I’d bring my own disposable bbq to avoid the queues. I mean I’ve got my own food so I may as well at this pointI'm imagining a queue of people all lined up with their cooler boxes of burgers and sausages
Furious at someone who got parked 30 secs before you so are 3 ahead in the queue
Sorry not helpful at all but it has made me laugh
Has your friend asked you to bring the charcoal too?Ridiculous personRight this is a partial vent/partial am I being a tad precious?
A few weeks back my friend invited me to her bday party. I said great, I'm free and looking forward to it. It's a BBQ at hers so I asked, because this is what you, do you want us to bring.
Now when I'm invited to BBQ etc I of course bring stuff. We actually had a BBQ recently and although our friends brought stuff we wanted to put on a spread for them as they're our guests and we are hosts so didn't assume ppl would bring all the food/drink.
Anyway fast forward to today. I've just received a group message from my friend with a long list of requirements and instructions for the dayand it's got my back up and irritated me but I don't know quite why.
Firstly I'm now in a big WhatsApp group with randoms who can see me and my number. I find this intrusive.
Amongst The instructions are very detailed and we've been told if we want food/drink to bring a main, a side and our own drinks.
We've also been instructed that we must take a lateral flow test before we're allowed to attend.
This is where I get irritated, I feel like I'm at school or work! I don't like this idea of being told to do this in a social setting with friends. I'm double jabbed and appreciate the reason but If you're uncomfortable with mixing then don't organise a party during a pandemic, surely.
I know it's common sense BUT maybe it's the way we've been instructed.
If my friend had said in the initial invite I will expect you to take lateral flow test and be up front I'd know where I stand.
It's put me right off! I think it's the forced, most teacher type instructions and expectations that we have to do this.
I know there is logic to the test but I feel it's cheeky and not how you treat adults in a social setting and to tell us to bring a main, side and drinks again.....idk I just wouldn't dream of doing this.
I know ppl would bring stuff but wouldn't instruct them.
Rant over.
Just wanted to say thank you for being so compassionate towards others. I think it’s so lovely to see. I’m only starting to socialise again after having treatment during lockdown and it’s so nice to see that some lovely people do understandI think the lateral flows are a good idea, whether you feel annoyed by her asking or not. We don’t know what other conversations she’s had with others wanting to go e.g maybe there is someone going who, for the first time ever since the pandemic is socialising and they’re understandably very very anxious. We don’t know what other strangers are going through. I know several people with blood cancer atm and to look at them you’d never know. With everybody going having done a neg lateral flow that massively eases someone’s nerves and anxiety.
As for the food instructions - now that’s cheeky the way it has been done! When we host a BBQ we lay it on ourselves and if guests say what shall we bring we usually say just yourself thanks! Or usually a few will insist on bringing something they’ve made to add to the food buffet! Her demands on the food front are a little annoying yes. Digging further though maybe she’s hard up but at the same time desperate to see all of her friends. Is she like this usually?
Although, it's quite common for people to bring something like a pack of sausages and some buns in case the host isn't very generous with what they have provided. (You can tell we've been to a barbecue where there hasn't been enough for everyone ha )OP I would just say thanks for the invite but something has came up and I can't attend. I think the food thing is a bit strange, It would be a no from me. Just seems like so much effort for a bbq.
yeah I would bring some sausages, burger baps or a box of beer but think I would draw the line at a starter, main desert, side and whatever else the OP had saidAlthough, it's quite common for people to bring something like a pack of sausages and some buns in case the host isn't very generous with what they have provided. (You can tell we've been to a barbecue where there hasn't been enough for everyone ha )
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