I'd feel aggrieved, probably moan to my husband and leave it at that.
Everyone is different. Just because you would share the money doesn't mean she should have to. She might be thinking of her future.
You might be in a tight spot now, but you're young and have time to sort it out. She is (I'm assuming) nearer retirement age. This money will be cushioner for her and means she might actually be able to retire at a reasonable age.
The house will be yours, any policies will be yours, you'll have your own windfall one day (I know it's a bit crass to speak about your mother dying, I apologise). Maybe just let your mum be happy with her windfall even if it does niggle a bit.
I've been there. I do not get on with my mother. She even took a payout that was for me. She sold our childhood home to and went into a council house we didn't see a penny. My grandad died, we didn't see the will and got a few hundred pounds. I expect there was a lot more for us and a payout for my daughter but that never came.
It annoyed me at the time, but you know what, I barely think of it now. I have a bit of a relationship with her now for my daughters sake but if I held onto that restment I wouldn't be able to do that.
It's only money. There is always more. I've been well off, I've been so skint I've taped my shoes. Been happy and sad in both situations.
Is your relationship, and your child's relationship with your mother worth damaging by bringing it up for a few grand?
Everyone is different. Just because you would share the money doesn't mean she should have to. She might be thinking of her future.
You might be in a tight spot now, but you're young and have time to sort it out. She is (I'm assuming) nearer retirement age. This money will be cushioner for her and means she might actually be able to retire at a reasonable age.
The house will be yours, any policies will be yours, you'll have your own windfall one day (I know it's a bit crass to speak about your mother dying, I apologise). Maybe just let your mum be happy with her windfall even if it does niggle a bit.
I've been there. I do not get on with my mother. She even took a payout that was for me. She sold our childhood home to and went into a council house we didn't see a penny. My grandad died, we didn't see the will and got a few hundred pounds. I expect there was a lot more for us and a payout for my daughter but that never came.
It annoyed me at the time, but you know what, I barely think of it now. I have a bit of a relationship with her now for my daughters sake but if I held onto that restment I wouldn't be able to do that.
It's only money. There is always more. I've been well off, I've been so skint I've taped my shoes. Been happy and sad in both situations.
Is your relationship, and your child's relationship with your mother worth damaging by bringing it up for a few grand?