It really isn't, most people will expect to buy a gift when they attend a wedding & would rather it be something useful/that the couple want. I also think these days people do stray from gift lists/requests & buy what they feel comfortable with. A friend of mine is getting married abroad, charging people £50 per head to attend the wedding breakfast on top of their travelling/accommodation expenses & asked for money in their invitation-now that is plain rude. This trip has cost us the best part of £1500 & I know for sure I won't be buying anything but a card!It's rude to point out that you want 'money only'. It puts a lot on pressure who may not be able to afford to give a large amount as a gift.
When we got married we didn't mention anything about gifts or cash (I imagine most couples don't) We were living together before we got married and I would say we probably got about 80% cash/20% gifts, and the gifts were mostly from older people.
I have no problem with giving money as a gift (it's what I always do) but I think it's rude to ask for it.
I was exactly like that - we’ve lived together for years - got everything we need . we had a honeymoon poem that asked if people would like to get us something , then something towards a honeymoon meal or a honeymoon event would be appreciatedI’ve asked for money as I have everything for a house that I could possibly need and I hate mismatch items. My wedding has cost under £2,500 for around 30 guests - we could have gone for a higher budget but thought what’s the point. All paid in full no borrowing money etc. If people have a problem with giving money just give us a card better than some tat we wouldn’t use
A large sum is expected at Irish weddings isn't it? My brother's wife is Irish and I've been to a few weddings over there and from what I've seen it looks like €150-€200 is the sort of standard amount.Money is a standard thing to give with irish events. Id give £50 max.
Yeah it can be a fair wad given out!A large sum is expected at Irish weddings isn't it? My brother's wife is Irish and I've been to a few weddings over there and from what I've seen it looks like €150-€200 is the sort of standard amount.
I agree! Of all the weddings I’ve been to recently, only one had a registry. The items on there were extortionate.. all plain white pasta bowls and bedding from the white company. I thought if they were buying it for themselves they’d go to IKEA like the rest of us.. to me that’s more annoying that £50 in an envelope and a nice card!I got a wedding invitation with a gift register recently and I actually thought that was tacky. They’ve already purchased two new houses since they’ve been together so I doubt it’s really things they need.
That is sad. Similar happened to me at my brother's wedding. I did the brides makeup and gifted them money for their honeymoon, I didn't get a thank you for either and regardless of it being family I definitely regret gifting what I did, there's just no excuse for it.I went to a family members wedding in May I gave £50 and I also took a card with money inside from my mum. She never got a thank you and I regret giving £50 now.
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