A lot of the views on HE are down almost entirely to assumption. The assumption that he purposely picked someone vulnerable, the assumption that he knew the money was going towards supporting a drug habit, the assumption that DMs he sent had a sexual undertone, the assumption that he’s going to, at some point in the future, use his mental health as an excuse for his behaviour.
Let’s make a bunch of different assumptions for fun. Let’s assume that he only had contact with the young man after the age of 18 (and for the purposes of this the parents are lying, and young person is telling the truth), let’s assume that he met him via only fans where 1000s of men pay to see pictures of female teenagers every month, let’s assume that HE didn’t have a physical relationship with the teenager or even a particularly personal one - just a liking for that person which meant he spent all that money on him, if that were true how would he even know that the young man had drug issues? let’s also assume the messages we’ve seen are innocent. We can also, for the hell of it, assume his wife knew all along and they have an open relationship.
If all those assumptions are true (which I admit is unlikely) the man’s biggest crime is being a closeted gay or bisexual man. And that he likes people on the younger side.
Assumptions go both ways and it’s possible the truth is somewhere in the middle. Or the truth could be terrible and much worse than we could ever imagine. But that’s the point, it’s all assumptions at the moment and we basically know nothing.