I’m sorry but that comes across as so bitter! Just be happy for your mum! My mum has struggled her entire life, she is finally comfortable and can treat herself. I don’t sit there and pity myself for not having her money!I do agree with that but to be fair, she didn’t work for it either.
Wow! Strongly disagree with this, agree she is under no obligation to help, but she's her mum fgs, why wouldn't a mum help her daughter out, especially if she knows her daughter is struggling.Don't go there. You are an adult. She is under no obligation to help you financially. I understand its tough when you are struggling but it's not up to your mum to bail you out.
My parents are forever helping my brother out and do you know what....it makes no bloody difference, he still goes out and spends loads of money and ends up in the same position every month! Why should people bail others out? There’s obviously a reason you are struggling but we don’t know the reason....Wow! Strongly disagree with this, agree she is under no obligation to help, but she's her mum fgs, why wouldn't a mum help her daughter out, especially if she knows her daughter is struggling.
Great example of a very selfish mum right there.
I hope she does the right thing for Christmas and helps her daughter out.
I think if it was me, & my mum didn't help me out, it would change my relationship with her for ever.
I can understand that, to keep bailing children out, I don't agree with.My parents are forever helping my brother out and do you know what....it makes no bloody difference, he still goes out and spends loads of money and ends up in the same position every month! Why should people bail others out? There’s obviously a reason you are struggling but we don’t know the reason....
Credit card debt
Arrears
Just not enough money
It’s simply just not enough money. My husband works full time and I was made redundant a few months ago without warning. Finding a job since has been difficult.My parents are forever helping my brother out and do you know what....it makes no bloody difference, he still goes out and spends loads of money and ends up in the same position every month! Why should people bail others out? There’s obviously a reason you are struggling but we don’t know the reason....
Credit card debt
Arrears
Just not enough money
Hmmm it sure I am that generous, I have one sibling and hate their gutsMy father died a few years ago, I've just been awarded his life insurance, I am technically his only child but I have 5 siblings through my mum and I have split the money between all of us. I don't understand why anyone wouldn't?!
Luckily we're all fairly close so it was a no brainer for us really. I guess if they were twats it would of been differentHmmm it sure I am that generous, I have one sibling and hate their guts
Thank you, I hope she is but like you say, everyone is different and if she decides not to share the money, I will deal with it. I can’t be mad at her but I’ll probably be annoyed for a while lol.I completely see where you are coming from & would feel exactly the same.
My mum does struggle financially as she is single but even on occasions in the past when she has come into money, she has shared as much as she could with me and her other children. Her first instinct would always be to help us out financially and vice versa, if I inherited some money I would love nothing more than giving enough to my Mum to allow her to pay off various bills and live comfortably. I would enjoy that more than spending the money myself.
Everyone is different I suppose but in my family, nobody would even hesitate to share money out to help one another.
I hope your Mum is planning on treating you and her grandchildren for Christmas.
If she has the chance to help your family out and make life a bit easier and chooses not to, that says more about her than you and you'd have every right to find her actions selfish.Thank you, I hope she is but like you say, everyone is different and if she decides not to share the money, I will deal with it. I can’t be mad at her but I’ll probably be annoyed for a while lol.
I think I feel so frustrated because, as you say, you would love to help your mum out if the opportunity arose, and I’m exactly the same. I love making other people happy in that regard.
It’s a shame that she currently doesn’t feel the same way as I do, and I’m trying not to hold out any hope that her way of thinking changes in the coming weeks.
Reading everyone’s differing opinions on this has really given me food for thought. I’m a lot more relaxed about it than I was at the start of this thread lol
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