Mercedes12
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If she has the chance to help your family out and make life a bit easier and chooses not to, that says more about her than you and you'd have every right to find her actions selfish.Thank you, I hope she is but like you say, everyone is different and if she decides not to share the money, I will deal with it. I can’t be mad at her but I’ll probably be annoyed for a while lol.
I think I feel so frustrated because, as you say, you would love to help your mum out if the opportunity arose, and I’m exactly the same. I love making other people happy in that regard.
It’s a shame that she currently doesn’t feel the same way as I do, and I’m trying not to hold out any hope that her way of thinking changes in the coming weeks.
Reading everyone’s differing opinions on this has really given me food for thought. I’m a lot more relaxed about it than I was at the start of this thread lol
Even so, just be content in the knowledge that you pay your own way. Like one the previous posters said - there are some people who take constant hand outs from parents. I like to think these people don't know the true value of money or how to manage their finances independently so although I'm bitter I don't have this financial security, I'm glad I can look after myself financially and don't rely on my parents in adulthood. You should feel the same!