Have you ever known someone who went missing or was murdered?

Prgirl_cesca said:

A friend of a family member was murdered in 2000. The wrong man was sent down and was exonorated by a BBC documentary a decade later! Then advances in DNA caught the real murderer.

It was a massive headfuck. I was a young teenager at the time but her and her friend were all 18/19 and it massively changed their lives forever. Some went on to great things because of it (police force etc), some turned into alcoholics. People don't think how it affects their friendship groups.

Also, we all believed for like 10yrs the wrong guy did it!!!! Just goes to show if you are fed certain evidence from the police and hidden from some you can come to the wrong conclusion.



I followed that case so closely, we were in Perugia only a couple of weeks afterwards. Everyone always forgets Meredith. Always.

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Just catching up on this thread. Are you from MK? If it's the same one, I was really young when it happened but as a teenager worked in a restaurant and the guy that turned out to be the killer worked in the kitchen when I was a waitress there. And girls actually complained about him being a creep!

3nidc0leslaw said:

Reminds me of when Holly Wells and Jessica Chapman were missing, and the media/news always paid more attention to Holly, as Jessica's family were more working class.

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Is this not because Holly’s family were more open to the media/news, whereas Jessica’s were much more private and decided not to comment as much? I specifically remember once the bodies had been found and sadly confirmed to be the girls, that Jessica’s family released a statement saying something like they no longer wished to comment publicly about the case, and that they wished to grieve in private.

That wasn’t a dig, just a genuine question btw

paigelemonade said:

That wasn’t a dig, just a genuine question btw

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I’d like to think you are correct and it was the family choice, so many times ppl haven’t got press coverage They may have needed to help the case of a murdered or missing person as they don’t fit the bill X

Sorry, I think I got it confused with something I read about the comparison of the Madeleine McCann and Shannon Matthews searches years ago.

I have been reading this thread for a while, and I had totally forgotten that I went to school with a girl who was murdered in the Isle of Man! I'm not from there originally, but I lived there for a year or so when I was 12/13. I remember Samantha being a bit wild, but I got on well with her and she made me laugh. It's so sad and tragic, she was only 16. Not sure how to link articles sorry, but her name was Samantha Barton, so if you google her name along with IOM, the story should come up.

Goodchilddiamond5 said:

Have never spoken about this before but last year in February I went on a date with a guy I met via tinder, anyway he was really weird and creepy when we met up and nothing like his tinder profile, anyway after me trying to be nice and make conservation I asked him about his family, he said his parents died in a car crash when he was 16 and the rest of family lived so far away he lost touch with them all after he said all this he went even weirder and wouldn’t look me in the eye so I made my excuses and left the date, when I got home I decided I’d google his name and I found out he had murdered his mum after his dad had died in a car accident, his mum lost her mind with the grief and he stabbed her one night and hid her body in the shed! He was 15 when it happened and he told the courts his mum had been abusing him so he wasn’t charged with anything! So no wonder the rest of his family have nothing to do with him! Safe to say I deleted tinder after this!!

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Whoa, dating can be such a scary process.

My old house I moved out of when I was 7 recently had a murder suicide happen. A mum was scared her daughters where going to be took off her so she killed them then herself. Think they where only 3 and 1

emmer_moans said:

Whoa, dating can be such a scary process.

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Yeh it really scares me risks I’ve taken in the past while dating, even just to be polite.. it is terrifying

Just remembered someone (I didn't personally know him, I heard it from a friend) that asked out one of his colleagues out for a drink after she had quit her job at a small accountancy firm. She was moving to New York as she had been offered a job at a bank in the World Trade Center. 6 months later she was killed on September 11th, 2001. She was only in her early 30s.

My uncle got caught up in a shooting at work. He was an attorney for a well known firm in SA. A disgruntled ex-worker came in with gun and started shooting. My uncle and his secretary barricaded in his office but they both still got shot. My uncle survived unfortunately his secretary and several other people died.

A family member was killed with a shotgun by her Husband in their home. He then shot himself.
He was well known in the area so had a big funeral.
It was a joint funeral for the both of them

JLXRD said:

A dear friend of mine was murdered in 2018 by a man she was house sharing with. He attempted to violently sexually assault her and when she fought back he stabbed and killed her. They found him wondering round the local gardens with a knife wound to his leg. They then went to his address where they found violent porn and paedophilia open on his laptop and then found her body.

He's now in prison. She was in her early 30s and is dearly missed. It has never really sunk in for me that this truly happened or she is gone.

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Was this in Bournemouth? A girl that worked at the same place as me (different department) got killed in the very same way.

watermelon_lemonade said:

Was this in Bournemouth? A girl that worked at the same place as me (different department) got killed in the very same way.

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What has been most shocking for me about this thread is in how many of the male on female crimes are so similar in nature. Its something I always knew happened but seeing all these stories at the same time just makes it hit home. So awful

Missing yes!! Turns out he ran away due to stealing £££££££ from work. Whoops!

watermelon_lemonade said:

Was this in Bournemouth? A girl that worked at the same place as me (different department) got killed in the very same way.

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Yes it was.

JLXRD said:

Yes it was.

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So sorry for your loss.

Kea11y said:

My old house I moved out of when I was 7 recently had a murder suicide happen. A mum was scared her daughters where going to be took off her so she killed them then herself. Think they where only 3 and 1

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That is so sad.

I lived in a house where the previous tenant had killed himself and the vibe was horrible. A month or so down the line I found out why it felt soul sapping and why it was sat empty for a year, no local person wanting it and it made sense, the previous tenant was a raging alcoholic, ended up being a hermit in the back bedroom for a long while while drinking herself to death. Unable to cope with his mothers death, weeks later, her adult son hung himself on the stairs.

Speaking of which, several years after I moved out of that house of horrors, the sister of the lad who killed himself (different mums) was found dead one morning. She had gone to bed with her boyfriend and simply didnt wake up. I remember alot of fingers being pointed at the boyfriend at the time as they were misusing prescription drugs.

I taught the grandson of one of the Croydon tram crash victims. Was so tragic

OK I don't know anyone who was murdered thankfully but I've an interesting story from my town. So years ago a woman was murdered in her home, a violent stabbing and her poor mother who lived in a house beside it found her body. The entire town suspected the husband but the DNA found didn't match and they had no evidence.
So a few years ago totally unrelated, a young woman was found unconscious in another county. She was badly bruised on her face and had no recollection of what had happened. It was thought she had been attacked so they found out the bus she had been on and they got DNA from all the people who travelled on the same bus as her. Anyway it turned out that she had actually had a seisure and collapsed and hadn't been attacked but when the dna was being tested one of the samples was flagged from a crime from from 15 years previous. It turns out that a lecturer from a college the girl goes to, who travels to his job everyday on the bus, was the guy who murdered the woman in her home. He was only a teen/early 20s at the time and a friend of the husband had transferred a few thousand euro to him. He was arrested and charged and the husbands friend too but still no sign of the husband being done for it yet. The property the house was on was worth a lot of money as the ESB wanted to buy it but the wife wouldn't sell it.