Ioan Gruffudd & Alice Evans #146 Evil HQ posts record profits as membership soars

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Please don't think that you have upset me in anyway, that is bad and it's has nothing to do with autism, in my eyes. I think you are incredibly brave to share this story. I'm upset for you, for what a kind person has been put through. So please do think you've upset me, in a bad way. I'm quite an emotional/heart on sleeve person. I think that anyone will feel for you, and they are right to do so.
What you have endured, you are a true warrior!

Again, please don't think that you was wrong in sharing, it's a very emotional story and I thank you for sharing it with us.

I still wanna give you a huge hug
 
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Nah. That’s just someone getting excited about sports.
 
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I do know that my partner goes FUCKING NUTS when watching football, to the point of being in pubs and some landlords telling him to leave or shut up (especially if it's a family pub). It could be a bit of both.

And I'm not emotionally abusing him (my partner), if anything, he can be the domineering one at times.
 
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If that skank ever turns around and claims Irish blood, I will personally be on the next flight to LA to slap her with a (vegan) Clonakilty black pudding.
Similar with Scottish. I'll be using a Simon Howie veggie black pudding.
 
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That’s what I mean about tacitly consenting to his own abuse, at that point, he should have told her to shut up.
That’s not how it works in a long-term abusive relationship. You can’t tell the abuser to shut up (or fight back) because you know it will make things exponentially worse for you. He lived with her for years. He knew how bad it could get.

This blame the victim stance doesn’t wash.
 
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That’s what I mean about tacitly consenting to his own abuse, at that point, he should have told her to shut up.
Again, the abuse like this does not happen overnight. If your partner suddenly did something like this yes, telling them to get stuffed would be natural reaction. However this situation occurred after years and years of slow cunning manipulation, increasing the pressure more and more until the victim had no will left and blame themselves for everything. Seriously, please read up on emotional manipulation and abuse!
 
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That’s what I mean about tacitly consenting to his own abuse, at that point, he should have told her to shut up.
That was after almost 2 decades of her abuse too. It wasn't like the first time.
 
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That’s what I mean about tacitly consenting to his own abuse, at that point, he should have told her to shut up.
which would have been used by her as him abusing her: the optics of a men yelling at a football match then also yelling at his wife are not very pretty.

this is entirely normal across all men
 
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That’s what I mean about tacitly consenting to his own abuse, at that point, he should have told her to shut up.
If you know someone who has been long-term emotionally abused and fearful, you're just doing that to keep the peace (you're under even more stress to try and stay responsible / protective when there's children around). I really don't think it's fair to blame Ioan.

It could even have been that old war cry of "maybe he / she'll change" - you hear many women saying this and love does make you (try to) forgive people and yearn for the courting and honeymoon period.

I can't really go along with the "Ioan is culpable" mindset - of course we all could have smartened up and left earlier, but if you're someone who takes their vows and parental responsibilities very seriously, you're damned if you do and damned if you don't. No doubt Ioan had some idea Alice would turn into even more of a monster if he did up and leave. Look at what happened next...

The irony is, Alice tried to break him (she threatened to ruin him) and she ended up being the broken one.
 
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It’s just normal to go crazy yelling and screaming when the football is on. Esp someone as passionate as IG. My hub does it but only if it’s his team playing. Otherwise he sits quietly. We just watched Australia get slaughtered and he didn’t do anything except wince. But you put his team on and it’s all on, screaming and all.
 
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Warm hug received and reciprocated. We’ve both survived the impossible and emerged not unscathed, but a hell of a lot stronger and wiser. I’m so glad that I didn’t upset you too greatly - I’ve been in agonies for the last twenty minutes and was so afraid that I’d overloaded you with an incredible and unwarranted emotional burden. I will be much more careful in the way I present things in future.
Lots of love. Xxx
 
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which would have been used by her as him abusing her: the optics of a men yelling at a football match then also yelling at his wife are not very pretty.


this is entirely normal across all men
Not all, come on Out of 6 in my family (including uncles), my husband, his mates, and my (quite a few) male friends not a single one does that. Neither do females for that matter, even though some are quite into sports. I doubt my family and friends are all that unique
 
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Yep, and Brit ex-pats have great little communities. All these years later and she’s more alone than ever. It’s very telling isn’t it.

What a strange and lonely life. Those poor girls i bet Ioan and Bianca have fun plans with their friends. I just hope Alice allows the girls to join in some of the festivities instead of peeling spuds and being bored in the casa del twitter..
 
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