a condom. I didn't assault him 
we had a beautiful baby boy who has always been his best friend and I can guarantee even if I told him he wouldn't be cross. He used to always laugh and say he was sure I didn't delib take it properly. I don't know why so many women are getting funny about it, sex=babies
we had a beautiful baby boy who has always been his best friend and I can guarantee even if I told him he wouldn't be cross. He used to always laugh and say he was sure I didn't delib take it properly. I don't know why so many women are getting funny about it, sex=babies
Yeah, just a matter of trust really isn't it. Seemed like the poster broke someone's trust. That the outcome was positive in the end shouldn't really come into it.
I'm very sad that this thread has turned into talking about trapping men, babies and contraception! I know people are revealing things people don't agree with but I think it'll put people off just randomly revealing stuff if people will just go on about it. I'm sure OP didn't want it to turn into people judging each other! Some of these reveals are hilarious and gross but would be nice to reserve typing judgement for once.
Yeah let it drop people, nobody should be here to Judge, just read what everyone's saying ( there will be things you don't like) if so scroll on.....
Nothing sad about that at all, perfectly normal advice to pass on.
I slept with an old work client a few times, in his car not too far from where he worked. Usually after we had meetings there together.
I was in a relationship at the time which was hanging on by a thread as he’d already cheated on me but showed so much remorse I stayed. I know two wrongs don’t make a right and I do feel bad about it but it gave me a push to end things and move on.
I still speak to and see this guy every now and then for work reasons. The sexual tension is ridiculous but it’s as if we both have a silent agreement that it’s over and done with. Sex was a solid 9.5/10
I was in a relationship at the time which was hanging on by a thread as he’d already cheated on me but showed so much remorse I stayed. I know two wrongs don’t make a right and I do feel bad about it but it gave me a push to end things and move on.
I still speak to and see this guy every now and then for work reasons. The sexual tension is ridiculous but it’s as if we both have a silent agreement that it’s over and done with. Sex was a solid 9.5/10
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