Downtoearth
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My father in law died several years ago and left his estate to my mother in law, from whom he was seperated. At the time we were seriously struggling financially after my husband lost his job to care for me during a serious illness.
Did we see a penny? Not one.
Does my mother in law still see us or her grandchildren? Nope.
She spent the money (ALL of it - it was my husband's childhood home she sold) on many luxury holidays to Australia, Egypt, Canada, the Caribbean while we lived on JSA and food banks.
She didn't save a penny and is now in a council house as she's broke again.
Money may not be the be all and end all but how you treat it says a lot about you as a person. If you are really struggling (genuinely, not just luxuries) it seems very unfair of your mum. Regardless of my children's income I'd always share any windfall I had with them
Did we see a penny? Not one.
Does my mother in law still see us or her grandchildren? Nope.
She spent the money (ALL of it - it was my husband's childhood home she sold) on many luxury holidays to Australia, Egypt, Canada, the Caribbean while we lived on JSA and food banks.
She didn't save a penny and is now in a council house as she's broke again.
Money may not be the be all and end all but how you treat it says a lot about you as a person. If you are really struggling (genuinely, not just luxuries) it seems very unfair of your mum. Regardless of my children's income I'd always share any windfall I had with them