You seem too nice to be her friend! Why waste your time on someone who looks down on you? That isn’t a good friend. I wouldn’t even give her a fiver.I think I’m going to go with £100… she is my oldest friend but a huge snob (I say that only partially with love) and does have a bit of a tendency to think she’s above me (gets it from her mother and trying to impress her well off fiancé!) I know in my heart of hearts that whatever I give probably won’t be enough, she does seem to look down on me and will assume my amount is tight no matter what it is glad the common consensus seems to be that will be enough! We are paying to travel to the destination, and myself and another bridesmaid split the cost of her hen do between us (was just us 3, was super small as in raging COVID times)
thank you so much for the advice! I’ll jump back on and let you know how she reacts…
Absolutely this. In fact what I'd do is something I did once to my stuck up sister in law who did ask for money and she gave the reason a few here have given "We have everything we could possibly need and I don't want anything mismatched."[
You seem too nice to be her friend! Why waste your time on someone who looks down on you? That isn’t a good friend. I wouldn’t even give her a fiver.
Agreed!!! I had a “good friend” who had the snobbiest upbringing imaginable. She was wealthy and felt entitled to everything under the sun including wedding gifts. Instead of writing thank you cards she gave the bridesmaids canvas totes with the date of her wedding on it[
You seem too nice to be her friend! Why waste your time on someone who looks down on you? That isn’t a good friend. I wouldn’t even give her a fiver.
"All brass and no class" my Gran would have called that.Agreed!!! I had a “good friend” who had the snobbiest upbringing imaginable. She was wealthy and felt entitled to everything under the sun including wedding gifts. Instead of writing thank you cards she gave the bridesmaids canvas totes with the date of her wedding on it
Slightly off topic but any suggestions for a small keepsake type gift for a close relative's wedding? We are giving money as the actual present but I would like them to have a little something to keep and think they would too.
You really don't need friends who look down on you.I think I’m going to go with £100… she is my oldest friend but a huge snob (I say that only partially with love) and does have a bit of a tendency to think she’s above me (gets it from her mother and trying to impress her well off fiancé!) I know in my heart of hearts that whatever I give probably won’t be enough, she does seem to look down on me and will assume my amount is tight no matter what it is glad the common consensus seems to be that will be enough! We are paying to travel to the destination, and myself and another bridesmaid split the cost of her hen do between us (was just us 3, was super small as in raging COVID times)
thank you so much for the advice! I’ll jump back on and let you know how she reacts…
I'm not married and haven't really given it much thought, but I think if I were to ask for money, it would be because there will always be people who give gifts regardless and I rather have money than some more wine glasses or another toaster, etc.Serious question and not getting at anyone, if the couple getting married have everything they need, so don’t want actual gifts, why would they ask for *money?
*assuming they haven’t said it’s towards a honeymoon.
Some friends of ours got married, they too said they had everything they needed and instead said if anyone really wanted to give them something then please would they donate that amount to a charity. I thought that was lovely.
An address embosser makes a nice giftSlightly off topic but any suggestions for a small keepsake type gift for a close relative's wedding? We are giving money as the actual present but I would like them to have a little something to keep and think they would too.
One of our evening guests bought us mugs with Mr *surname initial* and Mrs *surname initial* that was 3 years ago, and it’s one of my favourite mugsSlightly off topic but any suggestions for a small keepsake type gift for a close relative's wedding? We are giving money as the actual present but I would like them to have a little something to keep and think they would too.
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