Re: AE sexualising everything, my ex did the same and most of the people he would slander it was usually sexually based. I once pointed out my chiropractor's wife/receptionist walking down the street and he said he'd seen her breasts. When I made a sound of disgust he claimed it was in a wet t-shirt competition. I also worked out that in the 18 months we dated he had flings with at least 6 other women. He was always trying to make out that he was soooo attractive and women were always throwing themselves at him - partly to make me jealous, but I think also because he needed to believe that. One of the major markers of narcissism is a lot of short flings with people. So AE sexualising everything, even her children, might be another trait of narcissism. And I wouldn't be at all surprised if she's had a lot more flings of her own while IG was away, and subtly or maybe not so subtly taunted him with them.
Sorry if I'm boring people talking about my ex so much. These AE threads, AE herself, and all the posters on here who sadly have so much experience and knowledge with narcs has helped me so much to understand, put things into their proper perspective and to just move on.
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