Thank you for the replies, I did feel that having gone through so very much (IVF) to have those beautiful children, it would be so unlikely for him to just disconnect like that for work.
wow it just feels like forever on this divorce, it's so painful for all of them.
I understand you can fall fully and totally in love and totally feel the words "till death do us part". It feels like a bereavement when a relationship like that breaks (for whatever reason). Sometimes when there isn't another party involved, it can feel even worse because in time you realise, there isn't another person to hold to blame (even if they aren't entirely or at all the right person to blame). That's when you realise you changed, they changed, something changed and that was why it fell apart.
You can see she's hurt and confused and broken, but..... in times like this, written words come back to bite you. Feelings being outpoured in public are there for others to review and comment on. This should be a private time. Most celebs do opt for the wording along the lines of "the family asks for privacy at this difficult time" so they can process things privately.
I can see she often writes that the two little girls have every right to see, hear and know every step of the journey. But I can say from personal understandings, that it matters not if one parent is a
. It's not fair or right to keep hammering your pain into the child's mind and heart. One day, that child will become an adult, with their own opinions, views and beliefs. If you stand back a little (always keeping them safe and loved) they will form their own views of each party.
Right now, they may feel Dad has left them at a painful time, with a Mum who is not handling it well at all. They may feel abandoned, confused and frightened over all the changes happening (will they move home, will they move school, will they keep the nanny). The times they speak to their Dad should be peaceful, calm and relaxed. Not spent with one eye on a pained Mum who wants to steal a few of those precious moments for herself.
She needs to discuss children things (like school) privately over the wizard. She should encourage both girls to engage with Dad. She should ask any questions on how the boiler works, what light bulbs need changing (she always says bits around the house don't work and only he knows about them) again, on the wizard.
If she'd stepped back down a few gears, he may have had breathing space to see if it's defo over for him. Or at least felt they could be civil and polite to each other. This non stop anger is driving a larger gap between them and making sure there is no way back ever.