Hi lovely turdles!
. I'm failing miserably at catchup here so just want to comment on this one while it's still open lol.
I logged on I think midnight tue or something after checking the abusers insta, and the Aliceabuses one and say
tit had gone down. had a 6am start and a heavy few days ahead but I had to read the transcripts that our intrepid and dedicated lawyer types here so very kindly broke speed limits and/or forked out hard earned cash to provide to us all for the greater good. Echoing all the thanks and huge gratitude from other turds to you all. Special mention to
@Hiraeth, who still rocks my favorite avatar ( Lagertha, I love you forever even though you are a fictional character cast by one of my best friends
)
I read and cried for about 3 hours ( so much for my earlier comment before on saying I don't take this stuff to heart lol. As with most of us here ( bar the odd monkey), I'm willing to be corrected, admit when I'm wrong or my emotions have run wild! I mean, at 47 I'm still learning so much from all of you, younger and older, about the intricacies and workings of narcs and abusers, even after therapy and life experience and all that I've shared here that has happened in my little life.
What gets to me even more about it all is the understanding that so many good folks here are triggered/affected so hard by this situation because of their own lived experience. I'm empathising so much for so many gorgeous souls that I've never met, and am never likely to meet IRL, because I know that everything about this affects you all in myriad ways, on so many levels. I'm kind of feeling a vindication for, not just Yobee, his/their families and loved ones, but also all y'all ( I'm sorry because I know that's a US southern expression but I always think it kind of wraps everyone that's cared about in a collective hug!). So many here have called, speculated on what's up with that abuser and it always made sense, I always agreed that so much dud, but there was always a but of me saying, well, let's just reserve a tiny bit of judgement, maybe it could be a bit of speculation and the inference, though sound, could still be a bit off base because they aren't actually there in person.
Now that's blown outta the water with a ton of depth charges ( last court submissions). I swear on Thor's hammer, if I had you guys as friends, there is nothing I couldn't do in my life . You are that good. I think you are amazing, so very many of you here. Obviously the regular posters who are the backbone of these threads, and who bring so many different generations snd varied opinions on the sane subject. But also those with specialist knowledge, varied up by great data, examples, receipts. The occasional posters, who bring great insights too, sometimes new perspective. The jokers, who bring much needed levity to often serious topics and can deftly lift the mood. Even the FMs, who only serve to counterbalance and show the sheer stupidity of the wilfully ignorant .
its a microcosm of the wider world, and as someone who, through circumstances, personality, and sometimes design, can be quite insular often, is a wonderful, and frankly life affirming place to be.
Enough bloody rambling from me. Abuser Alice, I have a 156 IQ. I'm pretty smart, if you measure things that way, but in this room here, I'm very much not in so many ways, and in IQ too I bet. I'm just fine with that, because I actually respect, honour and love my fellow humans, and like so many before us all have said in various different ways, wisdom and knowledge are different. wisdom comes from acknowledgement of how little you really know, and ( paraphrasing ever so slightly) if you're a massive abusing
bleep, you'll never be truly wise, loved or happy. Peace out Turds, I need to chill ( literally, I've just realised the ancient blow heater I used last winter is also a cooling fan and I'm like a pig in
tit here the last hour wallwallowing in the cooling breeze. its like 20c or something, but the heat in Ireland is in the 20s this week, we aren't used to this, my house is a sweatbox when it hits 18c outside and I haven't been abroad in ages and have never been such a porker or in peri menopause before so quit the eye rolling hot climate dwellers. I've lived and worked in plenty of hot countries in my life, but I was young, sporty, fit, healthy and you all have many aircon buildings to pop into. Believe me, it makes a difference
).